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Having an Unlimited Summer!

Published June 12, 2022 by Maryanne
Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta, New Jersey

Many people dream of an endless summer. Of course, most likely, that won’t happen. Life goes on with new seasons and/or responsibilities. So, instead of longing for the nearly impossible, why not work with something that can happen? Why not go for an unlimited summer? Make this the summer that you don’t put limits on yourself. You can start with friendships. Become friends with someone who is nothing like you! Stretching your boundaries is the way you learn and grow.

Check out my video about an unlimited summer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Jfb_TLYrhs

If you liked this blog, feel free to buy me a kombucha: https://ko-fi.com/maryannechristianomistretta

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/

Maryanne is also available for book editing and coaching. Rates are competitive.

And for positive messages, visit Be YOUnique, the Anti-Bullying You Tube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLq6J9MSvcjd-haQ30ycLWA/videos

Summer Fun in New Hope, Pennsylvania

Published June 5, 2022 by Maryanne
Waiting for the Night

I absolutely love those summer nights when there’s no humidity and it’s not yet too hot.

My husband and I headed out to New Hope, Pennsylvania last night to see Classic Stones/Glimmer Twins at the New Hope Winery. We saw that tribute band so many times and it never gets old. They cover so many Stones classics and it’s never the same show twice. My favorite track of the evening was “Gimme Shelter.” And was thrilled to hear “Miss You” from my all-time favorite Stones album, “Some Girls.”

After the show…Bernie, aka Keith Richards
My husband, Dennis
Don’t leave me hanging on the telephone!

After the show, we walked around town. New Hope, Pa., in a way is like NYC. The town never seems to sleep. Late night, stores and restaurants were open, and people were roaming the streets.

It was just a perfect summer evening to kick off the month of June, and much more to come this summer!

If you liked this blog, feel free to buy me a kombucha: https://ko-fi.com/maryannechristianomistretta

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/

Maryanne is also available for book editing and coaching. Rates are competitive.

And for positive messages, visit Be YOUnique, the Anti-Bullying You Tube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLq6J9MSvcjd-haQ30ycLWA/videos

Over 50 Modeling, Photo Unretouched

Published May 20, 2022 by Maryanne
Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta, 2021, age 57

One year ago today, from a photo shoot with David Esposito.

I was 57. Photo unretouched. David Esposito doesn’t touch up photos. He likes them to be real.

Always be proud of your age, and all you’ve done in your life.

When you filter your fine lines, you filter your character. ❤

I also don’t do Botox or any other face alterations. If you do it, fine, good for you. But I don’t like the idea of it. That’s just me. I think every woman can look amazing with face yoga and facial massage. But that’s just me. Do what you like as long as you are happy.

There are days when I look old and tired too. But I realize I just need more rest or to make a change in my life. Your real face is a barometer for how happy you are. You may not need a facelift, just a change. 🙂

If you liked this blog, feel free to buy me a kombucha: https://ko-fi.com/maryannechristianomistretta

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/

Maryanne is also available for book editing and coaching. Rates are competitive.

And for positive messages, visit Be YOUnique, the Anti-Bullying You Tube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLq6J9MSvcjd-haQ30ycLWA/videos

It’s No Joke, WordPress is The Best!

Published April 1, 2022 by Maryanne
I’m a fool for WordPress!

It’s April Fool’s Day, but it’s no joke that I love WordPress best. I may be prejudice, but I like WordPress best.

Earlier this year, I stopped using Facebook. I didn’t delete my page altogether because I have photos and memories on there that I cherish. Plus, some friends simply do not understand, “contact me via email.” They forget that and continue to contact me via Messenger. That is okay, but I only check Facebook once a day, whereas I check my emails all day long.

I never got Linked In. It’s more for career-oriented people. Me, I have my home based business of writing, editing, and blogging for various publications on a very part-time basis. I was on Linked In for years and it never did me any good. It was just about people following me to get me to follow them. And after a month of using Instagram, I realized it was the same. Sure you can follow your favorite celebrities or influencers, but do you REALLY want to see them every single day?! No. I am not celebrity-obsessed. I like variety. And I also like finding things on my own. If I discover a new artist, or re-discover an old one, I’ll go on a You Tube binge to satisfy my fan-energy. But I do not need to “follow” them and have them in my psyche 24/7.

As for myself, I’m not really promoting anything. I’m not a hard-sell. I want people to find my books, my articles, and my You Tube channel organically. Not because I have 1000 friends pushing it up in a feed; or because I paid someone to promote it; or because someone follows me and now I’m obligated. Damn, that is WORK — work that I’m not getting paid for.

But the good news is, WordPress isn’t like that. Well, sometimes it is, but I can spot the phony faster on here because of how a blog is presented. If someone is pouring their heart out and being truly honest, count me in! If someone is liking several of my posts in a row, just out of obligation, or to entice me over to their page, it’s a turn off. No one can read THAT FAST!

However, the beauty of WordPress is that it may be harder to find a topic I really like. Hunting for something gives one a special high. Like trying to find a record in a record store, rather than purchasing instantly on Amazon.

And WordPress is forever. If you want to find something on Facebook or Instagram, you have to scroll endlessly. With WordPress, all my blogs are neatly organized by year. And I can hide something that no longer relates to me and no one would be the wiser. I also get a kick out of it when someone “likes” or comments on a blog I wrote several years ago! This happens often. Unlike Facebook and Instagram where everything is current and fast moving. Though I love my life today, I do love all that I ever was. I cherish the old stuff, just as I’ll cherish what’s happening in my life now — two years down the road.

Of all internet platforms, WordPress is the least ego-driven. People are here because they like to write. They have dreams. Or they are working something out. For me, like Live Journal in the old days, WordPress is a glorified paper diary; but only the things I want to share with the world. It’s a taste of my life, but not my entire life. It’s a contrary to people constantly updating their Facebook and Instagram pages with every thought, anything they feel share-worthy, and promotions for everything they do.

On WordPress, I won’t find someone who wants to tag me in a photograph they took of me at an event in order for me to share my photo of me with them in return to get them promoted.

People do not know how many followers I have on WordPress. It’s not a place to be judged by how popular you are, but rather how good you write. Sure, someone can get 150 “likes” but that’s just from others on WordPress. Your backend will tell you the real deal. I’m the only one who knows how many are reading. It could be a little bit, or it could be hundreds. And I feel more humbled by that. By people not knowing, I understand they are here because they want to be here.

It’s just a beautiful thing. And I’m fortunate to be in on this secretive gem of a space along with the rest of you.

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/

Maryanne is also available for book editing and coaching. Rates are competitive.

And for positive messages, visit Be YOUnique, the Anti-Bullying You Tube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLq6J9MSvcjd-haQ30ycLWA/videos

Wear a Dress Day, 2022

Published March 4, 2022 by Maryanne
Photo of me, by David Esposito, 2021
Photo of me, by Darlene Foster, 2010, The Picnic
Me, 2020

Happy National Wear a Dress Day!

While many ladies are tom boy types, many of us also like to be girly and wear dresses. I’m a little of both; Like many women, I just love clothes, period.

During the winter months, I’ll throw on a dress from time to time, usually for special occasions like parties or concerts. But once spring rolls around, I’m in dresses as much as possible, even wearing old favorites from several years ago over and over again.

Enjoy the day, ladies! I’m sure men will enjoy this day too. A male friend once told me, “A girl in a dress is much better than a girl in pants.” Hmmm….sexist? Nah! Just appreciative!

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/

Maryanne is also available for book editing and coaching. Rates are competitive.

And for positive messages, visit Be YOUnique, the Anti-Bullying You Tube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLq6J9MSvcjd-haQ30ycLWA/videos

Happy Optimist Day!

Published February 3, 2022 by Maryanne
The Eternal Optimist

I’ve been called The Eternal Optimist. Does this mean I’m living in a happy bubble? No. At one point I felt that if I wasn’t floating through life I needed to up my game to become happier. That was only a few years ago. Now I realize, being an optimist is feeling grateful even during unfortunate circumstances. Just because something isn’t going your way 100 percent, it doesn’t mean NOTHING is going your way.

Yesterday I received a call from someone who was looking to me as a source of inspiration. My advice is to always have something stable in your life to look forward to because life can sometimes be unstable. Aside from having a good marriage, there are a few things I can count on:

  1. Being vegan. Knowing that I’m living a life that doesn’t harm animals means so much to me. I could be having the worst day, but the fact that I’m not hurting an innocent soul means I’m doing something right.
  2. Meditation. I can’t stress enough how important this is. It takes your mind from busy to quiet in a matter of seconds. There’s a saying that everyone should meditate for at least a half hour a day. If you don’t have time, then you should meditate a full hour. Seriously.
  3. My home spa routine. I do not have the body of a gym rat, but I embrace the body I have and I want to treat it right. That said, between 5 to 7 nights a week, I give myself 1/2 to two hours to work on my physical being. I like to do some form of exercise: Pilates, Kickboxing, Light Weights, Low-Impact cardio, and/or Yoga. (And in the summer walks and swims). I also like to give myself facial massages with jojoba oil; and do a little face yoga. Sometimes I’ll give myself a lymph drainage massage, foot massage, and/or belly massage. Hair massages are nice too.

Of course I’m not perfect and on some rare occasions if I really have a bad day, I might skip the spa nights and go for a vegan alcoholic beverage like White Claw. Though that is not very often. I just want to illustrate that I’m not militantly perfect. Optimism is a state of mind and I do all I can to stay there as much as possible. But when I can’t I allow myself to wallow–but just for a night!

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/

Maryanne is also available for book editing and coaching. Rates are competitive.

Bloganuary Challenge – Day 27 – Where Do You Go When You Need Solitude?

Published January 27, 2022 by Maryanne

I’m so blessed to live alone with my husband and our cats in a decent-sized house. We have no children, so it’s always peaceful here. If my husband plays the stereo too loud, I kindly ask, “Can you please turn it down?” If I need to concentrate on work, I’m in my office and I tell him not to disturb me. Otherwise, we are either quiet or loud together, whichever way we’re feeling.

Upstairs, in addition to other rooms, I have a private room I call my “Zen Den.” This is where I keep my recent diaries, my incense, my crystals, many books, and all my CDs. I also have a spiritual altar there. Each morning I go in the Zen Den to have some moments to myself, to write in my diary and speak to The Universe.

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/

Maryanne is also available for book editing and coaching. Rates are competitive.

Bloganuary Challenge – Day 26 – Favorite Part of Yourself

Published January 26, 2022 by Maryanne

MY PERSONALITY!

Yes, I’ll say it shamelessly. I have a dynamic personality!

In a world of pigeons, I’m a flamingo.

I’m fun and funny. I’m upbeat. I smile at strangers. I make lemonade out of lemons.

I have a great lust for life and appreciate each waking moment.

Loving yourself is a blessing. Love yourself today!

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/

Maryanne is also available for book editing and coaching. Rates are competitive.

Bloganuary Challenge – Day 25 – What Makes You Feel Strong?

Published January 25, 2022 by Maryanne
Me, 2007, age 44

What makes me feel strong? That’s an easy one–ME!

I worked hard to be able to work for myself as a writer. Knowing that I can effortlessly DELIVER a stellar product that needs minimal editing in minimal time makes me feel invincible. I get such a high off my work, my heart races. Being my own boss is strength and I owe it to no one but myself.

Prior to falling in love with my husband, and finally having a beautiful soul to lean on, I lived alone for 15 years. While I dated plenty, there was no one I was serious about and I did most everything for myself and by myself.

I’m so blessed I married a man who trusts me. I feel so free; more so than when I was single. We’re together most of the time, but sometimes if I want to do something alone (usually career-related, like a business trip, or lunch with the girls) I can count on him to be trusting and genuinely happy for me. Marrying a man like that was important to me.

Having a strong sense of independence in both your career and personal life is empowering. I think every woman should rely on HERSELF for strength! Strength = Security! You can do it!

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/

Maryanne is also available for book editing and coaching. Rates are competitive.

Bloganuary Challenge – Day 22 – What is Your Favorite Quote and Why?

Published January 22, 2022 by Maryanne

I have enemies. A ton of them.

Maybe “enemy” is a strong word, but let’s just say there are many people who dislike me. And I know exactly why they don’t like me and I refuse to change.

First, let’s back up a bit. I’m not a victim being too hard on myself or imagining things. I know my good qualities. I’m a fantastic person because of these high-quality traits:

  1. I am not a jealous person. I’ll be the first to give a compliment and cheer a friend on for his/her successes. I’m the one who notices things like a new piece of jewelry, a great haircut, and when someone is glowing. If someone is in love–I pick up on it!
  2. I show up on time. I don’t like making people wait for me. Who the hell am I?
  3. I go to everyone’s events. Is your band playing tonight? Are you a featured artist in a gallery? Count me in to support you!
  4. I’ll do something I don’t like just to accompany someone so they don’t have to go alone. For example, if a friend has tickets to a concert and no one else wants to go, I’ll go whether I like the band or not. Just to have a new experience and make someone happy means so much to me.
  5. I return phone calls and emails in a timely manner.

And now for my “worst” quality, which I don’t see as a bad one, but others do. I actually wish more people had this “bad” quality because it’s an honest one. Although in this day and age we’re living in a world of wusses. People can’t take anything that rocks their boat.

My worst quality is that I call people on their bullshit. No, that doesn’t mean telling someone they are fat. Or they look old in that hairstyle. Or that their laugh is like nails on a chalkboard. I’m not that person, even though people have said cruel things like that to me.

My gig is more about calling out people when they are not too nice of a friend. Like if someone asks a question that crosses the line and is way too personal, I’ll let them know. If a friendship isn’t what it used to be, I’ll ask someone if I did something wrong; how can I fix it? And if someone ignores a heartfelt email where I bared my soul, I will ask, why do you feel it’s unimportant not to respond? For example, someone dies, and you share. Why would someone not call you IMMEDIATELY and ask, “How can I help?” If your not holding up to your end of the friendship, I’m going to let you know.

This type of honesty jars people. It pushes them out of their comfort zone. I’ve always felt that we can only grow as people if we learn about each other. And part of that learning process is to discuss things, especially if they are bothersome. Too many people are quick to throw away friendships because they consider talking/discussing “drama.”

We live in a world where people are no longer reading. They’re scrolling on their phones looking at photos, like zombies. No one can effectively communicate anymore.

But if friends can’t have a proper discussion, is it really a friendship? I don’t think so.

The good news is, There will always be other friendships–and people in general. Keep trying until you find your tribe. Whether it’s friends, or romantic relationships, or even the right dentist, with billions of people in the world, there’s no reason to settle for an unsatisfying friendship, or unsatisfying service, or unsatisfying anything. Keep being you! Because YOU stood up for something in your life–and that’s a good thing!

[Insert heart emoji here].

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/

Maryanne is also available for book editing. Rates are competitive.