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Anti-Bullying Book “I Don’t Want to Be Like You” Now Available on Audiobooks!

Published June 21, 2019 by Maryanne

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I am ecstatic that my book “I Don’t Want to Be Like You” published by Higher Ground Books & Media, is now available on AUDIO! (https://www.audible.com/pd/I-Dont-Want-to-Be-Like-You-Audiobook/B07TB2VKWY?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWT-BK-ACX0-155390&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_155390_rh_us)

Sarah Staton is the voice who made my story come to life!

My book takes place growing up in the 1970s when I was bullied in both grade school and high school. And I’m sad to say, that even in this day and age bullying continues. Children are committing suicide because of assholes who have not yet evolved. Adults are secretly emailing me, “Write something about bullying in the workplace.”

It makes me so angry that 50 years later, it’s not getting better but worse.

Bullies target those who are unique; those who speak up for themselves; those who are shy; those who are creative; those who are very smart and think out of the box; those who don’t follow the crowd; and those who are very good looking. If you recognize yourself in any of those words, you most likely were a target for a bully. Because victims are often so smart and creative, they also carry around insecurities. Smart and creative people never feel good enough. You know that old saying, a genius never sees himself as one. Bullies pick up on this and attack.

The good news is, there is no reason at all to feel shame. It’s not you, it’s them. Bullies are the ones who feel hurt, sad, unloved, ugly, dumb, so they target others to make themselves feel big. Bullies are also masters at gas lighting (making others think THEY are the ones who are crazy). It’s a manipulative way for a bully to “win.”

Truth be told, all bullies are losers. If you can’t come from a place of love, you’ll never evolve. And isn’t evolution the ultimate goal? 

I recently sent out a call for speaking engagements. I let everyone know I am READY to speak out against bullying — in libraries, schools, corporations — and I will travel.

One of the responses I received was that bullying isn’t going away.

I did not know how to answer that. From what I wrote above, you may think I agree that it’s not going away. But hear me out, I now believe differently.

I was speaking to someone in a health food store earlier today. This man asked me if I was a vegan.

I said, “No, but I eat vegan for several days at a time.” I further explained I was a vegetarian/vegan for 28 years, from ages 23 to 51. Then I started eating meat (grass-fed only, and some chicken — no pork or veal!) to get my health in order. (I went from having low blood sugar, thyroid issues, low white blood cell count, very low blood pressure/borderline anemic as a vegetarian to a person of perfect health with some meat back in my body!)

After hearing my story, my new vegan friend thanked me for being one of the leaders in the movement back in the day when it was HARD. Now it’s easy! There are more vegans than ever and you can get vegan food anywhere. But in 1986, I was considered a “weirdo” for not eating meat.

What does this have to do with bullying, you may ask? 

You see, over 30 years ago, people didn’t get vegetarians. But we’ve evolved. Now we get it. And people are health conscious and accepting. The smarter ones are getting along in harmony. THIS can happen with bullying too!

At age 55, I see myself having at least another good 30 years on this planet, in this body I rented. In the year 2049, I TRULY BELIEVE, bullying will be on its way to extinction. We will evolve and change the world. Bullies will be the new neanderthals … so over. People who love will no longer be the weirdos. They will be the WINNERS! The meek will surely inherit the earth.

I CAN’T WAIT!

In the meantime, please purchase my book or audio book, it may save your child’s life when he or she hears about how I was bullied, but grew up to be successful and happy!

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is available for blogging, ghost writing, writing, and motivational speaking engagements. She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: Ten Ways to Become Your Own Hero” will be available October 2019. To pre-order, go here: https://kicamprojects.com/shop/be-extraordinary/

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your copy, go here: https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Want-Be-Like-You/dp/1726273261

 

Music Softens Challenges Faced by Family’s Struggle with Autism

Published June 15, 2016 by Maryanne

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I recently had the opportunity to speak with musician Tom Corea about the struggles he and his wife Carol face having a son with autism. They are truly an inspiration. The article was published in the East Hanover News: http://www.mypaperonline.com/music-softens-challenges-faced-by-east-hanover-familys-struggle-with-autism.html

Happy Graduation Weekend!

Published June 7, 2015 by Maryanne

SAM_7625Left to right: Me, my sister Kim, her son Matthew, my husband Dennis

(Inside door peeking out, Kim’s Chihuahua:  Ally Marie Page)

Happy Graduation to my nephew Matthew and all young graduates!

“Graduation is a time of completion, of finishing, of an ending, however, it is also a time of celebration of achievement and a beginning for the new graduate.” – Catherine Pulsifer.

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.” – Steve Jobs

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”  – Dr. Seuss

“All our dreams can come true…if we have the courage to pursue them.” – Walt Disney

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1900 Youngsters Earn Membership In Paterson’s 50 Book Club

Published June 5, 2015 by Maryanne

SAM_7541Su-nijah Vaughn read over 108 books and aspires to be an author

(Photo by Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta)

Last night I covered a very inspiring event for Paterson Press, Paterson’s 50-Book Club, an event honoring children who have read 50 or more books during the school year. This year 1900 students made it!

Here’s the full article: http://www.northjersey.com/towns/paterson/1-900-youngsters-earn-membership-in-paterson-s-50-book-club-1.1350117

Father & Daughter Reunited After 20 Years!

Published June 9, 2014 by Maryanne

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Well, here’s an inspiring, heart-warming story for all of you — and it’s WordPress related!

I played a role in, helping a father (my friend Bob Farina, former marine and Plasmatics roadie) reconnect with his daughter, Cheyenne!

Last September I shared an excerpt from my book “On the Guest List: Adventures of a Music Journalist” (before it was published) on WordPress. It was about “Over the Rainbow” a very unique health food store in Montclair owned by Bob Farina.

His daughter Cheyenne contacted me on that blog, asking if I could help her look for her dad. Cheyenne was living in North Carolina. Here’s the original blog, with her comments in the comment section: https://maryannemistretta.wordpress.com/2013/09/17/over-the-rainbow/

I was rummaging through an old box because I knew I had Bob’s number somewhere. I finally found a number, but it was disconnected. So I figured, as a last resort, I’d write a letter to the editor of The Montclair Times to see if anyone knew of his whereabouts. The day that it was published, I got a call THAT NIGHT from a Montclair resident who knew Bob personally. She gave me his number, I called him and he called Cheyenne that very night!

You can read the full story here: http://www.northjersey.com/community-news/going-over-the-rainbow-1.1031461?page=all

Get your tissues out, you will definitely get teary eyed!

 

Easter Memories

Published April 20, 2014 by Maryanne

SAM_4017Delicious dinner

It’s such a blessing to be around loved ones on the holiday season. I’m so happy my cousin Laura invited me and my husband to spend our Easter with her and her family!

SAM_4020My husband Dennis and I

SAM_4047With my cousin Michelle

SAM_4033With my favorite uncle, Uncle Mickey

SAM_4038My husband Dennis and my cousin Laura’s husband, Jack

SAM_4039Me and my cousin, Michelle

SAM_4040Aunt Mary “Dollbabe,” me and Michelle

SAM_4041Michelle, Aunt Joanne and Me

SAM_4044Me and Cousin Laura

Never Forgetting People I Love

Published March 16, 2014 by Maryanne

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I was so sad to learn that my favorite uncle and his wife were moving away to Arizona very shortly, so I took the opportunity to visit them today. Luckily they said they were going to come back and visit often. And I was glad I told both of them that I loved them.

One thing I’ve learned in life — and I’m a work in progress as to making a change in this — is that you never see the people you love enough. Over the past several years I’ve really made an effort to reach out to family members I love most and friends I love most.

Every Saturday I set aside as “friend day” where I have lunch with my favorite people. I’ve been following loved ones on Face Book to be able to visit as many people as I can when they are having special events and also going to every funeral I can to be supportive.

By doing this, my life is filled with so much love and positivity.

Life so good!