Whenever I get down on myself, my husband reminds me what a difference I make in people’s lives. He also reminds me of all the positivity I put into my monthly newsletter, promoting my business, which is hosted on WordPress: https://peartreeenterprises.wordpress.com/
Sometimes I say to myself, I wish I could be as good as my newsletter persona!
I guess the truth is, I find this question cringe-worthy.
Years ago I was having a discussion with a younger woman who was in a desperate rush to get married and have children. At the time I was happily living with my husband. We knew, in our hearts, we’d get married but we weren’t rushing–as the love would always be there. Plus, I always thought it was so romantic waiting and marrying later in life.
Anyway, this girl was really getting on my nerves, pushing her “clock is ticking out” agenda on to me. I wanted to get married someday, but never cared to have children. To shut her up, I said, “My children are too good for this world.”
She shot back, “My child could change the world.” Her smirk was like chalk on a blackboard.
Ew. Imagine having a mother who puts that kind of expectation on you? Her twisted vision haunted me for years. How can any one person change the world? First of all, we’re all so different. In order to change the world, you’d have to get everyone on the same wavelength, the same thought pattern, at the same time. And that’s not going to happen. Even if you did something incredible and you became famous for it. You still didn’t “change the world.” You may have changed your country, but there will always be those who didn’t agree with the change and won’t subscribe to it. For example – if you invented the Covid vaccine, many people won’t get it for whatever reason. You didn’t change “the world” you changed a portion of it. Only God can change the world.
But can we change our own little world? Of course we can!
Every day we can do one small thing for someone to make a difference. A nice compliment makes someone’s day. A hefty donation can make someone’s week. An opportunity can make someone’s year. An effective insight can change someone’s life.
I’d never be so pompous to say I’m “changing the world” but as a non-believer in false modesty, I’m confident to sometimes agree with my husband’s statement–I do make a difference. I’m the friend who shows up on time, who gives generous compliments, and who is the first to call if someone’s pet died. I’m the professional who writes articles about the homeless; and how great children are doing in cities that are known for the high crime rate; and cops who donated their Christmas turkeys to needy families. I’m the wife who makes my husband feel like a little kid again because I’m so much fun. And I write books that people can turn to if they are being bullied in school, giving them away to those in desperate need of support.
When we all put together our pieces of the puzzle, it makes a difference. The key word is “we.” No one person can change the world, but together we all can! Let’s do it! Let’s make the world a more tender, compassionate, happier place to be.
Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: email@example.com.
She is the author of the following books:
“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary
“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You
Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/
Maryanne is also available for book editing and coaching. Rates are competitive.