Me, selfie in car last month, January 2023
My 6th book will be coming out next month. When my publisher recently asked for a photo to use, I sent him one from early last summer that I felt represented me. I looked laid-back, happy, and healthy. He told me he found “a more glamorous photo” of me on Face Book that he wanted to use.
I nearly cringed because I thought he was going to use a picture from 10 or 15 years ago when I was much younger. But no, he chose the above photo — from last month! That pleased me. I wanted a current photo on the book. And I am proud of my age.
I always say, I am not anti-aging, but pro-aging. Aging is a gift that not many of us get. I will be 60 this summer, and just learned that Sonny Bono was only 61 when he had the ski accident and died. Knowing that it could all end, puts life into perspective, that’s for sure. My husband and I had 17 happy years together, and I desperately trust that we can have another 17. The years fly by and you have to make every moment count. (And, I truly do!)
Earlier this week, the talk of the internet was Madonna’s extreme plastic surgery. My thoughts are, she’s an artist, she can do what she wants. No matter what she looks like, she’s Madonna — and I like her.
People can do whatever they want to their faces. I don’t do anything to mine, and here’s why … First of all, I am afraid of procedures. Second of all, I don’t like people going near my face. Decades ago, I did the facial thing. I even had that popular “Diamond Facial” that was popular in the early 2000s. After one where it was too intense and my face was red afterwards, I wasn’t into it anymore. I do my own simple facials at home — a face massage with olive oil, and that is that! (And some face yoga).
Yes, self care is important — skin care and exercise. Even going to get blood work or going to the dentist. All should be part of a routine as we age. HOWEVER, let us not forget how important TIME is, as it’s fleeting. Almost a year ago, I decided to no longer dye my hair. While I rocked every color — purple, red, lilac, magenta, chocolate w/snow white underneath — from 2016 to 2022, it was no longer worth my time to sit at a hairdresser for three hours every other month. As you can see in the photo, I am not gray yet, and I’m rocking the ombre, which is actually faded magenta from April 2022.
Thinking about the time I save not being at a hair salon getting a dye job — it adds up to half a day per year! I’m giving myself almost 366 days instead of 365! As my grandmother would say, “WOWIE WOW WOW!”
Now, imagine the time it takes to have anything facial? And for those who get face lifts and have to hide under scarves, hats, and sunglasses until healing time. NO THANK YOU! I’m much rather spend time with myself or my husband than with a plastic surgeon!
While someone like Madonna feels she needs surgery to keep up with the Joneses or express who she is, I can do the same naturally. Okay, so at almost 60, some bags under my eyes, or a double chin when I laugh, but I’m still the same person I was at 30. I’m sweet, funny, smart, cute, and yes even bitchy. I don’t need to look younger to be all that. I am me.
For a brief time I tried so hard to be extra nice since I’m aging and I don’t want to be a “mean old lady.” But, no, I’m going to rock my personality. And if that means standing up for myself, I’ll continue to do that. I spent too much time being shy in high school. I’ve developed a strong personality and that’s who I am. I’m still way nicer than most people I know anyway.
That’s my take, and that’s my little world. Sadly, the masses will continue to be ageist and make fun of celebrities whether they have plastic surgery or not. And it’s not always ageism too. People will make fun of anyone, not matter how young or how good they look. Haters just have to hate. The thing is, when people make fun of others, they do not like themselves very much. That is Psychology 101.
Just continue to love and embrace who you are. Don’t ever feel you need plastic surgery, or even a dye job, unless you REALLY want it. There’s so many things that are more important than what we look like — especially TIME. And if we can squeeze more TIME out of our short lives, we are very blessed.
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She is the author of the following books:
“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary
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