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Too Busy

Published January 4, 2017 by Maryanne

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Last night I was reading my old diaries from 1993. I was only 29-years-old and really loving my life. At that time I was living in a beautiful world people can’t even imagine today. Even as a very good-looking young woman, I had my dateless, lonely nights. The difference was, if you had the blues back then you could count on a phone call from at least five friends in one night! So being sad was not an option.

Today, other than my husband who I could always count on, I can’t imagine conversing with any of my friends without first making an appointment to speak with them. People are always so “busy.” Picking up the phone is no longer an option. So, I just cry instead.

The first of the year usually means new beginnings. As someone who is self-employed, this is usually the time when my business takes off. People always come to me for ghost writing, book editing, and public speaking engagements because they know they can count on me. There’s an old saying, “If you need something done, ask the busiest person you know because he/she will get it done for you.”

That said, I have to question everyone else’s version of “busy.” Because even when my version of “busy” gets so crazy, I’m glued to my desk for hours without getting up for a drink or to go to the bathroom, I ALWAYS sincerely answer an email from a friend who is in need.

This week started out as one of those busy weeks. Then one person cancelled an appointment — at the last minute. So not cool. And another just totally stood me up — no email, no phone call, no explanation.

I was heartbroken for being slighted. This is not the way I do business. This is not how I’d treat somebody. For all the technology we have in this day and age, this should not be. In this modern world, no one can be too busy to type three simple words in an email: “Can we reschedule?” And, I might add, at an appropriate time, not at the last minute unless someone very close to you died. Even so, I think back to when my father-in-law, who sometimes lived with us, passed away three months ago … I still was able to conduct business in a professional manner. And I still listened to problems from friends who needed a friend. Is it so much to ask the same in return?

It is not narcissistic to expect to be treated with respect. My time is just as important as anyone else’s. But here I am, crying my eyes out in the middle of the day, waiting patiently for my husband to get home so I can cry on his shoulder.

It is far from being “unprofessional” when you are disappointed by how so-called professionals treat you. There really needs to be a book on manners in this day and age. What happened to the Miss Manners column that ran in newspapers on a daily basis? Oh, I know, no one reads newspapers anymore.

No one does a lot of things anymore that they should. It’s a sad world we live in. A world without manners. A world without consideration. A world where people do whatever they please as long as it suits them.

And nothing can be done about it either. Just wait for the good karma you’ve been owed … so then things will turn around … and you’ll get everything you’ve ever deserved … because you already have a lot of it … Like a husband who truly adores and loves you. Because you were never “too busy” to find someone you adore and love.

So, hooray for demystifying the “too busy” myth! For those who are “too busy” will never seep the rewards that come from making time.

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta is an award-winning writer and a public speaker. Contact her at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com 

 

 

 

“Day of Gratitude” Health & Wellness Fair

Published November 16, 2015 by Maryanne

SAM_9206Enjoying a smoothie sample with health coach Barb Minemier (left)

A great big thank you to Heroes Journey CrossFit Lake Parsippany (http://www.heroesjourney.com/) for hosting a fabulous “Day of Gratitude” at their center on Sunday. It was so well organized and the energy was amazing. I can’t stop raving about what a great time it was!

While they had keynote speakers New York Times best selling author and retired surgeon Dr. Bernie Siegel and NBC’s “Biggest Loser” finalist Jay Jacob, I was totally wrapped up enjoying the mini sessions and vendor services. Below are the ones that resonated most with me.

PRACTITIONERS

Barb Minemier, Health Coach (http://nourishingourspirit.com/) Barb was awesome! We hit it off right away as we talked about nutritional drinks and shared smoothie recipes. Today I enjoyed her kale/blueberry — twice!

Sandy Townsend, Transference Healing (http://www.diamondascension.net) Sandy is a beautiful soul inside and out and was completely helpful in helping me overcome a spiritual issue from a past life. I highly recommend her!

Dr. Robert Kandarjian, Energy Healing (http://www.drrobertheals.com/) Dr. Kandarjian is a very intense and caring energy healer. He’s extremely positive and picks up on your energies immediately, then shares his reflective insights. I look forward to reading his books! Come back in the near future and you’ll see some book reviews!

Susan Richter, Next Level Healing (http://www.nextlevelhealing.com/) If I ever go to a nutritionist again, it will definitely be Susan. She is very down to earth, honest and takes a lot of time with you. She went in depth speaking to me about how enzymes are great for your health.

Jeanie Pasquale, Energy Clearing (http://househarmony.wix.com/dowsing) Jeanie was adorable and we had a great conversation about how energy clearing can affect the home for the positive!

Dr. Jersey Wulster, Life Coach (http://www.drjersey.com/) Oh my goodness!! Dr. Jerzey is the goddess of the day! I already made an appointment to see her in a few weeks. Her 15 minutes of coaching was a godsend to me. I look forward to meeting with her and getting to the next step in my career as author and public speaker. She’s insightful, perceptive, and warm. ❤

Thanks to Denville Medical Sports Rehab Center (http://www.denvillemedical.com/), their massage therapist Carolina gave me the best massage! Her fingers are pure magic!

And special thanks to Sara at Heroes Journey for her killer reiki session that was pure euphoria!

VENDORS

Mo Green Juice (http://www.mogreenjuice.com/) WOW! This juice spoke to me! Raw (cold-pressed), it tasted like it came right out of the juicer! Their website shares where to get it.

Harvest Home Meats (http://harvesthomemeats.com/) No samples at their table, but you can’t go wrong with grass fed beef.

Smart Snack Bites (https://www.smartsnackbites.com/) They had a very tasty chocolate paleo cookie!

DoTerra (http://www.mydoterra.com/deniseschwendeman) Even though I’m a Young Living girl, I ain’t too proud to give a shout out to our competitor! There is enough love and abundance in the world for everyone, so never fear competition! Plus, Denise was super cool and cute, so paying it forward! ❤

Liana Delaurent (http://www.lianadelaurent.com/) Energy art!

Cupa Cabana (http://cupacabana.com/) Lovely espresso!

 Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta is an author, public speaker, book editor and ghost writer. She is also a Young Living Distributor. Contact her at: MaryanneChristiano@gmail.com For more information visit: https://peartreeenterprises.wordpress.com/

BeachDreamDezines

Published September 5, 2015 by Maryanne

Beach DreamDesign by Sarah Miller Geer

Sarah Miller Geer grew up in New York City and always had a love for the ocean.

She remembers her parents taking her to Atlantic City when she was a little girl and walking on the boardwalk, with the beach “right there.”

The Jackson, New Jersey, resident started making beach-inspired jewelry about 15 years ago, at first as a hobby for herself. Then when friends asked her to make something for them, she wouldn’t charge. When her friends wore the creations to work, they’d get orders for Sarah, who said, “I didn’t intend for it to be more than a hobby.”

Her business is strictly online. You can visit her Etsy shop at: https://www.etsy.com/shop/BeachDreamDezines or visit her Facebook page at: https://www.facebook.com/Beachdreamdezines

Designs are one-of-kind made from items found right on the Jersey shore beaches, like real starfishes — only the dead ones … Sarah loves animals and throws the real ones back into the ocean! She also uses seashells that aren’t broken, sea glass and “sand from Point Pleasant and Seaside.”

Currently Sarah is learning more advanced techniques for jewelry making, such as wire wrapping. She said, “Wire wrapping allows no room for mistakes.”

When Sarah isn’t making jewelry, she loves photography. And the beach is still her major inspiration. She said, “I love to photograph nature, seagulls, clouds … anything to do with the beach.”

Enjoy shopping for your beach dream designs — but not the one pictured, that’s for me! I’ll be purchasing when I meet Sarah face-to-face later this month! 🙂 ❤

“Hope” — There are better words and phrases

Published March 26, 2015 by Maryanne

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Several years ago a friend told me not to use the word “hope” and that it’s a “negative word.”

The more I thought about it, I realized he’s right. Though the dictionary’s definition of “hope” is a positive outcome, I feel that in life it’s an overused word that can sound extremely … uh … hopeless.

When people say or write: “I hope everything is all right.” The first thing that comes to mind is Black Francis, of The Pixies, and his cry of desperation in the opening of the song, “Mr. Grieves.”

“Hope everything is all right …” From the tone of his voice, it certainly doesn’t sound “all right.”

When people write me that line, I snap back: “Why wouldn’t it be?! Am I on my death bed?”

That line just doesn’t sound refreshing. It makes me think of crotchety old-before-their-time people complaining about their bleak future. My immediate response is to spin it around and write back what a blessing LIFE is! Because I’m MORE than just “okay.” And I’m more than “hope.” I’m manifestation of life’s every day miracles! It’s just so great to be alive!

In Law of Attraction, it’s more awesome to view positive things as something that has already happened.

When I write emails to friends, my emails reek of positivity:

“I bet you’re rockin’ it!”

“I’m excited to hear what you’re up to!”

“What’s new, Pretty Lady?”

“Great to hear from you! How the hell are you?!”

Now, tell me these phrases aren’t better than a boring, outdated phrase like: “Hope you’re okay.”

When you use enthusiasm in your words, it automatically lifts the vibrations, therefore lifting the spirits of the person you’re addressing. Be creative and exciting in your words! Let that lust for life wear off on other people and put a great spin on the day!

I don’t “hope” you have a nice day — I KNOW you’re gonna have a great day!

And even when people aren’t having a good day, they always tell me that I’ve lifted their spirits by my positive attitude.

So, let’s not “hope” — let’s TRUST!

Soft Sell

Published March 25, 2015 by Maryanne

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I was very happy going to my accountant yesterday. Not because I’m happy to pay taxes, but because I was able to share with him that my business is finally exactly the way I want it: author, journalist, book editor and public speaker.

Marketing was always in the mix, but I always hated it, though it was a lot of fun at times, especially when I scored. However, I’m so relieved that at this point in my life, the only person I’m promoting is myself (subtly).

When people say “no” I take it as a “no.” No means no, not maybe. No means moving on to the next person. Maybe means the same. I don’t harass people until they say “yes.”

And what is really cool about this method is that out of the blue, people contact me to speak or to write articles or to use my services. People find me via word of mouth, from my lectures or from my website. It’s the greatest feeling in the world when people come to you without you even trying.

I call this “spiritual marketing.”

Not too long ago, November of last year, I became a distributor of Young Living Oils. The person who got me on board makes a ton of money selling these oils. I hopped on board, not for the money — because face it, if making money is your ultimate goal, there are a ton of things you can do to make money — but because I believe in the product.

As a Young Living person I was taught the tools — to promote on Face Book, to have parties, to learn about the oils, to share with EVERYONE you know, etc.

I did none of that.

I got people on board, organically and honestly. By simply sharing what I loved about the oils when (AND IF!) they came up in conversation. One friend who came on board said she did so because I “wasn’t pushy.”

The words “Young Living” have a bad reputation. Some say it’s cult-like. Some use the oils and believe they are the end-all. Me, I love the oils very much and use them every day. I enjoy them. And I want to share them with those who can also benefit. And like every other good thing in my life — that is the end of it. Young Living Oils are a part of my life, not MY LIFE. I love Young Living Oils, but I am not of that cult. I’m merely in the corner, not in the spotlight and certainly not losing my religion.

Even if I made all the money in the world selling Young Living Oils, it would not stop me from doing other things I love like writing books and public speaking. I don’t see Young Living Oils as the “retirement plan” many say it is. Selling oils is just not creative enough to make me happy. (Though the creative health aspect of it excites me which is why I am so into it!)

My point is, some people get through life by being a hard sell. And that is not me. While my personality is pretty dynamic, I’m not a pushy person. I’m a live and let live type. All I have in life came to me in a natural way: My husband, my cats, my friendships, my career …

I’m not saying I’m a slacker. No, not by any means. But via the Law of Attraction, I ALLOW good things into my life. I do not FORCE them.

And guess what? I’m doing really, really good by this holistic method.

We live in a society where everyone wants everything fast. Women push men into relationships and marriage. People don’t climb the corporate ladder anymore, they sprint up skipping many great steps along the way. I have to say, as successful as some of these people are, I kind of feel sorry for some of them.

There’s a beauty in going slow and waiting for the all goodness in the world. I wish more people would see that. By being a late bloomer and taking my time, I think I enjoy my life more than those who whiz through it. I do take big chances though. I’ve left jobs without another lined up. Same with boyfriends when I was single. But that all falls into the category of not forcing things to happen.

I remember, back when I was 12, I dug a catchy hook in an Al Stewart song, “Nothing that’s forced can ever be right, if it doesn’t come naturally leave it.”

I took those lyrics to heart and still do. From dating boys to job hunts to finally running my business and being an amazing wife, kitty mom and friend … nothing should ever be hard or forced. Just enjoy your life and all you do — that is when the good fortune comes, when you’re relaxed about it.

Religious or Spiritual? Universal!

Published February 24, 2015 by Maryanne

HelloBuddhaDrawing by Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta, 2005

“Religion” means God-fearing. And in this day and age “spiritual” means people-fearing. People are so afraid others thinking they are Catholic or Christian, they wear the word “spiritual” like a badge of courage.

That upsets me.

Because while, no doubt, it’s not healthy to be God-fearing, dogmatic and/or pious, religion does have a huge place in ethereal growth. Yes, even Christianity.

Hear me out.

In the mid-1980s, I spent almost a year studying several different religions with a spiritual mentor. I was only in my mid-20s and back then it was unheard of for a young girl to want to study with a man old enough to be her father. For almost a year, I spent less time in nightclubs and more time in meditation. It was a wondrous experience I will never forget and have several diaries in case I do.

The conclusion I came to was that everyone is right. In fact, my favorite book that my mentor gave me was called “Everyone is Right” which is available on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Everyone-Comparative-Religion-Relation-Science/dp/0875165656

Even though I came to this conclusion I was still drawn to the Christian church. What can I say, I just love the teachings of Jesus Christ. Mind you, I was never forced to go to church as a child. I came to love Jesus on my own. And a few years ago I found a Christian church I was able to call “home” though I don’t go as often as I probably should.

Some Christians don’t relate to me because I still take from other religions. And on the flip side, many non-Christians turn their noses up on me as well for going to church.

It’s okay though. I feel completely comfortable being around others who are not exactly thinking like me. This is the beauty of putting faith into a ritual (of sorts) and sticking to your guns about it. I feel that in order to grow spiritually, you need to be around others who are different from you. That kind of experience makes you more spiritual. Uh … wait … I can’t use that word, it’s become too hipster (and possibly a code word for non-Christian).

Let’s just say I’m universal! That’s a badge of courage I can live with! 🙂

Happy Birthday!

Published December 19, 2014 by Maryanne

Happy Birthday Dogs

YES! I’ve come up with the least offensive Seasons Greeting — suitable for ALL!

If you say, “Happy Holidays” it offends Christians. If you say “Merry Christmas” it offends everyone else. So just say, “Happy Birthday!”

Happy Birthday is a win-win-win, because #1 Christians will think you’re saying Happy Birthday to Jesus; #2 Others will think you meant to say “Happy Holidays”; #3 Those who have birthdays around this time of year and often feel neglected because of the holiday hoopla will feel extra special!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ALL!