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Why Do Weak People Call Others “Weak”?

Published November 17, 2017 by Maryanne

Delicate

I am a sensitive person — and proud of it.

My sensitivity makes me a caring, creative, loyal, passionate, hard-working person. When I wake up in the morning, I look in the mirror and can honestly say, “I like me.” Not to say I’m perfect. I made dumb mistakes, but will be the first to say when I’m wrong.

Then there are the times when I’m right. And being right, I have to stand up for myself.

Defending yourself — and your rights — is something a person with strong character does. Not everyone can do that. People who speak up are those who aim for a better place in life. They are dreamers who, at best, want a better world, and at the very least, strive for respect in their own little corner of the world.

That said, when someone says you are “delicate” because you don’t want to be treated like a dishrag, DO call them on their bullshit. It doesn’t make sense that someone can be downright nasty, but then if you give them a taste of their own medicine (and in a polite way, as most sensitive people do — unless they are pushed to the limit; and everyone has their limits) then they get all defensive. Is that the pot calling the kettle black? Yes!

Will “they” ever get it? Probably not.

Some people are just conditioned to blame — or bully — others for what they lack. It’s Real Life 101. The honest reason for this is because they are too lazy to work on themselves. With lack of elevation, weak minds do what they do best: manipulate, flock to a clique, lie about others to get their way, and if you don’t go with their program they will call you names like “delicate.” Meanwhile, they are the real fragile ones because they lack the knowledge (and desire) to become grown-ups. They live in a fantasy world — a world where they are always right. Their pride is pseudo. They wear masks to disguise their true fear.

When confronted with such types, the best thing any sane person could do is get away from them because you’ll never win. You could kill them with kindness, but that only goes so far. Name calling bullies and sensitive people will never mix well because sensitive people are the real movers and shakers of the world, while bullies are limited to being big fish in very small ponds. Don’t believe me? Just Google the famous person you admire most. Chances are they will admit to being bullied for being different or shy or thinking out of the box.

Have you been told you’re “too sensitive”? If so, be proud to carry that flag. It means you’ll go far in life! Continue to be sensitive; and continue to fight for your right to do so. That is true courage. And it’s far from being “weak” or “delicate.”

Maryanne Christiano Mistretta is the author of “On the Guest List: Adventures of a Music Journalist” a book about her struggles with being bullied. It’s available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Guest-List-Adventures-Music-Journalist/dp/162903908X

OR email Maryanne directly for a cheaper, autographed copy: maryannechristiano@gmail.com 

 

 

 

 

 

Stubborn Intellectual

Published March 3, 2015 by Maryanne

maryanne-1211Looking smart in my glasses

People have called me “too sensitive” more times than I care for. But my general make-up goes beyond sensitivity. “Smart” plays into the factor too. This is the first time I’m admitting this in public, but I truly feel if I wasn’t as smart, I wouldn’t be so sensitive.

I took this test on Face Book where they analyze your personality according to things you “hate” (the choices aren’t anything intense, just minor nit-picky things such as ironing). Turns out I’m actually a “stubborn intellectual” which makes a lot more sense than just being stereo-typed as “too sensitive.”

Here are my test results:

When you express hatred, it comes from a place of intellectual frustration and the belief that the world should make sense. There is nothing worse than people and things that waste your time and rational energy.

You are remarkably smart, but more than that, you are adept at analyzing and understanding situations and people. More than anything, you are concerned with understanding the world around you and grasping its ideas and functions. You should continue making thoughtful choices and the world will follow your lead!

It’s true I want the world to make sense more than anything! I don’t like when people waste my time. I want life to run smoothly. Some may ask, “who wouldn’t?” but many people do thrive on drama and disorganization. It’s the American way.

It’s also so true that I am adept at analyzing and understanding situations and people — to a fault almost where it backfires on me. I can see right through people who are jealous and I have a keen sixth sense when someone is not on my team. So that always makes me the person who can say, “I told you so.” But most likely I won’t, because, well, I’m sensitive and don’t want to hurt people’s feelings. Then on the other hand, I hurt more deeply because I always “just know.” It’s a very intense feeling to pick up on people’s vibes like that. Though on the flip side of the coin, I know when I’m loved too.

I don’t like the word “stubborn” as I do feel I’m very flexible. But I guess I admit I’m stubborn about the most important things in life. My standards are very high and I like to be around the same kind of people.

If you’d like to take the test, visit here: http://www.playbuzz.com/sammccarty10/can-we-figure-out-your-personality-based-on-what-you-hate?ff=1

And let me know if you’re a “stubborn intellectual” too!