I am a sensitive person — and proud of it.
My sensitivity makes me a caring, creative, loyal, passionate, hard-working person. When I wake up in the morning, I look in the mirror and can honestly say, “I like me.” Not to say I’m perfect. I made dumb mistakes, but will be the first to say when I’m wrong.
Then there are the times when I’m right. And being right, I have to stand up for myself.
Defending yourself — and your rights — is something a person with strong character does. Not everyone can do that. People who speak up are those who aim for a better place in life. They are dreamers who, at best, want a better world, and at the very least, strive for respect in their own little corner of the world.
That said, when someone says you are “delicate” because you don’t want to be treated like a dishrag, DO call them on their bullshit. It doesn’t make sense that someone can be downright nasty, but then if you give them a taste of their own medicine (and in a polite way, as most sensitive people do — unless they are pushed to the limit; and everyone has their limits) then they get all defensive. Is that the pot calling the kettle black? Yes!
Will “they” ever get it? Probably not.
Some people are just conditioned to blame — or bully — others for what they lack. It’s Real Life 101. The honest reason for this is because they are too lazy to work on themselves. With lack of elevation, weak minds do what they do best: manipulate, flock to a clique, lie about others to get their way, and if you don’t go with their program they will call you names like “delicate.” Meanwhile, they are the real fragile ones because they lack the knowledge (and desire) to become grown-ups. They live in a fantasy world — a world where they are always right. Their pride is pseudo. They wear masks to disguise their true fear.
When confronted with such types, the best thing any sane person could do is get away from them because you’ll never win. You could kill them with kindness, but that only goes so far. Name calling bullies and sensitive people will never mix well because sensitive people are the real movers and shakers of the world, while bullies are limited to being big fish in very small ponds. Don’t believe me? Just Google the famous person you admire most. Chances are they will admit to being bullied for being different or shy or thinking out of the box.
Have you been told you’re “too sensitive”? If so, be proud to carry that flag. It means you’ll go far in life! Continue to be sensitive; and continue to fight for your right to do so. That is true courage. And it’s far from being “weak” or “delicate.”
Maryanne Christiano Mistretta is the author of “On the Guest List: Adventures of a Music Journalist” a book about her struggles with being bullied. It’s available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Guest-List-Adventures-Music-Journalist/dp/162903908X
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