As I said a few days ago, winter is the best time for discovering great movies.
This morning I watched “The Other F Word” which was a spectacular documentary about punk rock dads and their families. (So the other F word was “Fatherhood.”)
I’m a big fan of punk rock, but this movie was aimed at the generation after mine. While I loved The Clash, Sex Pistols, Chelsea, the Dickies, etc., this movie was geared at the next generation: Pennywise, Blink 182 and NOFX (but had some old school bands I loved like Black Flag — in the very beginning pre-Henry Rollins, which I preferred — and Flea from Red Hot Chili Peppers).
The movie was unbelievably touching and in a way heart-breaking. These bad ass punks totally turned to mush when they spoke about their families and hating being on the road because they missed them and missed out on so much of their children’s lives.
But what really got me all choked up was how many of these musicians came from broken homes and their hurts and struggles because of it.
While I’m not a dad or a punk musician (well, I was as a teen), I still related to the movie so much because it has a lot to say about growing as a person. I’ve confided to some of my good friends that I think a lot of my other friends didn’t keep in touch with me because they expected me to be a punk rock chick for the rest of my life and not change, grow or get married. (Which is sad, on their part). Moving on is a beautiful, euphoric thing. Those who get it, know it!
You can definitely grow as a person and still have punk rock in your heart. True punk rock means standing up for yourself not just as a teenager, but as an adult and what you should be doing as an adult: being responsible for the best interest of those you love.
I have the highest respect for those who left their bands to be with their families, even taking on working class jobs instead of being a musician and not looking back. These punk rock dads were trying to give their kids the support that they lacked from their own dads while growing up, which is so inspiring. You go Dad!
This world definitely needs more punk rock dads!