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What Makes Middle-Aged Women Seem Older?

Published October 15, 2022 by Maryanne
Maryanne, Summer 2022

First, let me say I am 59 and proud of my age. I am not anti-aging, I am PRO-aging! But when I say “pro-aging” I mean all the positives that come with age — peace, wisdom, faith, calmness, trust, and true happiness. It’s a fact that we will all grow older, so why not embrace it?

Some of us choose to look — and feel — better with healthy eating, exercise, and meditation (me), while others might go the Botox route (not me, but that’s fine if you’re into it). Some of us like to be silly and act immature (me), while others appear younger by keeping up with the latest styles. And nothing is wrong with any of that as long as you are happy with where you are at in life and not chasing after your past like Gloria Swanson in “Sunset Boulevard”.

However, there are three things that I strongly feel make a middle-aged woman seem much older — and stuffier!

  1. Assuming Young People Don’t Know What Vinyl Is. FACT: Rising stars are putting out vinyl left and right. And their young followers are purchasing it. But this isn’t something new. I’ve been buying vinyl ever since I’ve had an allowance and never stopped. And as I got older, I continued to see younger people in record stores buying vinyl. Music will never die, and listening on vinyl is a great thing. That’s something universal that both younger and older generations can relate to. If you don’t want to appear stodgy, don’t make declarations like, “I bet she doesn’t know what a record player is.”
  2. Being Obsessed with Weight. Weight watching is so ’60s, so ’70s, so ’80s, and so ’90s. Since the ’00s, we’ve begun to see more and more BBW (Big Beautiful Women). And it started with a younger generation of women, knowing they look good just as they are. While obesity creates health problems, being curvy doesn’t. We’re seeing curvier models, curvier actresses, and curvier women in the streets. But many women in my age group and older have missed that memo. Some still over obsess about their own bodies — and the bodies of other women. And I’m not just talking about being a gym rat or a yoga person, I’m talking about people who fear food and still believe no one is good enough unless they are a size 0. I’ve heard of older women avoiding restaurants in order to stay at their goal weight. That is not healthy. We need to socialize. We need to celebrate. We need to be okay with not always being perfect. Even bodybuilders have their off days and cheat days. If a woman of a certain age is too preoccupied with food and weight, it might be a good idea to consider therapy (and I say this with sincerity). The most liberating thing about being alive in the 21st century is that we’re now a society filled with beautiful people of all weights, shapes, and sizes. Thinness obsession is a dated mindset and it is making you seem old granny-ish.
  3. Putting Down Other Women. Why do older women still do this? It’s an outdated concept that has to go. Young women don’t hurt, they support. I’ll never forget seeing a You Tube video of Billie Eilish and Ariana Grande fawning all over each other. They were both fans of each others music. It was absolutely adorable! We’ve come a long way from the Joan Crawford/Bettie Davis feuds. Or have we? Why can’t older women learn from the younger female generation. Why are older women so hesitant to give each other compliments? Why do older women still feel superior giving digs? In my humble opinion, being nasty ages a person. Do you really want to be known as an old bitch?

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Youngsters Do Vinyl

Published June 30, 2019 by Maryanne

SinglesMy tattoo of the 45 rpm spindle

If I had a nickle for every middle-aged or old person who stopped me in the street and commented on my tattoo, “I bet young people don’t know what that is,” I’d have a hellavu lot of nickles. It’s almost as bad as people asking me, “How’s Gilligan?” whenever I say my name is Maryanne.

I’ve never been a fan of redundant comments, especially when they are incorrect.

Allow me to school MY generation (Generation X), and those who are slightly older (Baby Boomers)…


Yes, they do! This is not something I am making up. It’s a fact.

My husband and I are vinyl listeners and buy on a regular basis. We score records online, in record stores, and in antique/vintage shops. We always see young people buying vinyl. On Record Store Day there are more young people around to buy vinyl than older people. Young bands put out vinyl records. And they’ve been doing so for some time now.

Here’s a link to a recent article about the vinyl revival:

But I didn’t need an article to tell me that. In my line of work (writing/journalism/speaking) or even shopping for groceries, I chat with many young people who share their love for vinyl with me. Most of them get their vinyl/music passion from their cool parents. We’re living in a time where the generation gap is closer than ever. Kids are no longer at war with their parents. They bond. They do things together (especially going to concerts). So of course they share the same taste in music. That’s not surprising at all. Thanks to tribute bands, rock movies, radio stations that didn’t cave in to modern music yet, Sirius, You Tube, and many music stream stations, kids are exposed to the good stuff. Plus, there are so many bands around that emulate music from the 1970s, 1980s, and 1990s. Like all good things, you may have to dig for it, but it’s there.

Maybe 15 years ago young people disrespected parents, and older people in general. When I was in my late 30s and early 40s, I truly felt a gap from those 15, 10, and even seven years younger than me. It was uncomfortable and not fun. But young people today are the best younger generation ever. As a 50-something adult, I have to say I’ve never enjoyed talking to 20-somethings as much as I do now!

From those 30 and younger I’ve heard amazing things like:

“I’m sick of texting and considering giving up my phone.”

“Don’t underestimate me because I’m young. My parents have a record player in the basement.”

And in response to me sharing my story about oldsters commenting on my spindle tattoos, saying that young people don’t know what it is: “Of course I know what it is. How old do they thing my parents are?”

Young people checking out vinyl is also a matter of curiosity and exploration. During evolution, we have set backs, but life becomes full circle again. Young people have ears just like we do. They want to explore the sound on a record. Young people see a movie about Queen and they want more than what is just spoon-fed to them. Like it was when I was young, they want the records, they want the liner notes. It’s not just about Freddie Mercury and Queen’s greatest hits, they want to hear the deeper tracks.

For a very long time, we were experiencing a me-me-me generation. But that’s now a thing of the past too. In a month, I’ve had several young people ask me questions about my life, rather than just talk about themselves. This new generation is flipping the switch to something more positive and genuine. So why wouldn’t they listen to something more authentic like vinyl?

So, to all my middle-aged peers…

If you see someone cool in your age bracket with a 45-rpm spindle tattooed on them (and there are many — since I got mine in 1996, I’ve met at least three people with the same tattoo!) think twice before inserting foot in mouth…

  • I’m not dating myself. Young people know what a spindle is. And I predict within the next three years you’ll see young people getting spindle tattoos themselves.
  • Young people are COOL. Give them a chance and pay some attention to them!

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at:

She is available for blogging, ghost writing, writing, and motivational speaking engagements. She is the author of the following books:

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“Guest List” Book Signing at Randy Now’s Man Cave in Bordentown

Published October 5, 2014 by Maryanne

SAM_6195Stu Deutsch, Maryanne Mistretta and Randy Now

(Posing for photograph for newspaper photographer, Deirdre Ryan!)

Today was absolutely incredible for me.

I was signing copies of my book “On the Guest  List: Adventures of a Music Journalist” alongside of Stu Deutsch, original Plasmatics drummer!

Now, go back to 1980. I had first met Stu Deutsch at a record store in Wayne called Looney Tunes. Stu was signing autographs with The Plasmatics. I was a fan and only 17 and Stu was cool enough to put me on the guest list to see the show that night. Back then they didn’t have “all ages” shows like they do today. Plus the fact that I was bullied in school, having a super cool rock star like Stu put me on the guest list meant the world to me! Who would have ever thought one day we’d be signing autographs together?!

It was so great conversing with fellow Plasmatics fans. I met the coolest people today! I loved seeing all the Plasmatics shirts people wore, and all the old vinyl they brought for Stu to sign. It was also cool that a woman got my book just because she’s collects books that authors sign! And gorgeous NJ weather too!

Thanks so much to Randy Now of Man Cave for having me at this extraordinary event! It was the experience of a lifetime. I’m ecstatic!

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SAM_6142Stu Deutsch and Maryanne Mistretta

SAM_6176Signing autographs

SAM_6154With my husband!

Going, Going, Gone! What the Next Generation Won’t Remember

Published August 5, 2014 by Maryanne

SAM_5528Does any of this stuff look familiar?

Here you have it! My grandmother’s suitcase from the 1960s, that I still use! (Hey, it’s easy to spot on the airline conveyor belt. Do you want to hang out in an airport all night? I don’t!); cassettes, view master, Howard Johnsons bond, speaker from Drive-in, KISS bubble gum cards, my first cell phone from 2001, and 45 rpm with spindle

My “Going, Going, Gone: What the Next Generation Won’t Remember” was a hit last night! Thanks so much to Sayreville Library for having me! I had people in the audience as young as 8 and as old as 72!

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A Hank Snow Story

Published August 3, 2013 by Maryanne


Last night my husband and I were in Vintage Vinyl and I found a case with a TON of Hank Snow CDs — dirt cheap. I was wondering, “What is up with all these Hank Snow CDs?” figuring someone donating or a Vintage Vinyl worker went to a garage sale and found them.

In my vast music collection I had no Hank Snow, so I figured I’d pick up one. They were only $1.99 each. I got one with three songs I love: “Movin’ On,” “Now and Then, There’s a Fool Such As I” and “I’ve been Everywhere.”

I got to the register and the cashier said, “We have a lot of Hank Snow!”

I said, “Yeah, what’s up with that?”

She said that a Hank Snow fan passed away and his family donated the CDs.

She also added that the man was such a fan that he was buried wearing a suit, previously owned by Hank Snow!

I thought that was the coolest, wildest thing! (As my late grandmother was buried wearing her Elvis Presley watch!)

Record “Release” Party

Published February 26, 2012 by Maryanne


They say when a woman cleans out her purse, she cleans out her life.

I feel the same about music.

Now, when it comes to music, I’m a major pack rat. My collection consists of vinyl, tapes and CDs. Call me a dinosaur, but I’ve not yet come into the iPod or iPhone stage. All my music is neatly kept in my dressing room and some of the older cassettes are in boxes tucked away for safe keeping.

As much as I love music, all types of music, I do believe that there comes a time when a woman (or man) should go through his/her collection and clean house.

So for those who still keep a record or CD collection and it’s a lot harder to get rid of something rather than just pressing a “delete” button on an iPod, here are my top five reasons for cleaning house.

1. Greatest Misses. Did you ever buy a “greatest hits” CD only to find out a lot of the songs suck and weren’t really hits at all? Then get rid of it. The “hits” you can always hear on the radio anyway.

2. Misguided Loyalty. Do you have every CD of an artist, including the ones that were lukewarm? Trust me, Steve Jones isn’t going to be disappointed in you as a fan if you toss his “Fire and Gasoline” album. Admit it, it’s the worst thing he’s ever done. Who cares that he was a Sex Pistol, that he wrote some of the greatest songs with Paul Cook, and that everything else he ever was musical gold. That album is awful and it doesn’t need to be in anyone’s collection — fan or not!

3.The Local “Stars.” Okay, so you were dedicated to a friend’s band, back in the 1980s, and went to every single show. That was the time of your life and you have a ton of memories. This band put out a CD, you brought it for support, but it wasn’t quite the same as going to see them live. The CD is in your house gathering dust. Unless they put your name on the CD, thanking you for being their greatest fan, you may as well toss that too. Face it, the ’80s are long gone and you’ll never listen to that CD again. If you ever feel you need to hear it again, you may find it in the $1.98 bin at Vintage Vinyl.

4. CDs or Records that Skip. Yikes! You weren’t exactly careful with your collection and now you have these ugly sounds on your favorite music. Even if it’s something super rare, just throw it out and move on. It’s just so annoying to have a great song pop into your head, but you’re so used to hearing a skip, that skip will be a constant in your psyche.

Remember 8-tracks? Songs would fade out at the end of one track and then pick up on the next. As a child, whenever I heard “A Cowboy’s Work is Never Done” by Sonny & Cher on the radio, I’d automatically hear that “fade out” in my head because it was embedded in my brain thanks to that damn 8-track tape! Just like skips, it’s not good. Your favorite music deserves so much more!

5. Overplayed “Classics.” I can definitely go the rest of my life without ever hearing “Satisfaction” by the Rolling Stones or “Dark Side of the Moon” by Pink Floyd. And maybe even “Stairway to Heaven” by Led Zeppelin. Honestly! Yes, they are great songs. They are fabulous songs! But they are overplayed to the point that I get nauseated when they are on the radio.

“Wayne’s World” came out in the early 1990s and murdered “Bohemian Rhapsody” by Queen. Prior to that movie being out, Queen was an under-rated, hidden treasure that selected music fans cherished (that would be me). For almost a decade, I couldn’t listen to “Bohemian Rhapsody” thanks to “Wayne’s World” (which was a great movie, by the way, but abusing the work of Queen is almost as bad as stepping on Elvis’s blue suede shoes!)

So there you have it … go through your collection and if any of these musings are relevant, feel free to release them from your life. And if you can’t simply “toss,” then just put the shit aside for your next garage sale.

Then when you’re sifting through your music to find something to play, you’ll have a refreshing collection that’s not obscured by stuff you don’t really need to hear!