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Why You SHOULD Work With Friends

Published January 26, 2020 by Maryanne

Darlene Asbury Park

The Friends That Create Together, Stay Together! 

Pictured in photo, left, Darlene Foster, right Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta

URGH! A few days ago I overheard someone utter that dreadful cliche, “You shouldn’t work with friends.” Yeah, say that to Mick Jagger and Keith Richards!

Like the Glitter Twins, I’m here to prove that silly saying wrong. Hear me out…

I’ve found my magical “glitter twin” in not only my husband, but in many friends! But before I share the magic, here are my top reasons why it’s best to work with friends/lovers:

  • You already like/love each other, so you are off to a good start. There’s no tension, no “breaking the ice,” and the competitiveness is healthy — you want each other to succeed.
  • True friends/true lovers are NOT jealous of each other.
  • You thrive off of your creative differences.
  • You move ahead faster because you know each other well.
  • Celebrations of success are that much sweeter.

Working with someone you don’t know very well (or don’t like) never brings a project to fruition. Countless times I’ve stopped editing or ghost writing a book because I couldn’t stand the person I was working with. I’ve had dream jobs I’ve quit because my co-workers were the pits (and came out ahead of the game with the next job or project – go me!)

So, if someone tells you it’s not a good idea to work with a friend or a lover, I’m here to prove them wrong. Of the hundreds of friend/lover collaborations I’ve done over the years, here are a handful of my random favorites (in no particular order).

The Hounds of Winter “Come On Christmas”  

The above video was made possible by people in my circle who are all forever connected, Ric Pink; vocals; Tom DiPaolo: guitars; Dennis Mistretta (my husband): bass; Tom Corea: drums; and I did backing vocals at the last minute. Oh, and my good friend Darlene Foster (long-time girlfriend of the guitarist Tom DiPaolo) created the cover art. The CD was made in 2012. Note, sometimes Tom Corea’s wife Carol plays instruments on the CDs too.

Seltzer’s Rainbow Heart 

Editing “Seltzer’s Rainbow Heart” for my good friend Jayne DiGregorio, was super fun. It was the beginning of many projects we have done together. I’ve helped her promote the book, wrote about her Care Bear non-profit for newspapers, and we worked together on other projects too. Working together was never a problem, it only brought us closer.

Darlene Foster 

Ten years ago I modeled for my artist/photographer friend Darlene Foster. And some of the photos sold too! Since then she’s designed two of my book covers, and is a current participant in my upcoming book, “Fantastic without Plastic” (a book about positive, attractive women who look/feel amazing while shunning plastic surgery and Botox).

And while my husband is a humble person who doesn’t like to be called out in blogs or on Facebook, I have to override him this time to say that he’s the one person I can count on who ALWAYS (and I do mean ALWAYS) reads my articles. He comes to as many of my speaking engagements as he can (and gives me rides too!) and cheers me on when I come up with new ideas. When I’m feeling down, he’s the one I can count on to remind me, I’ve got a name.

Can you get all that from a mere acquaintance or someone in an office you barely know?! ABSOLUTELY NOT!

And all that said, if I need to work with someone, I will call on a my husband or a friend first! I know they are reliable, fun, hard-working, and creative. It’s a joyful existence for sure!

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is available for blogging, ghost writing, writing. She is also available for book signings and motivational speaking engagements. She is the author of the following books :

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit: https://www.amazon.com/Be-Extra-Ordinary-Ways-Become/dp/1733546227

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Want-Be-Like-You/dp/1726273261

“The Gypsy Smiled” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, go here: https://www.amazon.com/Gypsy-Smiled-Maryanne-Christiano-Mistretta-ebook/dp/B074VC7MT9

 

 

 

 

 

 

Anti-Bullying Book “I Don’t Want to Be Like You” Now Available on Audiobooks!

Published June 21, 2019 by Maryanne

BookCoverPreview Mistretta

I am ecstatic that my book “I Don’t Want to Be Like You” published by Higher Ground Books & Media, is now available on AUDIO! (https://www.audible.com/pd/I-Dont-Want-to-Be-Like-You-Audiobook/B07TB2VKWY?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWT-BK-ACX0-155390&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_155390_rh_us)

Sarah Staton is the voice who made my story come to life!

My book takes place growing up in the 1970s when I was bullied in both grade school and high school. And I’m sad to say, that even in this day and age bullying continues. Children are committing suicide because of assholes who have not yet evolved. Adults are secretly emailing me, “Write something about bullying in the workplace.”

It makes me so angry that 50 years later, it’s not getting better but worse.

Bullies target those who are unique; those who speak up for themselves; those who are shy; those who are creative; those who are very smart and think out of the box; those who don’t follow the crowd; and those who are very good looking. If you recognize yourself in any of those words, you most likely were a target for a bully. Because victims are often so smart and creative, they also carry around insecurities. Smart and creative people never feel good enough. You know that old saying, a genius never sees himself as one. Bullies pick up on this and attack.

The good news is, there is no reason at all to feel shame. It’s not you, it’s them. Bullies are the ones who feel hurt, sad, unloved, ugly, dumb, so they target others to make themselves feel big. Bullies are also masters at gas lighting (making others think THEY are the ones who are crazy). It’s a manipulative way for a bully to “win.”

Truth be told, all bullies are losers. If you can’t come from a place of love, you’ll never evolve. And isn’t evolution the ultimate goal? 

I recently sent out a call for speaking engagements. I let everyone know I am READY to speak out against bullying — in libraries, schools, corporations — and I will travel.

One of the responses I received was that bullying isn’t going away.

I did not know how to answer that. From what I wrote above, you may think I agree that it’s not going away. But hear me out, I now believe differently.

I was speaking to someone in a health food store earlier today. This man asked me if I was a vegan.

I said, “No, but I eat vegan for several days at a time.” I further explained I was a vegetarian/vegan for 28 years, from ages 23 to 51. Then I started eating meat (grass-fed only, and some chicken — no pork or veal!) to get my health in order. (I went from having low blood sugar, thyroid issues, low white blood cell count, very low blood pressure/borderline anemic as a vegetarian to a person of perfect health with some meat back in my body!)

After hearing my story, my new vegan friend thanked me for being one of the leaders in the movement back in the day when it was HARD. Now it’s easy! There are more vegans than ever and you can get vegan food anywhere. But in 1986, I was considered a “weirdo” for not eating meat.

What does this have to do with bullying, you may ask? 

You see, over 30 years ago, people didn’t get vegetarians. But we’ve evolved. Now we get it. And people are health conscious and accepting. The smarter ones are getting along in harmony. THIS can happen with bullying too!

At age 55, I see myself having at least another good 30 years on this planet, in this body I rented. In the year 2049, I TRULY BELIEVE, bullying will be on its way to extinction. We will evolve and change the world. Bullies will be the new neanderthals … so over. People who love will no longer be the weirdos. They will be the WINNERS! The meek will surely inherit the earth.

I CAN’T WAIT!

In the meantime, please purchase my book or audio book, it may save your child’s life when he or she hears about how I was bullied, but grew up to be successful and happy!

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is available for blogging, ghost writing, writing, and motivational speaking engagements. She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: Ten Ways to Become Your Own Hero” will be available October 2019. To pre-order, go here: https://kicamprojects.com/shop/be-extraordinary/

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your copy, go here: https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Want-Be-Like-You/dp/1726273261

 

Best Evaluator at Toastmasters

Published May 11, 2019 by Maryanne

DSCF3648Maryanne Christiano Mistretta – Best Evaluator, Toastmasters International

It’s been a glorious week in my public speaking journey. Sunday I was honored to present a workshop, “Be Your Own Hero” for Toastmasters District 83. And Thursday night I won for “Best Evaluator.”

I’ve only been a member of Toastmasters since October 2018, and in seven short months I’ve scored the workshop, won for “Best Speaker,” “Best Table Topics,” and “Best Evaluator.” All this for my journey to become a motivational speaker!

Being an evaluator scared me. Who am I to judge someone else’s speech, which they worked so hard to present? The thing is, unlike having a prepared speech, when you’re an evaluator, you have to come up with something to say on the spot! (Kind of like being a judge on American Idol!) I was so terrified to do this, I procrastinated for several weeks, even avoiding going to Toastmasters by going to other events on Thursdays instead, like concerts, book clubs, etc.

When I got up there, I was so nervous, but I channeled my nervous energy into positive energy. Luckily I had the pleasure to evaluate a positive speech, called “Follow Your Dreams.” The speaker was amazing and I was so high on what she said, that I was able to nail my evaluation of her. It was hard finding something to give feedback on because she was so good. But I thought about myself, when I read in front of an audience and realized I could give the same feedback I’ve been given. Not to use filler words.

In the past few months I’ve watched so many amazing motivational speakers on You Tube and Ted Talks and in person. Using filler words like “like,” “so,” and even “um,” seems to be the norm; something we can all be aware of.

Hell, I even caught myself saying “um” during my presentation, but I still won! And the person who evaluated my evaluation offered ZERO critique on my evaluation. He said my evaluation was “perfect.” I also received praise from others in my Toastmaster group that it’s rare that someone wins at a “first.” But I nailed it.

The point of all of this is, don’t worry about being perfect, just get out there and do it! Not everyone will notice your imperfections, or that you are nervous. And maybe you’ll be pleasantly surprised by a win — whether it’s your first time doing something, or after many tries!

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is available for motivational speaking engagements and is the author of the following books: 

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: Ten Ways to Become Your Own Hero” will be available October 2019. To pre-order, go here: https://kicamprojects.com/shop/be-extraordinary/

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your copy, go here: https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Want-Be-Like-You/dp/1726273261

Pear Tree Holiday Party

Published November 8, 2014 by Maryanne

SAM_6337Standing: Maryanne, Orest Pelechaty, Sue Pelechaty

Seated: Gerard & Diane Barros

Near the end of every year, since I’ve been self-employed (www.peartreeenterprises.com), I like to have a holiday celebration dining with clients I’ve worked during that year. This year I chose to meet at Huntley Taverne (http://www.thehuntleytaverne.com/) where the food is local and seasonal, and service — spectacular! I had the mixed greens salad with: grilled Goffle Road Farm lemon marinated chicken breast.

Gerard and Diane Barros (http://www.barrosmusic.com/) have been on board with Pear Tree a little over a year. They use my marketing services as I get them gigs at assisted living facilities and libraries. It’s been a great experience working with this talented duo. I love when I have the opportunity to see them perform live.

Orest Pelechaty (http://www.healandrenew.com/) is a fairly new client. I’m also doing some marketing for him, getting him public speaking engagements in libraries and other venues. His health lectures are not to be missed as they are informative and fun. Orest is also my acupuncturist. I always look forward to our sessions because I know I’ll not only feel better but have a good laugh!

Dr. Pelechaty’s wife, Sue (http://www.susanpelechaty.com/) is taking me under her wing and teaching me about Young Living Oils. I plan to make these amazing oils part of the Pear Tree business in 2015, if not sooner. I’ve used a few of these healing oils and they are truly magical. Sue is not only extremely professional and competent but a very sweet person who I look forward to working with.

Angel Valentean (http://www.amazon.com/Angel-Valentean/e/B00AB1BM9G) stopped in too, to say hello. Two years ago I edited Angel’s book. Now I’ll be helping him with a variety of things such as blogging, marketing and more. This man is doing amazing things and I am excited to be working together again.

For 2015, I am guiding my business in a more spiritual direction, more about giving back to the community and working for what is best for all.

Pear Tree is available for the following: book editing, proofreading, ghost writing and typing. I also do public speaking events at libraries, schools, assistant living facilities, women’s clubs, Jewish community centers, etc. For a list of lectures available, please visit my website at: (www.peartreeenterprises.com). Or contact me for any other topics you are interested in. I’ll let you know if I can make it happen for your event!

NOTE: At this time, there are no time slots available for marketing. (But you can always check back!)

If you are interested using the services of Pear Tree, please contact Maryanne at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com

Going, Going, Gone! What the Next Generation Won’t Remember

Published August 5, 2014 by Maryanne

SAM_5528Does any of this stuff look familiar?

Here you have it! My grandmother’s suitcase from the 1960s, that I still use! (Hey, it’s easy to spot on the airline conveyor belt. Do you want to hang out in an airport all night? I don’t!); cassettes, view master, Howard Johnsons bond, speaker from Drive-in, KISS bubble gum cards, my first cell phone from 2001, and 45 rpm with spindle

My “Going, Going, Gone: What the Next Generation Won’t Remember” was a hit last night! Thanks so much to Sayreville Library for having me! I had people in the audience as young as 8 and as old as 72!

For more information on lectures available to present at libraries, women’s groups, assisted living facilities, JCCs and more, visit www.peartreeenterprises.com

Rates are reasonable. All lectures are fun, upbeat and audience inter-active!

Going, Going Gone! What the Next Generation Won’t Remember

Published August 3, 2014 by Maryanne

70RetroClock_mainTomorrow night, Monday, Aug. 4, 6:30 p.m. I’ll be presenting my lecture “Going, Going, Gone! What the Next Generation Won’t Remember” at Sayreville Public Library, Sayreville, New Jersey.

I love that they gave me such an awesome write-up on their website, as well as advertised in the Star Ledger! Kudos to Sayreville Public Library — a class act!

Check out the promotional page: http://engagedpatrons.org/EventsExtended.cfm?SiteID=1717&EventID=213463&PK

Lecture: “Newsies: A History of the Newspaper Industry”

Published July 8, 2014 by Maryanne

SAM_5194A full house!

Last night I presented: “Newsies: A History of the Newspaper Industry” at Cranford Community Center, sponsored by The Friends of the Cranford Library.

Due to the super hot weather, I didn’t think anyone would come, but what a fun surprise to speak to a full house! Some of the ladies who came to see me were repeat customers who saw me do a book reading/signing for “On the Guest List.” It’s awesome to see people coming to hear you speak for the second time around!

Perhaps you’d like “Newsies” presented at your facility?

If so, here’s a little synopsis (for rates and availability contact me at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com — I will travel anywhere in the USA).

Newsies: History of the Newspaper Industry

Take a trip back in time as Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta presents “Newsies: History of the Newspaper Industry.” The lecture will take the audience back to 59 B.C. when the first newspaper was published in ancient Rome.

Since the history of newspapers is so vast, Maryanne will focus on U.S. newspapers. The audience will learn about how the quality of newspaper reporting was perfected after the American Revolution and the Battle of Lexington; the Penny Press; “yellow” journalism, chains and syndicates, and how competition such as radio, television and internet caused a decline in the newspaper industry.

What makes this lecture so much fun is that there is audience interaction. Maryanne will ask listeners to join in and share their experiences with newspapers. For example: “What was your introduction to reading the newspaper?” and “Where you ever in the newspaper?”

Maryanne worked in the newspaper industry herself as a journalist during most of her adult life. She wrote for New York papers: The Westsider and the Chelsea Clinton News (which is named after an area of NYC, not the former president’s daughter).

Maryanne was also a journalist at The Montclair Times for seven years. After she left The Times, she went on to write for several online publications including The Paterson Press, where her feature articles also appeared in The Herald News.

She also wrote for The Aquarian Arts weekly, a newspaper that is in the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame.

SAM_5196Thanks to librarian director John Malar for having me!

 

Something to Smile About!

Published July 1, 2014 by Maryanne

SAM_5140Headin’ home and happy!

My happy face after a terrific lecture “Here’s to Your Health and The Benefits of Walking” at Allendale Library. What a great bunch of people! My husband loved my lecture too. He said that I make people feel comfortable and it wasn’t “preachy.” That’s EXACTLY what I strive for. I always get audience participation too!

It’s not even a year since I started speaking publicly about a variety of topics from health, to the newspaper industry, to holiday celebrations and now giving food lectures too.

Had I known public speaking was so rewarding I would have jumped on the band wagon years ago.

It’s a great way to share your knowledge with inquiring minds. I especially love speaking of health, as I’ve had my own health column “Here’s to Your Health” and interviewed many amazing people in the health industry including Carol Alt, Oleda Baker, David Wolfe and Paul Nisson.

My next goal regarding public speaking is to get into the schools and talk about anti-bullying.

The possibilities are always endless.

For a full list of lectures I offer, please visit my website: http://www.peartreeenterprises.com/

 

Luck of the Irish Presentation

Published March 15, 2014 by Maryanne

SAM_3745Me with blown up vintage Irish postcard

Today I gave another “Luck of the Irish” lecture at the Mountainside Library, in Mountainside, New Jersey (http://www.mountainsidelibrary.org/)

I had such a wonderful time. It was a decent turn out. My brother-in-law Joe came along with Eileen and my friend Mary Anne showed up unexpectedly.

I write my lectures so that audience members can share their experiences and guess answers to questions (and I give away free shamrocks to everyone in attendance).

Here is a summary for the lecture (I am available to lecture at assisted living facilities, schools, hospitals, libraries, etc. Just drop an email at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com)

Luck of the Irish – Summary

Everyone has some form of tradition that is passed through generations of families. Explore the traditions of Ireland, including those that are now obscure on the island.

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta, an award-winning writer, will explore Irish topics such as the Irish wake, Irish wedding traditions, Ireland’s main crop – the potato — and of course, St. Patrick’s Day.

Irish folklore is also included in the discussion such as leprechauns, the pot of gold and where the term “Luck of the Irish” came from!

Whether you are Irish or not, you will enjoy this fun, informative – and inter-active lecture.

Visit my website, Pear Tree Enterprises for other available lectures: http://www.peartreeenterprises.com/

Lectures for Seniors

Published December 11, 2013 by Maryanne

Brandywine in WatchungBrandywine Senior Living in Watchung, New Jersey

For the past three months I’ve been giving lectures to seniors at senior homes and assisted living facilities.

Why I haven’t started doing this years ago is beyond me because this work is extremely rewarding!

As an award-winning writer who has been published world-wide since 1995 and a dabbler in spoken word and performance art, getting up and speaking in front of people lecturing on topics I’ve well researched is a piece of cake.

Some of the topics include: “Here’s to Your Health: Health Tips at No Cost!”; “Benefits of Walking,” “History of the Newspaper Industry,” “History of Santa Claus” and upcoming, “History of Valentine’s Day.”

What makes my lectures extra special is that I get the residents to participate. By the end of my lectures they feel they know me and don’t want me to leave. Every place I’ve lectured at so far went over very well, but I must say I’ve had three most memorable experiences over the past three months that I’d love to share:

1. At Mount Arlington Senior Living, in Mount Arlington, NJ, one of the female residents said to me, “You’re really making us like you!” I was blessed to be invited back a second time to lecture.

2. At Phoebe Terrace in Allentown, PA, when I lectured on “The History of Santa Claus” (my personal favorite lecture), afterwards one of the residents invited me up to her apartment to see her collection of Santa Claus statues!

3. Yesterday, I lectured on “History of the Newspaper Industry.” After the lecture a 102-year-old man approached me and shared that he was an entertainer back in the day and entertained troops in WWII, adding, “Nice to meet you, sweetheart!” It was absolutely adorable!

Sometimes the seniors don’t want me to leave and I do stay as long as I could, sometimes having tea with them. It’s such a blessing to be able to do this for a living, along with my many other creative endeavors.

If you’re an activities director at an assisted living facility and would like to book one of my lectures, please contact me at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com

In addition to the above mentioned lectures, I can research and write any topic you feel your residents would be interested in — at no additional cost.