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Popp, Bennie, and Burns: Sunday Will Never Be the Same

Published March 1, 2019 by Maryanne

sdc13108Sunday at the beach (photo by Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta)

Do you love Sundays?

I used to love Sundays.

Sundays were always special for me and my husband. When we first started dating, we’d spend many Sundays down the shore. On our drive down, we listened to our favorite radio show, The Glen Jones Radio Program, Featuring X-Ray Burns. (http://www.wfmu.org/Playlists/GJ/archives.html)

Jones has eclectic tastes in music. You could hear both Frank Sinatra and The Psychedelic Furs in the same set. Then there was the talk segment where Jones and Burns would muse about New Jersey subculture like our local drinking joints and pork roll (or Taylor Ham)? In fact, one time at one of their lives shows, Jones chased me trying to feed me a pork roll (or Taylor Ham) sandwich. (And I’m a vegetarian). That’s the kind of fun this freeform radio show offered. No wonder it was part of our Sunday routine.

Once we got down the shore, on a Sunday, we’d often pay a surprise visit to our dear friends Daniel and Patty Popp. Very special friends; they were our witnesses when we eloped. At the Popp’s home, they couldn’t do enough for you. With Daniel being both a cook and a musician, there was always plenty of food and music in their home—a great place to be on a Sunday.

In more recent years, my husband and I started spending more of our Sundays at home, relaxing in the backyard. Last summer, a beautiful feral cat started showing up in our backyard. We named him Bennie. He was so friendly, we fell in love with him. According to the vet, Bennie had FIV, a feline auto-immune disorder, which meant if he got sick, it would be tougher for him to get over it. But we took him in anyway and gave him a happy home. He was only 3-years-old. He was a ginger cat, sunny and bright; our Sunday cat.

They say death comes in threes. Beginning on February 1, our Sunday memories were taken from us, one by one.

Daniel Popp was in his kitchen and just finished cooking food for the homeless, something he did each month. His wife Patty found him lying on the kitchen floor unconscious. He was taken to the hospital and passed. Daniel was a genuine, good-hearted person, who was so talented and so much fun. We were shocked. Absolutely shocked. Not a dry eye at his funeral. And miss him terribly. RIP Daniel Popp.

Sunday will never be the same.

The day after Daniel’s funeral, our kitty Bennie’s health declined rapidly. We had been treating him for an eye infection—or so we thought. He was eating, but not processing the food. He was losing weight quickly and also started having tremors. An emergency trip to the animal hospital and two vet visits later, we learned he had a brain tumor and didn’t stand a chance. Even though Bennie was a little fighter, we still had to put him down—the day after Valentine’s Day, ironically because Bennie was a saint, the best cat I ever had. After we put him down, my legs buckled, and I collapsed into my husband’s arms. We loved him so much. RIP Bennie.

Sunday will never be the same.

The following Sunday, my husband and I were done. Spent. No ambition or desire to do a damn thing. But I had to get groceries. I hopped in the car and as I always do on Sunday, turned on the radio. Glen Jones was playing very sad music. During the first break, X-Ray Burns wasn’t with him to banter. Jones made an announcement that X-Ray Burns was struggling with lung cancer.

Tears started pouring down my eyes.

Jones played some more sad songs, then he came back on to say that X-Ray’s wife called him. X-Ray Burns had passed—and it wasn’t a joke.

My husband and I were already zombies to begin with, and now shared more tears together. Rest in Peace X-Ray Burns.

Sunday will never be the same.

Three lives taken from us, way too soon. Daniel Popp and X-Ray Burns were in their 50s. And Bennie was only 3.

But I’ve learned something from all of them. Daniel taught me to reach out to others. Bennie taught me to keep fighting no matter what life’s circumstances. And X-Ray taught me to stay fun and crazy because life is way too short. And with a blink of an eye, it will never be the same.

That’s it.

SAM_3017.JPGDaniel Popp, Rest in Peace (photo by Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta)

52905284_2210313879190578_8382678320906502144_nBennie Cat, Rest in Peace

Glen JonesX-Ray Burns, Rest in Peace

(Left to right, X-Ray Burns, Glen Jones, Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta)

Sunday will never be the same. 

Loving Sundays!

Published June 9, 2013 by Maryanne

SAM_1193I love my husband!

Today was great! My husband and I took a ride down to one of our favorite towns, Keyport.

We like to eat at McDonagh’s Pub. They have such great veggie sliders, which I always get on a salad. (See photo below!)

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I forgot to say “no tomatoes” because I only eat organic tomatoes and this wasn’t an organic restaurant. So I picked them off — no worries! I love the restaurant so much because they play rock every time we’re there. (And more obscure stuff, not overplayed classic rock!)

One of the coolest things happened today — which is why I love my husband so much. We were in an antique store that we always shop in and buy stuff. We usually deal with the female owner who is awesome, but today she was very busy with someone who seemed to be giving her a hard time. So while my husband shopped, I asked the male owner if I could use the rest room. He wouldn’t let me and sent me out to Town Hall.

I let my husband know where I was going. I walk out, passed my husband’s car and saw two idiots (middle-aged, so they should know better!) leaning on his car. Seems it was guy getting an autograph from some author. I said, “Could you please get off our car!” They apologized and said they weren’t doing anything damaging. Regardless, you don’t lean on other people’s property, especially when it’s a gorgeous (almost classic!) car! With all the dumpy cars around, they had to choose ours!

So I’m walking back and then I saw my husband looking for me.

He said that he walked out of the antique shop without buying.

I asked him why.

He said, “That jerk wouldn’t let my wife use the restroom so he’s not getting any business from us!”

Go Dennis! He defended me, then I told him how I defended him in regard to his car.

It’s so cool that around the same time we were taking care of each other, without the other knowing! It’s so cool to be on the same page, knowing someone loves you and always has your back and you have his. After seven years I’m still like a teenager in love with my heart beating so fast around my husband. I love him so much!

And for the record, a nice young kid in a coffee shop (Espresso Joe’s) let me use their bathroom. Since he was so nice, I suggested going there for coffee next time. See — it’s good business to be kind to others ’cause you never know if people will come back — and since we’re good karma kinda folks, we most certainly will!

So giving a shout out to Espresso Joe’s for having nice workers! (And they have some great art displayed there too! Check them out: http://www.espresso-joes.com/

Good to know they have vegan snacks and gluten free items on the menu! Put this on the “to do” list for a snicky snack!

On the ride down to Keyport, we saw a group of Hell’s Angels on the parkway, so I got this shot:

SAM_1191Hell’s Angels (photo by me!)

Now that is the way to be a responsible biker! Note the proper biker attire, note that they are driving according to the rules of the road, going a decent speed, not cutting people off. Very cool! If God forbid they get into an accident, the leather jackets, jeans and biker boots will protect their body a great deal.

Unlike these other idiots (non-Hell’s Angels) on dirt bikes that were riding like imbeciles, cutting off cars, driving recklessly, and dressed stupid — in shorts, sleeveless shirts and sandals (two guys and a girl on a back of one bike). If those buffoons get into an accident, their skin will be ripped to shreds! DUMB, DUMB, DUMB!

Anyway, a great ride down and a great ride back on this gorgeous New Jersey day. We caught a lot of the Glen Jones radio show on WFMU. Got to hear some great songs by Psychedelic Furs, Big Country, The Alarm, The Go-Gos (which started with a drum roll that sounded similar to Stiv Bator’s “It’s Cold Outside”) and The Rolling Stones — a favorite you NEVER hear on the radio, “Far Away Eyes.” So I had a blast singing/talking along with ‘ol Mick Jagger in a hillbilly accent.

Thanks Glen Jones for playing so much great music and being the soundtrack to our Sunday Love Days!

Last night we took a ride down to another one of our favorite places, Perth Amboy and walked along the Raritan bay. Hurricane Sandy hit very hard at Perth Amboy. So many beautiful homes were destroyed, including one we almost considered getting on the waterfront. But people are moving on with their lives. We took a nice walk through the back streets. It’s a historic town and we visited the Kearny Cottage from 1781.

Ben Franklin’s son William Franklin, also lived in Perth Amboy, he was the Royal Governor of the town.

SAM_1183Me at the Kearny Cottage garden

Enjoy the rest of this gorgeous day! For dinner we’re cooking together, a simple dish of brown rice pasta and an organic salad. Perhaps some wine too. It’s nice enough that it’s not too humid so we can eat outside — yay!

I found this amazing organic, vegan friendly wine, called Our Daily Red. You gotta love it!

Our Daily Red

Maryanne’s Best 12 of 2012

Published December 15, 2012 by Maryanne

Me in front of original Batmobile earlier this year

It’s the end of 2012, also the end of my first year as a blogger.

For those who follow me, you may have picked up that “fun” and “positivity” are my middle names.

Life is meant to be lived to the fullest and I am so blessed that I have my amazing soul mate husband, Dennis; two gorgeous healthy kitties; my friends; a wonderful immediate family as well as in-laws; and all the other wonderful folks in my life; all a part of my big picture, there for me for fun times, as well as being there for me when I need shoulders to cry on or some damn good advice. What a blessing. Thank you all!

With so many special things going on every day, it’s really hard to pick what I feel is best, but I am giving it my best shot and I hope you enjoy my list! Thanks for reading and following!

Love, Maryanne xo

BEST OF 2012

1. Proudest Moment: When I found out The Aquarian Arts Weekly newspaper got into the Rock ‘n’ Roll Hall of Fame — every issue, which means a lot of my writing since I had my own gothic column in 2002 and reviewed CDs for them. Not to mention in 1991 I was a model for a guitar ad! After receiving this news, I felt like I became a part of pop culture history!

2. Creative Project Most Proud of: I am beyond honored to have had the opportunity to work with Scott Schiaffo, actor best known for his role as the Chewlies Man in Kevin Smith’s movie “Clerks.” Scott hired me to edit his poetry book, “Vicious Dogs Attack Me in Sleepless Nights of Summer.” But even better, I wrote the foreword about my long time friendship with Scott.

3. Most Rewarding Work: All year long I was writing for The Paterson Press online. This was a very rewarding experience to me for two reasons. One, I was able to write four articles about the Great Falls; and two, I got to write about so many positive things that kids have been doing for the community and the rewards they have received. Not much could beat the high I get when I am in the midst of it all. Writing will always be my first love and I am blessed to be able to make money doing it. Not to mention all the inspiring people I meet along the way.

4. Favorite Creative Moment: For the past several days I’ve been blogging about “Hounds of Winter” a Christmas studio project courtesy of musical masterminds Tom Corea and Tom DiPaolo. Each year my husband, Dennis, plays bass on several tracks and sometimes guitar too. Each year I go several times to the studio with him and have a blast. Well, this year I got to sing back up on one of the tracks “C’mon, C’mon.” Not a big deal, but a very big deal to me. You see, I’m not a singer. Several years ago I wrote a children’s Christmas song for one of the CDs and I couldn’t even sing my own song! Luckily we had a professional singer sing the song — the way I wanted her too (like Rudolph!) So I was shocked when Tom asked me to sing. Not like it was a big singing job, but it was singing! My husband coached me, tapping my leg when to join in because my sense of timing and rhythm is completely off. But I did it and I am so happy that this little dream of mine came true! It only makes me wonder what other great things can happen in the future!

5. My Most Viewed Blog: According to my stats, hundreds of people have viewed my tribute to Helen Gurley Brown when she died this past summer: https://maryannemistretta.wordpress.com/2012/08/14/rip-helen-gurley-brown-feb-18-1922-to-aug-13-2012/

6. Best Concert: I can’t do this to myself! I’ve seen so many fantastic shows this year (Gordon Lightfoot, Smokey Robinson, Dick Dale, Glen Campbell, the original Crickets, The Toys, 1910 Fruitgum Company, to name a few) … no, no, no, I can’t pick one!! But if I was strapped to an electric chair and had to pick one or die, I would have to go with Glen Campbell. Yes, the man has alzheimer’s disease and was playing songs in the wrong key, it was hard to notice unless you are a musician yourself and his audience was so supportive of him, he received standing ovation after standing ovation. He still had the star quality and I was moved beyond belief!

7. Best Song (and comeback): “Stay Away From Downtown” by Redd Kross. Check it out:

8. Best Cover Band: Tusk (Fleetwood Mac tribute). This band is so freaking amazing I saw them several times over the summer. They are just so on the money. The guitarist plays so well he inspired me to add a few Lindsey Buckingham CDs to my collection. What a terrific treat! Check them out: http://fleetwoodmactribute.com/

9. Best Natural Food: GT’s Chia Kombucha. I am so hooked, I have to have this drink at least once or twice per day.

10. Email of the Year:  Two years ago, 2010, I interviewed fashion icon Oleda Baker for my health column, “Here’s to Your Health.” I absolutely loved talking to her. She was great. But the surprising thing was, she emailed me earlier this year saying how much she loved my interview back in 2010 and wanted to thank me again. In all my years of journalism, I’ve had people thank me in the sweetest ways, but never so many times as Oleda did. She is just a wonderful person, that’s all there is to it! You can read the interview here: http://verona.patch.com/articles/fashion-icon-oleda-baker-shares-her-fountain-of-youth-beauty-secrets

11. Best Radio Show: The Glen Jones Radio Show w/X-Ray Burns. If you live in New Jersey, you can get it at 91.1 WFMU. If you don’t live in the area, you can listen to it on the internet: http://wfmu.org/jones/