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More on Anti-Bullying

Published June 2, 2015 by Maryanne

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My first book, “On the Guest List: Adventures of a Music Journalist” shares my experiences with being bullied in high school. I want all parents to know, that when a child is bullied, it’s not about your child, it’s about the bully being incompetent. The best advice was given to me by my grandmother, to let them know you are not afraid. That worked, but sadly when there is one, there’s another and defending yourself is a work in progress.

In my later years, I look back in pity on the bullies as I realized most of them were bullied at home, by their parents. It’s up to EVERYONE to work together on this. I truly believe when parents say, “Not my little darling” it could be their cover-up for child abuse. Children do re-act to how they are treated at home by duplicating in the playground and the locker room. A girl from Germany who was a whole year older than me because she got left back to learn better English harassed me (that means she was 18, picking on a MINOR, so my mother could have pressed charges on her!) in the locker room taking a photo of me when I was changing. (God bless my little sister who said, “At least you have great legs!”) I learned this girl’s father abused her by making her walk around the house naked because she walked in on him while he was going to the bathroom.

That girl used her anger towards her father on me and abused me in both grammar school and high school. One day she had a bad acid trip and was crying to me and confessed she was jealous of me. When I brought this up to a guidance counselor, the bully lied and said she never said such a thing and said she didn’t like me because I was a punk rocker. (That’s hilarious and even more of a reason to pity that person who was legally an adult tormenting me).

I share because today I am extremely happy and blessed to have the best husband in the world. Anyone who reads “Guest List” will see that it’s a very positive story with no dark descent into drugs or alcohol. And though it’s not a children’s book, it’s an inspiring story parents can share with their children.

Note: I recommend parental guidance for “Guest List” because of bad language (hey, it’s a punk book!) and some delicate situations where I share about being a young woman navigating NYC during a more dangerous time.

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Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta is available to speak in schools on anti-bullying. Please contact her at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com for pricing and availability. Will travel!

Only Women Bleed, and Bleed and Bleed (Review of Carrie – 2013)

Published October 27, 2013 by Maryanne

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As I blogged earlier this year, I am a huge “Carrie” fan. (Check out my blog from April, “Carrie On!” https://maryannemistretta.wordpress.com/2013/04/17/carrie-on/)

I read the book by Stephen King (before the original movie came out in 1976) and saw all the movies. Loved each and every one, including the newest release, “Carrie.” I saw it last night and was major impressed.

Sometimes we purists don’t like our originals to be tainted, but with modern twists it’s proven that you can perfect perfection.

Chloe Grace Moretz plays a perfect 21st Century Carrie. She’s sweet, smart, and best of all — empowered. She sasses her religious fanatic mom Margaret White, played brilliantly by Julianne Moore, she’s on to her bully classmates questioning their motives and she grows as a person throughout the movie. Not to mention, she’s absolutely precious, so you truly feel sorry for all she deals with.

A bully is always a bully, but in this modern version of Carrie they take it to the next tragic level of harassment with Smart Phone uploads. “Carrie” also illustrates the truth in that teachers are not always perfect, parents will often defend their little darlings no matter how wrong they are, and as annoying as text messaging is — there is tenderness in a few simple words, as we learn that Tommy Ross, played by Ansel Elgort is sincere in pursuing a friendship with Carrie by taking her to the prom (what you never really learned in the original, as you always second guessed — something I always hated about the original) and double kudos in showing via text message, even though Tommy Ross thinks Carrie is beautiful, he is still loyal to his girlfriend — a special sweet brief moment that makes the “good guys” (Carrie, Tommy and Sue Snell, played by Gabriella Wilde) all the more endearing.

Oh, and there’s plenty of gore and blood — menstruation blood, blood from knife wounds and of course pig blood (but it’s noted that no animals were harmed during this motion picture).

And of all the Carries, Chloe Grace Moretz does not go down without a fight — a big one … in fact, so big she’s almost Godzilla-like in the final scenes — as the audience cheers her on! Carrie is definitely an iconic hero in this flick.

I highly recommend — especially to bullies because telekinesis is more common than you would think. So beware of who you pick on, there’s a little “Carrie” in all of us! Or at least there should be.