Supermarket Bullying Should Be Treated as a Crime!

Published November 21, 2016 by Maryanne

supermarket-bullying

Yesterday should have been a nice day. In the afternoon I went to a Buddhist meditation, and at night my husband was taking me out to dinner. In-between I had to pick up a few items at Trader Joe’s. My husband forewarned me, “This is Thanksgiving week and it’s going to be mobbed.”

Crowds never bothered me. I’ve been going to concerts since I was a teenager. As a young punk rocker, I got banged, pushed against the stage, and ended up with battle scars. It was all part of the fun.

But shopping in a grocery store, as a middle-aged woman, should not be punk rock. It should be a pleasant experience. From my 30s onward, I had so many fights with inconsiderate, ignorant people who push their cart into you, without saying, “Excuse me” or even a mere “I’m sorry.”

Listen bitches — for once and for all,  I have every right to shop in a supermarket — even a crowded one. You are no better than me, or anyone else. Just because I’m a nice, smiling person (some say “too nice”) it shouldn’t mean that I am a target for assholes. Put on your big girl pants and learn to have manners — and patience! Wait your fucking turn. Am I too slow for you? I’m sorry, but I READ labels. I want to know my produce is local and/or organic. It’s imperative that I know how much sugar and carbs are in my frozen meals. Diabetes runs in my family and I have to be careful. If that’s not enough to give you an ounce of compassion, you’re a real loser!

I’ve boycotted places like Whole Foods, and now Trader Joe’s, for not having proper security in their stores. And I will continue to do so until I feel SAFE shopping in these places again.

Yesterday I was pushed TWICE at the Trader Joe’s in Millburn, New Jersey. Once by a woman much younger; and once by a woman much older.

Let me ask you, ladies (make that “ladies?” with a question mark because being so damn rude doesn’t give you the title of “lady” — you’re more like a beast! In fact, the Pit bulls next store at the Pet Smart were way better behaved than both of you!) … what makes you so much better than me that gives you the “right” to push me out of your way? HUH?

I’d love an answer, but I’m sure most of the people reading this are polite people because assholes never seek things to read that would make them a better person. Because if they did, the world would be a better place to live in. And it’s not.

Bullying over food? Imagine that.

You’re shopping in a middle to way-upper class area. There is enough food for everyone. Oh, I forget, you’re busy. Let me school you on something, bitch, EVERYONE is busy! That’s the kind of world we live in. A busy, busy, busy world.

So, to the very next person who pushes me in a supermarket, I’m going to call the management — or better yet, the cops — and have your sorry ass escorted out of the store. Putting your hand on another person to move her out of YOUR way is a violation! And I will not try to correct you anymore. Whoever raised you raised a nasty, selfish, ignorant person — and you WILL be stopped. Instead of taking your crap, I’m going as high as I can go, to get this selfish behavior stopped.

Is this what we are teaching our children? That it’s okay to put your hands on people, to push people, and to psychologically upset other people, just so YOU can be first in this unpolite me-me-me world?

Sorry, not on my time. Nasty bitches, beware, you are so over!

Please sign petition to Corey Booker! Women should feel safe shopping for groceries! https://www.change.org/p/corey-booker-supermarket-bullying-should-be-treated-as-a-crime

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta is an author and public speaker. Her first book is “On the Guest List: Adventures of a Music Journalist” and deals with anti-bullying. Available on Amazon, in paperback only: https://www.amazon.com/Guest-List-Adventures-Music-Journalist/dp/162903908X

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3 comments on “Supermarket Bullying Should Be Treated as a Crime!

  • Hello MaryAnne,

    I am sorry to hear about your difficult experience in stores which obviously tolerate this unsavory behavior.
    There should be laws in place. There should be signs warning that this behavior has ramifications.

    I was speaking to my partner about what had happened to you. He reminded me, when we lived in Brooklyn briefly, and I bring a self proclaimed California girl, found the people in the certain stores were miserable, self entitled & out right mean… California/ Florida has always been a pleasant experience for me.

    Perhaps in bigger cities and areas close are an issue. Everyone is rushing around like a machine, not enjoying and taking time to look at a product like you do.
    If you chose to review ingredients & take your time, that should be respected.
    It’s your time…Not to be disrupted or rudely moved about.

    Take care of you…You are who you are & shame on them.

    • Thanks for your very kind words, Sibel. I have noticed that in other areas people are so much nicer (and patient) which is why I am starting small with this and first making it a NJ issue. You never know what a difference you can make in the world, after all it wasn’t too long ago when stinky smoking was still allowed in restaurants. Fingers crossed! Love you! ❤ xo

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