Just Call Me Honey!

Published February 21, 2021 by Maryanne

Blink your eye and there’s yet another thing that offends people — particularly women.

I guess I missed the memo that “honey” is now offensive. I did not know that. However some young feminist pointed out to me that I am “part of the problem” because I don’t see how “honey” is offensive.

I’m sorry. I don’t.

Maybe it’s generational, as I am 57-years-old. But I’ve been called “honey” by both men and women since I was a little girl and I think it’s absolutely adorable. One time I was called “honey bunny” by an older gum-cracking waitress. It brought me right back to the 1960s. I felt special.

Anytime I hear “honey” I think of something positive — the land of milk and honey or an incredible woman, like in the song “Honey” by Bobby Goldsboro. The young bride died young and he is longing for her. Honey is all things good.

Other great songs with the word “honey” include: “Just Like Honey” by Jesus and Mary Chain; “Sugar Sugar” – oh, honey honey by Ron Dante; and “Honey Pie” by the Beatles.

Angel guitarist Punky Meadows calls his lady friends “honey” on Facebook. I’d be honored if Punky Meadows called me “honey.”

Honey is a term of endearment. It means you are awesome. When someone calls you “honey” it means they like you. But sadly, now you can’t even say nice things like “honey” or “sweetie” in a work environment. Instead we get the cold “ma’am.” And to me, THAT is disturbing. People have been so brainwashed about what is politically correct, that we’ve become so robotic. It’s a wonder young people even pair up anymore because there is nothing sexy about the way they talk. They are so homogenized.

And before you start thinking of me as some misogyny-tolerating Trump supporter — I’m not. However, I am a person who thinks for myself and doesn’t jump on the politically correct band wagon when I feel it’s not necessary. If being feminist means standing up for what you believe in, I will call my own party on their bullshit. And for the record, I had this conversation with a female Democratic feminist last night who agrees with me 100 percent.

With all the issues we COULD fight about, nitpicking over something harmless like “honey,” YOU — not me — are part of the problem. So, keep stressing yourself out over it. Me, I’ll just enjoy it. Just call me Honey!

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is available for blogging, ghost writing, writing. She is also available for book signings and motivational speaking engagements (via ZOOM during covid). She is now coaching aspiring writers via ZOOM.

Maryanne is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: Love Cats

13 comments on “Just Call Me Honey!

  • I agree with you 100%-I take no offense to someone calling me “honey” and I am guilty of saying it to others from time to time. I’m sick of it and tired of people thinking you have to be politically correct with every word.

    Have a nice day “honey” Take care neighbor.

    Xxo Lori

    Sent from my iPhone

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  • Hi Maryanne ! I hope everything’s fine for you and your husband !
    Wow, seems like everything’s slowly becoming offensive right now ! I’ve recently read that in some American, Canadian and Australian Colleges, they made students and communicators use “inclusive” language, leading them to ban “offensive” words like “guys” for “hey guys !”(instead they have to say “folks”), policeman, fireman, mankind, husband, wife, chairman and so on !
    Where is freedom of expression if one can’t even use the words he or she wants to ?
    This has gone way too far for me, despite the fact I regard myself as a feminist.

    • Yeah, it’s just crazy. I feel like I don’t want to talk anymore because anything out of your mouth could be attempted as wrong. People drain my soul.

      Thanks for getting it — and cheers from USA! (Yes, we are doing great! Hope you are too!)

      • To answer your last question, yes, I’m doing fine, thank you, despite my weariness of the Covid disease. I’m tired of not being allowed to do so many things : going out after 6pm, having lunch in a restaurant, going to pubs, discos, concerts, parties, walking in the streets without having to wear the mask…
        How is it in the US ?

      • Some states are doing bad, like New York, but New Jersey our numbers are going down. It hasn’t been a bad year for those who managed to stay healthy. We were able to enjoy outdoor concerts in social distancing circles and outdoor dining. Once the weather got colder, we’ve been going to restaurants indoors, which is nice with socially distanced seating — more romantic! We can walk the streets without masks, but I always put mine on if I’m approaching people, it’s the kind thing to do. All the retail stores are open too.

    • P.S. – I am making light of it. I’m currently working on a book where a character is so over-the-top hypersensitive with words, her name is Amanda, but she wants people to call her Awomanda. Ha!

      • Thankfully, we haven’t got to that point yet in France, but it’s slowly coming. For instance, we have something called “inclusive writing”, which consists in including both “male” and “female” gender terminations at the end of each word, separated by a full stop.
        It’s actually a tad difficult to explain french grammar in English but it works a bit like Spanish grammar, with “male” gender words and “female” gender words
        For example, with words like “actor/actress”, instead of saying “the actors in this movie were great !”, you’d go for “the actors.resses were great”… Knowing that most of our vocabulary has both “male” and “female” versions and that we don’t use the same adjectives’ terminations depending on the person’s gender, I let you imagine how unconfortable it can be to read texts in “inclusive writing”…
        Fortunately, lots of people are still against using it, and I support them.

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