(Deal with it!)
One of my biggest complaints in life, as those who follow my blog know, is when people begrudge others for being happy.
It’s just not fair when you’re doing what you want, in life, and others have steam coming out of their noses because of it. Oh yeah, that green-eyed monster rears its ugly head.
We all know our strengths and weaknesses and my biggest strength is that I’m a good person and a great friend. Morrissey has a song called “We Hate it When Our Friends Become Successful.” Not me! I’ll be the one who cheers you on! Do you have great news? Give me a call! I’ll support you.
I’ve had people call to tell me they knew I’d be happy for them when their own family (or spouse) wouldn’t get it. People just can’t wait to share their good news with me, because I am genuine in being happy right along with them.
So, why is it wrong that I’m doing what I want?
Can’t you be happy for me too?
Sound familiar? It did to my husband when he was listening to the lyrics of “Entitlement” by Jack White.
My husband said, “You have to listen to this! Jack White wrote a song that you could have written! You can write a blog about this!”
I listened to it … and, yeah, sad but true, that’s how neglected I sometimes feel when it comes to other people. I’m so tired of people who are competitive and always trying to “one-up” me. I’m so tired of being quiet and downplaying my accomplishments around certain people because their jealousy is so apparent.
If you can’t be happy for me, like I am for YOU, you best believe I’ll be avoiding you as much as possible.
There is no shame in the fact that I’m happily married, that I love my work and never want to retire, that I live each day to the fullest, and that at 51, I am still confident, attractive and in shape.
I got all I ever wanted. And I am entitled.
The other half of it, is how many people feel “entitled” in a negative sense. Those who feel the world owes them something. Kids who want jobs, but don’t want to work … spending all the company’s time while they are on cell phones, texting.
A few days ago, I wrote about parents coddling their children as if they could do no wrong. These kids grow up believing they are always right and have hissy fits when they are corrected. I know, because as far back as seven years ago, when I was still in the work force, editors didn’t dare tell the young-uns who just got out of college their mistakes. They couldn’t handle the critique like the more seasoned writers could. You had to walk on eggshells. And this is the direction the world is heading towards: bowing down to the entitled.
Jack White’s song, clarified that.
Even in his superstar status — where he sits — he sees this new family way that we, as civilians, are enduring day-by-day.
It’s the way of the world, how some parents are giving the “tools of life” to their kids by entitlement — and not hard work.