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Bloganuary Challenge – Day 17 – What Superpower Would You Like to Have?

Published January 17, 2022 by Maryanne
Derick, The ‘Invisible’ Cat

This question is irrelevant for me. I went through all the super powers I could think of and none of them appealed to me.

I don’t want to fly. My head is always in the clouds. What I need is to be grounded.

I don’t want x-ray vision. I want to make people happy, not embarrassed.

And I certainly don’t want to be invisible. I worked hard my whole life to be seen and heard.

But speaking of invisible, I once had a cat who sometimes thought he was. Derick was the first cat I owned when I was single and living alone. Since kittenhood he was extremely attached to me. He’d follow me from room to room. He’d sit on my lap almost the entire day as I worked. He’d be at my side while I relaxed. And God forbid I left the house. He’d sit on the window sill, awaiting my return. If I sat in my backyard, he’d be in the window mewing, demanding that I come back in the house.

I had another cat, Billy Cat. Billy was more shy. He hid often. But in his later years, he competed with Derick for my attention. However, Derick wouldn’t have it. There would be friction between them whenever Derick saw Billy near me or on my lap.

Sometimes, randomly, Derick would take a swat at Billy. Billy would meow so loud, it was like the scream of death. Then they’d get into a rumble. My husband and I often caught Derick just in time. His paw would rise up to swipe Billy, and both of us would say, “No….” in unison, dragging out the “o” to show we meant business without getting loud or yelling. Derick would immediately freeze and his paw was comically suspended in mid-air. Then he would put his head down, and walk away ashamed.

However, Derick was relentless and not one to give up. His future attacks on Billy wouldn’t be so obvious. He would creep slowly into the room, then hunch his body down low as he inched towards Billy, sneaking up on him. My husband caught him, just in time, and said, “Hey! You’re not invisible!”

We laughed so hard over our “invisible” cat.

But I will say, the two did have their loving moments. They slept together, groomed each other, and had many peaceful moments. When Billy got older and had trouble walking, due to arthritis, and later cancer, Derick was a concerned little cat brother and doted over Billy until his death at age 19. Two years later, Derick died. He was also 19.

Does your cat have a super power? I’d love to hear about it!

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/

Bloganuary Challenge – Day 16 – What is a Cause You Are Passionate About and Why?

Published January 16, 2022 by Maryanne
Photo by Mauro Sbicego

Well, what a coincidence to see this question come up for today. A cause I am passionate about and why? Do not read unless you are ready for a mouthful in defense of a cat because I am LIVID!

My cause is CATS! They are mystical, beautiful, loving (YES LOVING) creatures who are misunderstood. I’d had cats (and other pets – guinea pigs, snakes, hamsters, turtles, and dogs) all my life and never had a bad one. Why? Because I KNOW how to treat animals. You do not tease/taunt them. You respect, and train, a pet and the pet will be your friend forever. YES, even CATS (and lions/tigers too; do the research on how loving they are! Even PIGS are loving!)

The thing with cats is, you have to win them over. Once you do, they will love you like a dog does. I had a few cats that ran to the door when I came home, slept near the door when I was on a business trip, and instinctively knew when I was very sad.

So, animal lover that I am, I follow animal pages, on WordPress and Facebook. But after yesterday I will no longer support Facebook because of what I saw and all the hate this video provoked.

Have you ever heard of The Dodo? They make “inspiring” videos about animals. They start out with a tragic sad story, but it ends up happy. Usually I skip the sad part and go straight to the happy ending. However, this disgusting story they posted on Facebook yesterday made me ill. An aspiring You Tube influencer, who, I guess sees herself as a model, made a video taunting her gorgeous cat to give the impression, “I love my cat, but my cat hates me.”

This woman is unstable and knows nothing about cats. Or children. She teased the cat, then put her children in harms way, where the cat reached out and almost clawed them. The cat hissed at everyone. “Influencer” said, “The cat hates happiness. He is a grumpy cat.”

Ginger cats are the most docile cats. I never saw a ginger hiss like that. This woman was dangling her fingers in the cat’s face, putting clothes on him that he didn’t want to wear, and exposing the cat to a noisy household with children who teased the cat.

I wrote to The DODO and said, “I’m sorry Dodo, I love your channel but this is a fail. That cat doesn’t “hate happiness” as the owner says. The cat is obviously stressed for some reason. This family needs to hire a feline behaviorist to get to the bottom of it. I’ve taken in ferals who hissed at first and then became loving cats. You need to work with them, and try to understand them.”

I received over FOUR THOUSAND LIKES! (Damn, maybe I should have promoted my latest book on that thread too?!) HOWEVER, I also met the nastiest people ever on the internet, which solidified my decision to go off Facebook permanently. First, I shared the post in my private animal group. I was disappointed that friends saw the post and it didn’t seem to phase them. Then I read the hundreds of comments from people hating me for defending the cat.

Some of them went like this:

“Who are you, the cat whisperer?” — Yes, bitch, I am. I am a certified feline behaviorist.

“Put that cat in a burlap sack and drown it.” — Wow, what a nice, loving guy! I wonder what your mom thinks of you?

“Treat it like a puppy and smack it in the nose.” — Pure evil. Never smack an animal. But I’ve seen it. I used to work in a dog grooming facility, and dogs would always get smacked. I had to quit. I couldn’t take seeing that abuse on a regular basis. It was a long time ago, but I should have reported the bitch who ran the grooming salon.

“That cat has to be put down.” — WRONG. That cat was a perfect good cat who was ruined. The influencer had the cat since she was a kitten–I saw the pictures on her Instagram page. However, this “influencer” seemed to be too busy modeling for animal crackers instead of training her kitten — and her children. Can we say SELF ABSORBED?! YES WE CAN!

People who mistreat and hate animals, I’m sorry, they are the scum of the earth. Our cats are gentle, loving creatures, who are part of the family. They want to be in the same room as us, no matter what room we’re in, they follow us. Even the shy feral who rarely lets us pet him. He still shows us his belly to say, “I like you.” (Cat lovers understand this).

If your cat is hissing or clawing at people, it’s your responsibility to figure out what is wrong! It’s not a bad cat. YOU are the bad owner. Just like parents. If the kid is bad news, it’s not the child’s fault.

Taking in a pet is a huge responsibility that can last up to two decades, maybe even three (some cats lived until their 30s! Lucky owners!) If you can’t be responsible, DO NOT GET A CAT.

And all this to jack up likes on Instagram, which THE DODO promoted for this crazy woman!

SHAME ON THE DODO. I will NEVER watch their happy ending animal videos again, because this cat did not have one. I hope someone in authority sees the video and takes the cat away from her. There needs to be more strict laws on animal abuse.

I’d love to hear from other animal lovers, and on this issue, I’m sorry I’m not going to agree to disagree. I stand strong on my beliefs.

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/

Bloganuary Challege – Day 15 – What’s a Life Lesson You Feel Everyone Can Benefit From?

Published January 15, 2022 by Maryanne
Photo by Josue Soto

Patience is a life lesson everyone can benefit from.

Just yesterday I was having an amazing conversation with a young man while waiting on a long line at Whole Foods. I rarely converse with strangers because I’m often bored with small talk. But we got deep fast–career, meditation, philosophy. Wow, what a treat.

He told me he worked in film. I joked and said, “If you ever need someone to play a mom, contact me.” (Because I have played moms in indie films, commercials, and videos).

He was impressed that I did acting, but I told him writing is my real career–that I’ve been writing professionally since 1995. He said he was originally a writer, but went into film because writing didn’t pay much.

I disagreed and said you just have to have patience and weed out those who low-ball you, because you’ll always find a client or company willing to pay you what you are worth. TRUTH!

I’ve always been the late bloomer, but by waiting my turn in life, I’ve gotten everything I want out of life. I published my first article at 35. Married at 48. And wrote my first book at 50. And in between all this, there were many more firsts later in life, but these were the most significant, for me.

Moving at a slower pace doesn’t make you lazy or complacent. It means you are choosey. And you should be. Nothing is worse than rushing and making a bad move. Trust the journey, and love your life even while you are waiting.

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/

Bloganuary Challenge – Day 13 – What Does Your Ideal Day Look Like?

Published January 13, 2022 by Maryanne
Grateful

This photo taken a few months ago says it all–grateful.

I can honestly say, 99 percent of my days are ideal days. I live my life to the fullest. I’m blessed to be a writer for a living, and do some side gigs modeling (over 50) and acting as a mom in videos and indie movies. I also ghost write, edit, and work events.

Some of the more spectacular days are with my husband. We love to eat at our favorite restaurants (vegan for me) and go to concerts. (Thanks to my writing career, most of these concerts are free!) Or sometimes just go to a park or take a ride down the shore. From time to time we go on trips (and sometimes I even have a business trip), but the best days are spent at home with the kitties, listening to music.

So, an ideal day can be any of the above, especially if I’m feeling optimal–which most of the time I am.

The other day, when a new client accepted a piece I wrote, I cried like a baby–tears of joy. I never take for granted that I get paid for my talent. A few times–again and again–I tried to take on a “normal” job, but it just doesn’t work for me. I’m not a fan of office politics and gossip and game playing and gas lighting. I just want to live my life best as I can and give back to the community. I want to tell my story, and stories of others. Over the years it’s been fun interviewing musicians and celebrities, but it’s even better going into cities and talking to people who are making a difference. Like the time I interviewed a bunch of cops who gave up their free turkeys to give them to homeless. Or the time I interviewed children who read more than 50 books in a year! It’s positive, happy things like this that keep me going and make me happy to be alive.

So, for me, an ideal day would go like this:

Getting up with my husband, listening to records and playing with our kitties.

Giving myself a facial and working out.

Writing an article that makes a difference.

Going out to a concert, or for dinner by ourselves or with friends.

That’s an ideal day, and I’ve had thousands of them!

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/

Bloganuary Challenge – Day 12 – What Emoji Do You Like to Use?

Published January 12, 2022 by Maryanne
Image by Nichola Fioravanti

I love emojis! (Not to be confused with GIFs, which I can’t stand!) They are an absolutely adorable way to express oneself. I’m all about cute and I love to see things like this:

💓
🐨
🐈
🐕
🍒

Of all the emojis, I love the heart the best. It’s pretty, it’s positive, and it says so many great things like, “I love what you have to say,” “I support you,” “This here is IT!”

And I admit, I get all fangirl giddy if I make a comment on a page that has thousands of followers and the influencer HEARTS my comment! When I write my own posts, I insert hearts as much as possible. The heart is my signature signature – if that’s a thing. Why not? We all deserve a little more love!

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: Love Cats

Bloganuary Challenge – Day 11 What Does It Mean to Live Boldly?

Published January 11, 2022 by Maryanne
Fun drawing by Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta, 2005

Define bold.

People have told me I’m bold, but I don’t see it that way.

People tell me I’m bold when I dye my hair a BOLD color like purple, pink, or cherry red. Or when I grow it super long, then cut it very short.

People told me I was bold for quitting jobs without having another lined up. (Now I am self-employed so that statement is no longer relevant, however, I won’t think twice about cutting ties with an editor or publisher if it’s no longer working).

People told me I was bold for jumping off a 100-foot bridge into the Delaware River.

People told me I was bold for breaking up with guys who wanted to marry me. This was unheard of in the 1980s and 1990s. If someone gave you a ring, it was like finding a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

To me, none of this stuff is bold at all. I’m just a woman trying to live my best life, in a way that works for me. I like bold hair colors. I don’t want to work in an unpleasant situation or have unappreciative clients. I’ve been a bit of a daredevil in the past and I’m glad I was even though I hurt my neck and now have severe arthritis–it was worth it! (And I do have a kick-ass chiropractor who keeps me pain free!) And looking back, if I married any of those guys who proposed in the 1980s or 1990s, it would have been a huge mistake! Even though it was against the norm to stay single, I did so. I finally started dating my future husband in 2005. He was worth the wait on so many levels.

If being bold is being true to yourself, then I definitely am.

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: Love Cats

Bloganuary Challenge – Day 10 – What 5 Things Are You Grateful For Today?

Published January 10, 2022 by Maryanne
I love us!

This is the most easiest challenge of all, as I am a very grateful person. Though there are hundreds of reasons to be grateful, here are my Top 5:

  1. My husband. At the top of my list for things I am most grateful for, I will always say my husband. He’s my rock. He’s my most supportive person. He’s my go-to. And he’s my biggest cheerleader. After being together 16 years, I can say I am still madly in live with him — and vice versa. We are each others best friends. Honest to God, we wake up happy, we laugh all the time, and we are extremely deep. Our music talks are the best, especially when I tease him about his favorite bands. It’s never a dull moment in our lives. We enjoy vegan food, concerts, long drives, and most of all, our kitties!
  2. Cats. When I first met my husband, I came with the baggage of two cats. He fell in love with them! Both cats lived to 19. Now we have three more. They are mysterious, gorgeous creatures who are also hilarious and loving. Each with a unique purr-sonality, they are so adored in our house.
  3. Our house. It’s over 100 years old and we gave it character. I won’t go into details about what is on the inside because my husband is a private person. Let’s just say we love art and have been told our home looks like a museum.
  4. Good health. Grandma always said, “If you have your health, you have everything.” I was a health freak on and off beginning in my mid-20s, but by my late 30s, I became very into health. Most of the food I eat is clean and natural. I also recently became a vegan. I exercise regularly. Whether it’s yoga, light weights, kick boxing, swimming, long walks, tai chi, or dancing, I crave it! I also meditate almost every evening. My only vices are coffee and an occasional drink or two (White Claw or Absolute Vodka works for me). I am 58-years-old and my blood work is excellent.
  5. My career. I’ve been a professional writer since 1995. I am so blessed I can make a living doing what I love on a regular basis. When I’m not writing, I occasionally edit books for others. I also model for freelance photographers and sometimes act in indie films and videos.

I can go on and on and on talking about things I am grateful for, as being alive is such a blessing. I never take any of it for granted either.

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: Love Cats

Bloganuary Challenge – Day 9 What Do People Incorrectly Assume About You?

Published January 9, 2022 by Maryanne
Maryanne and Sammy

I’M FRIENDLY SO I MUST BE A PUSHOVER!

I’m a smiley, happy person. It’s genuine. Why not? I’m self-employed, I married the guy of my dreams. We love each other deeply. It’s my world and I live in it.

But because I have an upbeat personality, I am often taken advantage of. Whether it’s bad service at a bank, or being in a dental hygienist’s seat forced to listen to babbling while I’d prefer to relax–it’s a lose/lose for me. People see a kind person, so they walk all over her.

I’m now 58 years old and I’ve been told that people don’t respect me because I look younger. “It’s your own fault for looking so young,” I’ve heard.

I don’t think so. I look my age, but I don’t act it. I feel vibrant on the inside because I have a lust for life and I take care of myself. That shows in my aura. I’m the type of person who sings along with the music in the supermarket. I may even do a quick little shuffle, though I can’t dance for shit. I have adversity in my life like everyone else, but I get over it fast and move on.

Nevertheless people are bitchy to me because they THINK they can be.

THE JOKE IS ON THEM — I AM NOT A PUSHOVER!

Well, the joke is on them. I am not a pushover. I’ll write bad reviews for businesses that gave me poor customer service. I will no longer support their venues. I’ll quickly cut ties with clients who are disrespectful to me. That goes for “friends” too.

Not too long ago, a woman I knew was beginning a second career. She wanted me to help her out on social media. I “liked” and shared her business page, yet she wouldn’t return the favor to me because she was “too busy.” What kind of friend does this? It only takes a second to “follow” a business page. And what do you lose by sharing a business page? Nothing! But she wouldn’t budge and that was the end of the friendship. I’m sorry, I’m not your unpaid personal secretary.

Decades ago, someone who wronged me wanted publicity for her new book. She sent an email to the publication I was working at with the subject line “AN INTERVIEW MUST!” I ignored it. My declining to review the book wasn’t much of a “payback” but standing firm in my conviction gave the message that it’s not cool to walk all over someone and then expect them to support your endeavors.

These are just two examples, but trust me, I have plenty more. The morale of the story is be kind to everyone — especially kind ones.

But the story doesn’t end here. What is most laughable is when people say that I PRETEND to be a nice person. No, I do not PRETEND. I AM.

Just because I don’t take your crap, it doesn’t mean I’m any less of a person.

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: Love Cats

David Jones Fell To Earth

Published January 8, 2022 by Maryanne

David Jones Fell to Earth

By Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta (copyright 2021)

David Jones fell to earth

Ch-ch-ch changed to Bowie for the fans

Ground control to Major Tom

Ziggy Stardust and the Spiders from Mars

I am the DJ, I am what I play

We could be heroes, just for one day

Like the Elephant Man and Aladdin Sane

Blue, blue, electric blue

Put on your red shoes and dance the blues

Oh my TVC15

That star man really blew our minds.

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: Love Cats