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Loving You is Easy ‘Cause You’re Beautiful

Published February 13, 2018 by Maryanne

Nicholas Valentine

Happy Valentine’s Day from Nicholas Gray

Can’t get enough of cats? Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta is the author of “Love Cats” an erotic chick flick novel set in the 1980s. He loves cats; she hates them! Will this couple survive? Find out and order “Love Cats” — available in both paperback and Kindle editions on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Love-Cats-Maryanne-Christiano-Mistretta/dp/1681020513

The Flowers of Romance

Published February 9, 2016 by Maryanne

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Valentine’s Day is right around the corner, and like every year, here come the haters ruining it for the rest of us with their anti-Valentine’s Day rants.

So, once again, I say, get over yourselves, Dear Joy Killers.

Yeah, we don’t need a special holiday to dictate how we feel, but don’t forget St. Valentine was a cool saint, number one, and number two, whenever a whole slew of people are on the same vibe/wavelength, it promotes incredible energy from the universe. So if couples are getting engaged, married or just celebrating their first Valentine’s Day together, it’s a euphoric thrill to bask on that cool/crazy energy. Valentine’s Day isn’t until Sunday, but I’m feeling the groove already.

But haters prevail. Just as we flipped the calendar to read “February” — and so began the “me-me-me” tirades.

As if women aren’t ungrateful enough for the kind things their boyfriends/husbands will do for them, now the latest in Valentine’s hating is the newest generation of feminists dissing on flowers.

And so they moan:

“They’re too expensive.”

“They die.”

“I’d rather have a dinosaur bouquet.” (An ugly dust collector made of polyester — toxic for the environment. And at $39.99, you can definitely get a cheaper flower bouquet).

Then, the most ridiculous reason of all — “Giving flowers means he’s apologizing for doing something bad.”

Give me a break! Just because giving flowers could be a beautiful peace treaty, don’t insult the intelligence and kindness of a good man who gives flowers “just because.”

Just a mere 13 years ago I was still single (and still working in an office) and my boyfriend at the time unexpectedly sent a bouquet to my office — for no reason at all. I was thrilled.

A co-worker saw them and commented, “Was he bad?”

I didn’t know what she meant by that. I thought she was making an S&M reference, so I said, “yeah” and winked at her. Not realizing, at the time, she was making a catty remark; that a guy wouldn’t do such a nice thing. Then it dawned on me later. I could never look that woman in the eye again. That kind of negativity towards men is not for me.

I feel so sorry for those types of women — the man haters, the feminists, and the distrusting who always think a nice gesture has an an ulterior motive. These women will never be happy in the romance department. And the sad thing is, I’m sure many of them are hooked up with poor slobs who will never be appreciated; the kind of guys who can’t do enough for them.

But, I’m an old-fashioned kind of girl who loves flowers! My husband and I often give each other flowers “just because.” They’re pretty. They make the house smell nice. And, yes, they die, but that’s symbolic of the circle of life.

Last fall I treated myself and put a bouquet of flowers in my home office. When they dried out, I left them because they still looked pretty. Then my husband surprised me with new “winter style” bouquet. And then after that a brighter one, as we were enjoying a very mild New Jersey winter so the bright flowers looked absolutely gorgeous as the sun beat through the window.

After four years of marriage, and 10 years together, I am still madly in love with my husband; and incredibly happy for everyone around me who is madly in love with their significant others. (And appreciates old fashioned romantic gestures). ❤

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta is the author of “Love Cats” (where the lead character, Beck, is a GREAT GUY!) http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1681020513

A Valentine Hello!

Published February 15, 2014 by Maryanne

chocolatesToo cute!

This Valentine’s blog is a day late, but as some “haters” say, love should be celebrated all year long, not just on a “Hallmark Holiday.” Which brings me to this great article I wrote for gasm, explaining why Valentine’s Day should be embraced, not poo-pooed: http://gasm.org/blog/valentines-day-is-coming-beware-the-haters/

I have to say, I’m pretty darn proud of that article, as it brought tears to the eyes of one of my male friends! (A friend who once told me he never cries). So read with an open mind and open heart.

In other news, I gave several lectures on the History of Valentine’s Day at assisted living facilities throughout New Jersey. At a rehab in Newton, I fell in love with the cutest 103-year-old lady. She held my hand, kissed my hand and begged me to stay with her. My work is so rewarding.

Valentine’s Day is a time of chocolates and wine, but I asked my husband for kombucha instead! Kombucha is healthy, delicious and gives you a natural euphoric high!

SAM_3649Pretty Valentine’s Day colors in my fridge!

My husband and I went to the movies and saw “Winter Tale” which was romantic and spiritual.

And we had a full moon!

SAM_3651Valentine’s Moon!

SAM_3656Happy Valentine’s Day from me and my friends!

 

Why Valentine’s Day is More Than a Hallmark Holiday

Published February 14, 2013 by Maryanne

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Here’s a little something I wrote four years ago when I was still single but living with my future husband:

Why Valentine’s Day is More Than a Hallmark Holiday

By Mary Anne Christiano, February 13, 2010

Tomorrow will be the day a lot of people fear, according to my friends and from what I’ve been reading in the media.

Guys fear they will not live up to the expectations of their wives because everything is so expensive.

Single ladies feel left out if they are not paired up like Noah’s Ark.

People are throwing anti-Valentine’s Day parties.

It’s really sad that “Valentine’s Day” has become a dirty word just like “Christmas” has (“Christmas” is replaced with “Holiday” or else you are politically incorrect).

Me, I’ve always enjoyed it, whether I was in love or not.

Perhaps it’s my upbeat nature, but the first Valentine’s Day I remember could have been a real disaster.

I was still in grade school and decided to send a Valentine’s Day card to every kid in the class, both boys and girls. The girls liked the cards, but boys still considered us yucky and all my pretty little cards were made into paper airplanes by the boys. I did not let that discourage me from enjoying Valentine’s Day, as I knew I had candy waiting for me at home from my Grandma.

One of my favorite Valentine’s Days, I was a teenager and I didn’t have a boyfriend. Johnny Thunders was playing at the Peppermint Lounge in NYC. I still remember that ad in the Village Voice, “It wouldn’t be Valentine’s Day without Johnny Thunders.” It wasn’t Christmas without him either, as he was always playing somewhere in 1980. And so I started my tradition of non-traditional Valentine’s Days. While most young girls liked getting gold jewelry and flowers from their boyfriends, I never had a problem getting records. My Valentine’s Days were always ultra cool and to this day, I’ve kept the tradition.

Four years ago, I hooked up with my love Dennis in the month of November and we were in love from the get go. By the time Valentine’s Day came along, there was nothing more he could do to prove how much he loved me because I just knew his true feelings from day one.

So I came up with a clever idea. Let’s not make Valentine’s Day about us, let’s make it about other people.

We spent our first Valentine’s Day together at a Gay Right’s Rally for Gay Marriages.

Here we are, a straight couple, supporting couples that did not have the same rights as we did.

We held hands, tightly, as we listened. I smiled gently, at anyone who looked my way, hoping that my positive energy would make someone’s day and my support would mean something.

The magic of doing something for other people in an unselfish way, to me, is what Valentine’s Day is all about.

Valentine’s Day is Coming, Hide Your Love from the Green-Eyed Monsters!

Published February 5, 2013 by Maryanne

Love - oceanI want everyone to know how much I love you!

(But not everyone deserves to know!)

Many years ago a co-worker told me this most amazing, off the hook Valentine’s Day her husband had planned for her.

I was still single and in awe of their love and the generous, creative gift he was giving her. This couple also had the most beautiful little boy. What a gorgeous, gorgeous family — all three of them!

I was not only thrilled to hear about her Valentine’s Day, but honored that she liked me enough to share the news with me! Why? Because I was the only person she told about the trip. She didn’t want to tell others because she feared jealousy. But I was trusted because I’m not that way and I can be totally happy for someone else. And I sure was!

When people fall in love, they want to share it to the world! And they do. Wedding vows are said out loud for all to hear. Hands are held in public. Some even make-out in their cars during red lights. Those in love float around with such a glow on their faces, there is no denying who is in love! And all our loved ones are happy for us when we fall in love.

But not everyone is in love with love. And now that I’m happily married — I totally understand where this girl was coming from in not wanting to cast her precious jewels before swine.

The green-eyed monster and bitter pill gets some people BIG TIME. And it never ceases to amaze me what creepy bullshit comes out of people’s mouths. They make their envy so obvious!

Sometimes it takes me awhile to pick up on this ugly behavior because I see the good in everyone. But once it’s evident that someone is jealous of my relationship with my husband, I clamp my mouth shut — not only about him but about everything else in my life. Because if someone is jealous about love, they’ll be jealous of other aspects of your life too, such as career, creativity, your other friendships, maybe money if you have it (I sure don’t! LOL!)

I will not share what I do on weekends with a bitter person. I don’t share the creative things I’ve done with my husband. And if a jealous person asks about him, I’ll simply give a sharp one-word answer and change the subject.

It will go something like this:

Q: “How was your weekend?”

A: “Terrific…………” (word dragged out to put emphasis on: “I don’t want to talk about it to you, please go away” as I turn my head and make no eye contact) ….

Conversation done!

I just refuse to participate in negativity. No ifs, ands or buts about it!

Misery may love company, but I’m sorry, I’m just not miserable. Get over it!

I hate acting like this because by nature, I’m a sweet, honest and loving person. Just a mere mortal on this planet who is happily in love (isn’t that what life is all about?), not just with my husband, but with life itself!

I’m certainly not a celebrity desperately seeking privacy!  I’d love to just live naturally as possible, talking casually about my life, my friends, my pets, my family, and of course my husband.

I hate secrets. I hate censoring conversation. I hate trying to avoid conversation with certain people.

However, when it comes to jealousy, there really is something to that saying, “Do not cast your jewels before swine.”

Love is something very precious and special, that should be cherished and held close to your heart and I just can’t see sharing something about my relationship to someone that’s going to be resentful, envious and try to mock what I have.

But the beauty is, I have many friends who are also in beautiful relationships that I can share things with.

And I thank God for them!

And I also thank God for those who aren’t in beautiful relationships — YET (but they will be!)

Because it just shows that not everyone is jealous and there are SO MANY fantastic people out there

People who know that there is so much LOVE in this world for everyone, including themselves someday

(YES! That’s what I always thought for me!)

God provides to all who truly want.

And if it’s love you want, there is PLENTY out there, just waiting for YOU!

(And when it happens please feel free to share with me, because I’ll be the happiest for YOU!)