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Only Creeps Say “karen”

Published July 18, 2020 by Maryanne

CreepsPhoto by Robert Zunikoff, courtesy of Unsplash

If you Google what the slang term “karen” means, there’s just so much about it and so many ways to analyze it, and misuse what it originally meant. In a nutshell, nowadays, it’s any middle-aged white woman who complains to a manager because she feels entitled. We’ve gotten to that point where the term is so misused (like the words “narcissism” and “literally”) it’s derogatorily tossed at ANY woman who complains.  It’s a stupid word that translates to “Shut the fuck up — WOMAN!” It is downright nasty — and creepy! And merely another way loser men try to belittle women; taking us back to the 1800s. Way to go, assholes!

I get it, you think you’re such a big deal sticking up for a worker who doesn’t do his/her job right? Well, let me ask you, why should a person who works in service be cuddled like a little lamb? If you are hired to do a job of service your job is to do it with a smile on your face. Don’t take your shit out on customers!

This is where society has gone wrong — big time. Long gone is the saying, “The customer is always right.” We’re living in times where it’s frustrating to even call on a manager because no one has the balls to train their employees correctly. People of service can do whatever the hell they want — and get away with it. They will lie and so will the manager in order to not look bad. No one wants to man up and be responsible for screwing up.

That is bad news. You can’t even say it’s “bad business” because no one cares. From the largest corporation down to small businesses, everyone has to be right. All. The. Time.

And you have the self-righteous stander-bys  chiming in, “Calm down KAREN” which makes the situation no better. Doing that makes you a BULLY! Why don’t YOU calm down and mind your own business? No, man’s gotta be a “hero” — but the “hero” has it all wrong. Making someone feel small just because she spoke up for herself makes you a ZERO! And a CREEP!  In fact, anyone who jumps on the “karen” bandwagon is a CREEP and here’s why:

  • Mentally stable people don’t call names. If there’s a problem, they talk to each other like adults.
  • Mentally stable people don’t randomly attack others. They mind their own business.
  • Good service is a part of the job. A worker is representing a company. When you go to an establishment, you deserve good service. No one should be called names for calling a manager if service is not up to par. In fact, going to management will help the establishment develop and grow. You learn from mistakes, so put on your big boy pants and LEARN!
  • Using a sexist/ageist term in general means you are a loser. Sexism and ageism is a thing. Educate yourself.
  • Women should not be silenced. Simple as that.

So, you have a choice. Do you want to continue acting like a big baby and calling others names? Or do you want to up your game and learn that it’s not cool to judge people?

And, to the ladies, I say, continue to stick up for yourself if you’re being treated poorly. Don’t let men try to silence and shame you by name-calling. They are fools. You know who you are!

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is available for blogging, ghost writing, writing. She is also available for book signings and motivational speaking engagements. In addition to Love Cats, she is the author of the following books :

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: Love Cats

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Okay is not “okay.”

Published February 27, 2015 by Maryanne

okayWhen did society stop being cool?

Even in the 1990s we still used peace signs and said things like “jazzed.” Then fast forward to the 21st century and we’re using awkward words like “gelly” for “jealous” and “besties” for “best friend.” All this modern day baby talk makes me cringe. But the most cringe-worthy of all is those ever-so-annoying email responses that simply read “okay.” No “love” no “xxoo” no “gotcha” … just “okay” with an angry period.

Or at least the period seems angry, as a simple “okay.” is so hard to translate via email. You wonder, “Is something wrong?” “Is this person mad?”

If the person sending the email at least took an extra two seconds to add a “cool” next to the “okay” — “okay, cool!” then you see the difference, right?

“Okay” is only cute in the real world, especially when comedian Andy Kaufman used to say, “Okay? OKAY!” It should never, ever, ever be written in an email because the translation is obnoxious and condescending. It’s the equivalent to the passive/aggressive: “yes, dear” or “fine.”

Then to use words said by even more annoying types, no I am not “over-reacting” or “too sensitive” nor do you have to “walk on eggshells” around me.

I’m just an old-fashioned romantic. Someone who prefers people in general to go the extra mile. And I don’t care if you’re only typing with your thumbs. Make the effort to put “love” or “best wishes” or “hugs” or even a smiley face at the end of an email. Show the person you’re writing to that they are worth it and that you like them, so they know you’re not mad. Isn’t it so much better to imagine the person on the receiving end of an email smiling, not worrying about why you wrote back a one-word answer?

So let’s make our lingo hip again, whether it’s spoken in real life or in your email.

Okay? OKAY!