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Don’t Hate Me Because We’re Not Friends on Face Book

Published December 24, 2014 by Maryanne

Most beautiful kitten of all!

Don’t hate me because we’re not friends on Face Book.

I wish people wouldn’t take Face Book so seriously. It is not real life. It’s a known fact that from time to time, I delete people I don’t hear from often. It’s just easier, for me, when I type in someone’s name and the person I am looking for comes up — instead of 500+ other names. If we’re friends or family, I always LOVE everyone forever and am NOT mad at anyone. I’m just trying to keep my Face Book experience simple.

Most have my phone number, most have my email, most are also “friends” on Twitter and Linked In. Some, I follow your blogs. I’m not on Instagram or Tumbler.

Please respect me and do not be combative with me if I clean up my list because we don’t talk on Face Book. I’d love to see and hear from everyone on a regular basis. If I don’t, I like to give my time to those that reach out to me. There is no shame in that. If you don’t like what I write, you don’t have to “like” but at least say “hello” once in awhile.

And please do not get my husband involved. He respects my decision and thinks it’s ridiculous for people to get mad at me for keeping things simple.

Thank you and God bless!

It’s Always a Mystery

Published September 26, 2014 by Maryanne

Mystery

The other day someone said they felt they knew me because of social media. I had to laugh. This person hadn’t a clue.

Why, you may ask? Because what I share on the internet — articles I write, book and public speaking event promotions, concerts I go to, and an opinion here and there — is such a very small part of my life. I rarely discuss on the internet my life with my husband, or share pictures of our home and parties, speak of our/my future dreams, etc.

Though when I do share an opinion, yes, I admit, I let loose and put it all out there. That’s just my personality — honest. And because I’m on the shy side and more of a listener than a talker at parties, the internet is a great outlet for me to be heard.

But mind you, even when you think someone is “telling all” there is still so much you’ll never know, making even the most honest, revealing people A MYSTERY.

Think about it. Even on reality shows where a camera is following a person, there’s so much more depth to a person. Don’t you think? As much as you see and read, you still don’t know the vastness of what is going on in someone’s unedited mind. It’s ignorant to think otherwise.

And no matter how much you know about someone, the truth is you know nothing. I find this out all the time when people I think I could trust throw me a curve ball. People are not fixed. They are changing … constantly. So for anyone to take any person for granted and think they know everything about them and that there is no mystery, especially because of how much they write on the internet, it’s a wrong way to think. Someone who bombards the world with selfies and writes anywhere between 200 to 1000 words per day on the internet is not a good interpretation of someone’s “life” — not even a 10th of it, if you really think about it.

No matter how much someone shares, people are always a mystery, holding on to something deep and dear that you’ll never know.

 

Happy 25th Birthday to the World Wide Web

Published March 15, 2014 by Maryanne

Me at an old computer

“On March 12, 1989, the visual layer of the internet was quietly revealed” states a very informative article by Chris Gayomali: http://www.fastcompany.com/3027557/fast-feed/happy-25th-birthday-world-wide-web-our-gift-an-intentionally-brief-history-of-you?partner=rss&utm_content=buffer44523&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_campaign=buffer

I remember the very first time I heard about the internet. It was in the early 1990s and a friend who worked in the corporate world was complaining that a guy she liked wasn’t answering her “emails.”

I have to admit, I was intimidated by the concept. Writing a letter over a computer seemed just too weird to me. I still rejoiced in getting snail mail stuff on a regular basis.

Then by mid-1990s I was working at a newspaper in NYC and had access to internet — but I never used it. A friend who lived in Tennessee that I regularly communicated with via telephone and snail mail said that if I emailed him, we could talk “every day.”

I was so afraid people would read our emails. The concept was still foreign to me. Until I dated a computer nerd (does anyone use that term anymore? I guess we are all computer nerds these day!) I was fascinated by all the things he could look up on his lap top.

Then after house sitting for a month in NYC and having access to the email and computer, I was hooked. I wanted my own computer!

Early ways of communicating on the internet with others included posting info on message boards. One of my favorite internet times was communicating with fellow poets on a Richard Hell website.

Then came Live Journal in 2002. An online journal where you can share your life with fellow writers. I have so many friends I’ve met on Live Journal that I am still in touch with today!

I totally missed My Space, because I was so involved with Live Journal.

When I started my own business in 2008, Craig’s List was the online tool that helped me gain a number of clients.

Then I heard of the mother of all websites — Face Book.

I was one of the late bloomers when it came to Face Book — up to 2009 I was still a Live Journal chick. But once I gave it a shot, I was thrilled because I reconnected with many friends at first. Then later started using it as a business tool. Ninety percent of my book sales are due to Face Book.

In fact, if it wasn’t for the World Wide Web, I highly doubt I’d ever publish a book or have my own business. It’s just a wonderful tool that puts life full speed ahead — allowing the average person to get things done in the quickest way possible.

Other wonderful things about the internet include: online shopping, research, various sites to listen to music, You Tube and so much more.

While the internet can be detrimental — a big time eater, preventing people from enjoying outdoors, a contributor to lack of communication, and pure laziness — when used properly, it’s a most wonderful thing and probably one of the best inventions I’ve seen in my 50 years!

Adventures in Face Book Land

Published July 23, 2013 by Maryanne

Facebook_icon.svgFor the past two years I was anti-Face Book because I had a few bad experiences, but now I’m back on to help promote my upcoming book, as well as my business (which I tried to do with a regular business page, but I’m getting more positive feedback with a regular account — I think just like old school businesses, people prefer the personal touch).

So, in just two days, I reconnected with some old friends, made some new ones and generated some interest for my upcoming book, “On the Guest List.”

Being on Face Book again reminded me of why I loved it to begin with. It really brings you closer to some people, then the next time you see them it’s extra awesome. I love that I can help promote my friends and their talents along the way. It’s just a great trip to be on.

And no matter how professional you try to be, there’s always a funny story to tell — past and present.

STORY #1

When I first signed on, the name of this guy I never met before in my life (and lives halfway around the world) showed up as suggested people I know. I didn’t know the guy AT ALL.

Turned out, he put that he worked at my home-based business, Pear Tree Enterprises.

I was like, “WHOA!” He never worked here, this is just a one-man show — ME!

Only once in my life did I have to hire help for a huge website project and it wasn’t him.

And mind you, this dude gave himself a pretty big title too. At first I was annoyed. But my second thought was, okay, actually this makes me look pretty darn good. I wish I could hire someone and pay them enough for a prestigious title but if he wants to be a liar, it only makes me look better until people become the wiser. It’s a win/win for now.

STORY #2

A few years ago I had an idea for a start-up online magazine. I had quite a few people interested in working with me: artists, web designers, etc. that were willing to work for free until we got advertising.

Then I got insanely busy and put the project on the back-burner.

A few months later, out of the blue, a girl contacted me and asked if she could write for the magazine. I told her it wasn’t happening. She bitched me out in an email, calling me every name in the book because she was ready to write.

My husband said, “How can she write for a magazine that doesn’t exist?”

Yeah, BINGO … but I couldn’t tell her that, she was wishing me death! Scary, but funny at the same time. (She’s one of the reasons I gave up on Face Book first time around).

STORY #3

My friend Margo is the salt of the earth and I love her to death.

I used to have this Face Book page called “Maryanne’s Jukebox” and had quite a following. I allowed everyone to post songs. Margo loves Alice Cooper and I posted “Go to Hell” by Alice Cooper for her and wrote, “This one’s for Margo.”

All of a sudden, I got all these emails from friends saying, “What happened with Margo?!”

They thought I was mad at her and telling her to “go to hell.” – And that was the FURTHEST from the truth!

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So let’s see what other funny adventures happen in cyber land as I re-build my network.

 

Business Media

Published March 15, 2013 by Maryanne

social media

Hello all!

Okay, here’s the scoop … in the past I never liked Face Book, Twitter or Linked-In. I used them for three years and honestly, I deleted them because I get the most work via my personal website/newsletter: www.peartreeenterprises.com

In fact, 100 percent of my “repeat” clients are through my website, so I have been getting by without the use of Face Book, Twitter or Linked-In.

But seems as I’ll be doing more promotional work with clients, it’s important that I have a presence on these social networks.

So, if anyone wants to connect via these social media links for business reasons, please do so. (Note: I’m using these links for business, not social so in reality they should be called “business media” — not “social media” — but whatever!).

Face Book: http://www.facebook.com/pages/Pear-Tree-Enterprises/357007674408601

Twitter: https://twitter.com/PearTreeEnt

And find me on Linked-In: Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta

Let’s all help each other build!

My skills: writing, editing, ghost writing, typing, proofreading, marketing/sales, personal assistance.

And if anyone needs a 40+ model, I’m available. Check out the cool photos I did with photographer Darlene Foster on my Pinterest page! http://pinterest.com/mrsmistretta/darlene-foster-photos-i-modeled-for/

 

 

Happy Internet Day!

Published October 29, 2012 by Maryanne

 

 

Happy Internet Day!

Well, I guess it will be Internet Day on the east coast until we start having power outages and our batteries die!

Although the internet can be traced back to 1958, I wasn’t familiar with the internet until the mid-1990s when I cat sat for a couple who lived in Tudor City for a month.

Even though I was living in fabulous NYC for a month and had the world at my fingertips, I was more fascinated by the fact that I had internet computer use for a month! I went through cards that people had given me at parties and started emailing everyone I ever met.

Not long afterwards, I ended up with my own home computer and was thrilled to surf the web, which was so new and exciting and interesting, a new way to make friends.

Prior to the internet, the best way to make friends across the country or in another country was via “pen pals.” I had my first pen pal match in high school. A music magazine matched me up with another girl who was into new wave.

But wow, the internet was so much easier. You didn’t need stationary, you didn’t need a stamp and you didn’t even need neat handwriting! Sadly, though, as easy as it was to make friends, it was to make enemies because people feel so safe hiding behind their computers it didn’t take much for someone to trash insults.

First there was “chat rooms.” I never liked them because back in the early days, I always had a low speed modem so I didn’t get much out of it. Plus, it was kinda “cold.”

Then came the message boards. I LOVED the message boards and spent years being a part of an Andy Kaufman community. Most of the fans were younger than I was, yet I spoke to them on the telephone many times and one fan even sent me a ton of Andy Kaufman VHS video tapes of his performances on “Taxi” and “Saturday Night Live.”

I’m still hoping to reconnect with some of the Andy Kaufman fans someday!

Then came Live Journal (which I still use, but as a private journal). It was amazing because you can interact with people about your life and read about theirs. Since the 1980s I felt everyone had a story to tell and thought it would be cool to have secret access to someone’s diary. I met some amazing people via Live Journal that I am still friends with and see in real life to this day!

I don’t know how I missed the whole MySpace thing. Maybe life just got in the way, which is a good thing because life is always better than the internet.

Around 2009 I created my own website for my business, Pear Tree Enterprises (www.peartreeenterprises.com). Every month I send out my newsletter/website and without fail, it brings me business. I love it and am so grateful to my webmaster who always keeps it in check, as well as my husband who takes most of my monthly photos.

With Face Book, I reconnected with some old friends but didn’t really dig the drama and the fact that it was nearly impossible to follow 200+ people. I deleted my account and figured I’d be in touch with those I was meant to be in touch with.

Twitter, I tried to use as a business network, but it turned out to be more fun and inspirational. I love Twitter, especially following politics and the celebrities who know how to treat their fans!

But I have to say, I love WORD PRESS the best! It’s intelligent, with minimal drama and it’s the best venue for expressing myself without feeling obligated to read anything.

So that said, Happy Internet Day to everyone on Word Press!

 

Call Me

Published June 20, 2012 by Maryanne

Me, using an effective tool for friendship  (Photo by Darlene Foster)

I have a friend I’ve known since high school who, for the past few years, does all her communicating online. It wasn’t always like this. I used to call her whenever I needed someone to talk to, and she was there for me. But once Face Book came along, she started this new rule that it was best to communicate to her via email, which irked me to no end and evidently after quite a few miscommunications — via email of course — the friendship ended.

To me, a phone call will always be vastly superior to an email. You can hear the tone of a person’s voice and know immediately if they are happy or sad, if you called at a bad time or if they have exciting news to share. You can hear laughter. You can hear a joke or sarcasm that may not be translated via email. And you can play “Mary Had a Little Lamb” on the touch tone buttons.

People seem to think it’s some sort of status symbol to say they have no time for phone calls, or that they don’t get many phone calls. In the 21st century, a phone call uncool and not something to be used by those who love to keep up with the Joneses.

I don’t know what Joneses these hipsters are keeping up with, but I prefer the Joneses of yesteryear — the Tom Joneses, the Shirley Joneses and the Davy Joneses — the Joneses that were around when it was cool to be on the phone. If a person’s line was busy, that meant he/she was popular.

I was the last person on earth to get an answering machine and in the early 90s I still didn’t have one. People either caught me when I was home, or didn’t get me at all. This was great when I was still single. I actually got letters in the mail from friends and potential boyfriends because they had no other way of getting in touch with me if I wasn’t home to answer the phone.

To this day, I find that so amusing.

The whole concept of emails and texting being a major source of communication just escapes me. I couldn’t imagine being a younger person and using these methods for dating. It takes away the whole mystique of being unavailable.

I remember being a young person and coming home from a night out and my grandmother telling me a certain someone had called while I was out. How exciting!

I feel so sorry for young people who don’t have that grand element of surprise anymore during their dating years. They are missing out, big time. Everything is too easy, which takes away the fun. It’s just human nature that people like a bit of a challenge.

Last year during a slow period with my business I took on a part-time job at a music store for a couple months. The store owner’s son would spend entire nights hanging out at the music store texting a girl he was interested in. It was so pathetic to watch. She obviously wasn’t interested in him and just used the texting tool as a way to kill her boredom because from what he told me she had no life. (And clearly he didn’t either).

I felt bad for the kid, but he made his own bed. He was obviously addicted to this little device that was preventing him from getting out in the world and enjoying life. I wondered if the same girl would spend as much time with this guy had he called her or set up a date to see her in person. Probably not.

I remember being young and telling my grandmother, “Say I’m not home!” when an undesirable person would call. How do you do that with a text? With texts and emails — the punchline is, you’re ALWAYS home. But I guess the younger generation has new concepts of what a loser is and isn’t.

And, think about it, how sexy was it back in the day when you first met someone and he/she wrote their phone number on your hand? In this technology day and age, people are like, “call my cell, then I’ll have your number in there.”

Eww … how dull! And people are missing out on the thrill of touching someone’s arm for the first time as they write their phone number on it. Talked about a missed opportunity!

Call me old fashioned, but I simply love the idea of going through a phone book and calling random friends from a land line. (Note: I don’t call people who only use cells — I do not want to compete with traffic and background noise, and people certainly shouldn’t be talking on their phones while driving!)

It’s so exciting when someone you left a message for calls you back. It’s just so cool that there are still people out there that have courtesy skills — and even cooler that I can call these people friends!

Sometimes while I’m waiting for my husband to come home, I’ll pour myself a glass of wine and talk for a half hour or so to my friend Gina or my friend Darlene (who took the photo above) who also lives close-by. Even though I see Gina and Darlene often, it’s still so nice to keep in touch on a regular basis. When we see each other we still have plenty to talk about and laugh about.

What a blessing it is to live during a time when the good things in life are just a phone call away.