(But not everyone deserves to know!)
Many years ago a co-worker told me this most amazing, off the hook Valentine’s Day her husband had planned for her.
I was still single and in awe of their love and the generous, creative gift he was giving her. This couple also had the most beautiful little boy. What a gorgeous, gorgeous family — all three of them!
I was not only thrilled to hear about her Valentine’s Day, but honored that she liked me enough to share the news with me! Why? Because I was the only person she told about the trip. She didn’t want to tell others because she feared jealousy. But I was trusted because I’m not that way and I can be totally happy for someone else. And I sure was!
When people fall in love, they want to share it to the world! And they do. Wedding vows are said out loud for all to hear. Hands are held in public. Some even make-out in their cars during red lights. Those in love float around with such a glow on their faces, there is no denying who is in love! And all our loved ones are happy for us when we fall in love.
But not everyone is in love with love. And now that I’m happily married — I totally understand where this girl was coming from in not wanting to cast her precious jewels before swine.
The green-eyed monster and bitter pill gets some people BIG TIME. And it never ceases to amaze me what creepy bullshit comes out of people’s mouths. They make their envy so obvious!
Sometimes it takes me awhile to pick up on this ugly behavior because I see the good in everyone. But once it’s evident that someone is jealous of my relationship with my husband, I clamp my mouth shut — not only about him but about everything else in my life. Because if someone is jealous about love, they’ll be jealous of other aspects of your life too, such as career, creativity, your other friendships, maybe money if you have it (I sure don’t! LOL!)
I will not share what I do on weekends with a bitter person. I don’t share the creative things I’ve done with my husband. And if a jealous person asks about him, I’ll simply give a sharp one-word answer and change the subject.
It will go something like this:
Q: “How was your weekend?”
A: “Terrific…………” (word dragged out to put emphasis on: “I don’t want to talk about it to you, please go away” as I turn my head and make no eye contact) ….
I just refuse to participate in negativity. No ifs, ands or buts about it!
Misery may love company, but I’m sorry, I’m just not miserable. Get over it!
I hate acting like this because by nature, I’m a sweet, honest and loving person. Just a mere mortal on this planet who is happily in love (isn’t that what life is all about?), not just with my husband, but with life itself!
I’m certainly not a celebrity desperately seeking privacy! I’d love to just live naturally as possible, talking casually about my life, my friends, my pets, my family, and of course my husband.
I hate secrets. I hate censoring conversation. I hate trying to avoid conversation with certain people.
However, when it comes to jealousy, there really is something to that saying, “Do not cast your jewels before swine.”
Love is something very precious and special, that should be cherished and held close to your heart and I just can’t see sharing something about my relationship to someone that’s going to be resentful, envious and try to mock what I have.
But the beauty is, I have many friends who are also in beautiful relationships that I can share things with.
And I thank God for them!
And I also thank God for those who aren’t in beautiful relationships — YET (but they will be!)
Because it just shows that not everyone is jealous and there are SO MANY fantastic people out there
People who know that there is so much LOVE in this world for everyone, including themselves someday
(YES! That’s what I always thought for me!)
God provides to all who truly want.
And if it’s love you want, there is PLENTY out there, just waiting for YOU!
(And when it happens please feel free to share with me, because I’ll be the happiest for YOU!)