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Know Your Worth

Published March 24, 2019 by Maryanne

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#sundayblessings So blessed to have created a life I most love — wife, author/writer, speaker, creator, self-employed, cat mommy  🙏

In my last blog I wrote about how the world views artists, creators, writers, poets, musicians. If you’re not super famous, people falsely assume you’re not doing too well, which is incorrect.

Over the past 20+ years as I was making a good living as a writer, I’ve seen it all with friends in my creative circles. People will try to low-ball you to get a service. Some may want to barter (something I will do with good friends, but not with a client). But the worst of all is when another who is also in a creative field will try to downplay your success in order to make himself or herself look “better.”

That’s really sad.

First, since we’re all in the same game of life, we should elevate each other. That is why we are put here on Earth. When the love vibration is the biggest vibration you can offer, it’s absolutely amazing what comes out of it.

I’ve been so blessed these past 20+ years to rub elbows with other creatives in my journey. The ones I remember most, and keep in my inner circle are those who have been incredibly supportive. Those who don’t feel that complimenting me on my talents makes them question their own.

You see, knowing your worth is not an ego thing. It’s a thing of confidence. When you are at a point in your career, knowing that you get the job done–and done right, you are able to charge as much as you want for a blog, for a painting, for a class…whatever.

You stick to your price.

And that said, stick to your confidence too. Don’t let anyone low-ball your talent, or your confidence. Know your worth.

If you work for yourself in a creative field, or any field, I’m sure you may have heard the following snarky, or perhaps ignorant comments from people who don’t get it:

“Self employed…that’s hard.”

“I feel better having a real job.”

“What you do is a labor of love.”

Working for yourself, yes, it can be hard. Even if you’re a famous rock star there are lulls in your career. Sometimes I tell myself I’ve had more comebacks than Cher.

But guess what? I am DOING IT. And I have been doing it. Writing professionally since 1995. And speaking professionally since 2014. It is a REAL JOB and I make a good living.

More important, I am happy.

By now, I’m well past the point of caring what others think of me or trying to impress people. I’ve been waking up every morning with a smile on myself, since 1995, saying to myself, “I’m a writer.”

If I dropped dead over 20 years ago, my life was already complete. It just gets better and better over the years. Every few months something great happens that I would have never imagined.

What others think of me doesn’t count, because I know my worth.

I believe in myself and I feel truly blessed.

And unstoppable.

Don’t let anyone stop you either!

Fellow creatives, share your stories below!

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She is available for motivational speaking engagements and is the author of the following books: 

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: Ten Ways to Become Your Own Hero” by Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta will be available October 2019. To pre-order, go here:

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” by Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta 

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“On the Guest List” by Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta

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“Love Cats” by Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta

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It’s NOT Luck!

Published February 5, 2015 by Maryanne

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The other day I took offense to a friend saying I was “lucky.”

“Luck” is not a word in my vocabulary.

I’m truly of the mindset that everything we have is because we’ve attracted it into our lives with wisdom and creative visualization. When people say I’m “lucky” to have an amazing husband, I’m not. I’m blessed because I was smart enough to not settle for the first guy who came along. I fell madly in love with someone I’m super attracted to and adores me equally.

I’m not “lucky” to work with friends — I am intelligent enough to refuse to work in a stressful environment with negative people, therefore I purposely choose the wonderful people I like to build my career around. I’ve spent years doing things on my own until the right girlfriends came into my life. Luck has nothing to do with anything.

When you take a moment each morning to spend in prayer and gratitude and have been doing so almost 20 years; when you have studied Gurdjieff since the 1980s; when you are not afraid of sitting in traffic or being in your own company because you don’t know what “boredom” means since you are in love with yourself and the mind is always going — THAT, MY FRIEND is not luck. It’s called WISDOM. (And mine came at a young age rather than an old age. Since 19, I’ve been told I was wise for my years).


Published August 5, 2013 by Maryanne

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As all people who work for themselves know, in business, you have abundance and then you have those lean times.

There’s this one health food store I go to, where a guy works there who is extremely laid back — so much so, that he is 40 and looks 16. He has a very genuine spirit about him.

I don’t know how we got started on this, but during the lean times in my career, I would ask him for a blessing. He would bless me and within days my business would magically improve.

I saw the guy yesterday and I said to him, “I don’t need a blessing today, business is great. Pass the blessing on to someone else.”

He told me that I’d get good karma for passing the blessing along.

I said, “Yeah, that makes sense … pay it forward! I’m paying it forward.”

Then, sure enough, I opened my email this morning and there was some writing work waiting for me.

More blessings.

Come on Christmas! (Songs from Tom Corea’s Studio!)

Published November 29, 2012 by Maryanne

(Left to right – Ric Pink, Dennis and Me, 2011)

Every year our good friend Tom Corea puts out an amazing Christmas project via his Babyfishmouth Studio.

My husband, Dennis, often plays bass (and some guitar) on many of the tunes, along with Tom DiPaolo on guitar.

Sometimes I’ll join them in the studio and once in awhile participate.

“Come on Christmas” was a really fun song that was recorded over the summer. (Vocals: Ric Pink, guitar: Tom DiPaolo, bass: Dennis Mistretta, Drums: Tom Corea). And I got to help by singing the back-up vocals! What an honor to be working amongst such great talents!

If you click on the following “Come On Christmas” you will see there are some great shots of all of us having fun in the studio. The album cover photo of Tom DiPaolo and Tom Corea was beautifully done by my very good friend, Darlene Foster ( It’s worth it to check out the song just to see her fabulous work!

Check out the song and photos by clicking here:

Come On Christmas!

And here’s another one from a few years back, 2006, it’s a surf song featuring Dennis on bass guitar and rhythm, Tom DiPaolo on guitar, Tom Corea on drums, and I’m the opening spoken word vocal, “Hey, Santa, Surf’s Up!”


And finally, a surf take on this Nutcracker classic. Tom DiPaolo on guitars, Dennis Mistretta on bass and Tom Corea on drums: Dance of the Sugar Plum Scary

I always love going to the studio with Dennis. I adore music and watching a tune be put together step-by-step. Or sometimes I’ll go upstairs and hang out with Tom Corea’s wife, Carol, and have a fantastic time drinking wine and having great conversation. They also have two beautiful kids, Jessie and T.J.

We are so blessed to have such great friends and so many wonderful memories!

Tom Corea, of Babyfishmouth Studio and his son, Jessie

Me, Carol Corea and Darlene Foster (Ric Pink in background)