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Rest in Paradise Shakti Gawain

Published November 13, 2018 by Maryanne

DSCF3126The books at my bedside 

I was devastated to find out that spiritual guru Shakti Gawain died two days ago. The date was November 11, 2018 –11/11/11 (2+0+1+8=11).  Eleven is the most intuitive of all numbers, a master number associated with faith and psychics. 

I first read her book “Creative Visualization” a few years after it was published. I was only 24 and on the beginning of my spiritual journey, with my mentor, Bayani Mendoza de Leon.

Back then, books like this were considered “esoteric.” I had to put a brown paper cover over them so people wouldn’t think I was “weird.”

Fast forward to today. Everyone is into yoga, meditation, spirituality (or so they say) and it’s all out in the open. That said, I’m not ashamed to say I cried my eyes out learning of her death. You see, when I first read “Creative Visualization” I had an “aha” moment before that was a term.  “So THAT is what it’s called!” I was familiar with being a visual creator since I was about 12. I continued using it as a tool my entire life, and it was later known as “Law of Attraction.”

I passed on the “Creative Visualization” books to friends over the years. And a copy always found its way back into my hands. I’ve kept Shakti’s books by my bedside to read during bouts with insomnia. Each time I read her words I felt a new awakening in my soul. I never met the woman, but I feel like I lost a friend. There is a hole in my heart in learning of her death. As I’m so sure many feel the same. My wish is that someday I’ll see her on the other side of my spiritual journey. Until then, I will continue to visually create, here on Earth.

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta is the author of “I Don’t Want to Be Like You” traditionally by Higher Ground and available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Want-Be-Like-You/dp/1726273261

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta is available for speaking engagements throughout the USA and overseas. Email for pricing and dates: maryannechristiano@gmail.com

“Hope” — There are better words and phrases

Published March 26, 2015 by Maryanne

Photo by DennisPhoto by Mistretta

Several years ago a friend told me not to use the word “hope” and that it’s a “negative word.”

The more I thought about it, I realized he’s right. Though the dictionary’s definition of “hope” is a positive outcome, I feel that in life it’s an overused word that can sound extremely … uh … hopeless.

When people say or write: “I hope everything is all right.” The first thing that comes to mind is Black Francis, of The Pixies, and his cry of desperation in the opening of the song, “Mr. Grieves.”

“Hope everything is all right …” From the tone of his voice, it certainly doesn’t sound “all right.”

When people write me that line, I snap back: “Why wouldn’t it be?! Am I on my death bed?”

That line just doesn’t sound refreshing. It makes me think of crotchety old-before-their-time people complaining about their bleak future. My immediate response is to spin it around and write back what a blessing LIFE is! Because I’m MORE than just “okay.” And I’m more than “hope.” I’m manifestation of life’s every day miracles! It’s just so great to be alive!

In Law of Attraction, it’s more awesome to view positive things as something that has already happened.

When I write emails to friends, my emails reek of positivity:

“I bet you’re rockin’ it!”

“I’m excited to hear what you’re up to!”

“What’s new, Pretty Lady?”

“Great to hear from you! How the hell are you?!”

Now, tell me these phrases aren’t better than a boring, outdated phrase like: “Hope you’re okay.”

When you use enthusiasm in your words, it automatically lifts the vibrations, therefore lifting the spirits of the person you’re addressing. Be creative and exciting in your words! Let that lust for life wear off on other people and put a great spin on the day!

I don’t “hope” you have a nice day — I KNOW you’re gonna have a great day!

And even when people aren’t having a good day, they always tell me that I’ve lifted their spirits by my positive attitude.

So, let’s not “hope” — let’s TRUST!

Soft Sell

Published March 25, 2015 by Maryanne

maryanne backMaryanne, 2011, photo by Darlene Foster

I was very happy going to my accountant yesterday. Not because I’m happy to pay taxes, but because I was able to share with him that my business is finally exactly the way I want it: author, journalist, book editor and public speaker.

Marketing was always in the mix, but I always hated it, though it was a lot of fun at times, especially when I scored. However, I’m so relieved that at this point in my life, the only person I’m promoting is myself (subtly).

When people say “no” I take it as a “no.” No means no, not maybe. No means moving on to the next person. Maybe means the same. I don’t harass people until they say “yes.”

And what is really cool about this method is that out of the blue, people contact me to speak or to write articles or to use my services. People find me via word of mouth, from my lectures or from my website. It’s the greatest feeling in the world when people come to you without you even trying.

I call this “spiritual marketing.”

Not too long ago, November of last year, I became a distributor of Young Living Oils. The person who got me on board makes a ton of money selling these oils. I hopped on board, not for the money — because face it, if making money is your ultimate goal, there are a ton of things you can do to make money — but because I believe in the product.

As a Young Living person I was taught the tools — to promote on Face Book, to have parties, to learn about the oils, to share with EVERYONE you know, etc.

I did none of that.

I got people on board, organically and honestly. By simply sharing what I loved about the oils when (AND IF!) they came up in conversation. One friend who came on board said she did so because I “wasn’t pushy.”

The words “Young Living” have a bad reputation. Some say it’s cult-like. Some use the oils and believe they are the end-all. Me, I love the oils very much and use them every day. I enjoy them. And I want to share them with those who can also benefit. And like every other good thing in my life — that is the end of it. Young Living Oils are a part of my life, not MY LIFE. I love Young Living Oils, but I am not of that cult. I’m merely in the corner, not in the spotlight and certainly not losing my religion.

Even if I made all the money in the world selling Young Living Oils, it would not stop me from doing other things I love like writing books and public speaking. I don’t see Young Living Oils as the “retirement plan” many say it is. Selling oils is just not creative enough to make me happy. (Though the creative health aspect of it excites me which is why I am so into it!)

My point is, some people get through life by being a hard sell. And that is not me. While my personality is pretty dynamic, I’m not a pushy person. I’m a live and let live type. All I have in life came to me in a natural way: My husband, my cats, my friendships, my career …

I’m not saying I’m a slacker. No, not by any means. But via the Law of Attraction, I ALLOW good things into my life. I do not FORCE them.

And guess what? I’m doing really, really good by this holistic method.

We live in a society where everyone wants everything fast. Women push men into relationships and marriage. People don’t climb the corporate ladder anymore, they sprint up skipping many great steps along the way. I have to say, as successful as some of these people are, I kind of feel sorry for some of them.

There’s a beauty in going slow and waiting for the all goodness in the world. I wish more people would see that. By being a late bloomer and taking my time, I think I enjoy my life more than those who whiz through it. I do take big chances though. I’ve left jobs without another lined up. Same with boyfriends when I was single. But that all falls into the category of not forcing things to happen.

I remember, back when I was 12, I dug a catchy hook in an Al Stewart song, “Nothing that’s forced can ever be right, if it doesn’t come naturally leave it.”

I took those lyrics to heart and still do. From dating boys to job hunts to finally running my business and being an amazing wife, kitty mom and friend … nothing should ever be hard or forced. Just enjoy your life and all you do — that is when the good fortune comes, when you’re relaxed about it.

Order What You Like!

Published March 20, 2014 by Maryanne

SAM_2085Living Life to the Fullest!

It was so sad going to the bank today, one of the older tellers was complaining how she hated her job.

I suggested she do something she like instead. Another customer over heard me, a young hipster with half his head shaved who started yelling, “I need money, I can’t do what I want!”

I said, “You can do anything you want in life.”

He ignored me and kept yelling. She tried telling me what she REALLY wanted to do, but his voice kept over powering hers, ranting and raving how you can’t make money if you do what you want.

I could have used myself as an example, but I said, “I’m not saying anything people will hate me.”

The teller thought I meant the other tellers. I meant the young hipster.

I couldn’t wait to get out of there. The negativity was draining.

Then when I looked at my emails this evening, in one of the radio blogs I subscribe to, this was on the bottom of the email:

“Life is like a restaurant, order what you like and expect it to arrive!”

I was like, ABSOLUTELY! It’s so refreshing when you have that feeling of, okay, I’m not crazy … someone else actually GETS IT!

Not that I need validation that I’m living my life to the fullest, but I do take these signs as positive omens.