Stubborn Intellectual

Published March 3, 2015 by Maryanne

maryanne-1211Looking smart in my glasses

People have called me “too sensitive” more times than I care for. But my general make-up goes beyond sensitivity. “Smart” plays into the factor too. This is the first time I’m admitting this in public, but I truly feel if I wasn’t as smart, I wouldn’t be so sensitive.

I took this test on Face Book where they analyze your personality according to things you “hate” (the choices aren’t anything intense, just minor nit-picky things such as ironing). Turns out I’m actually a “stubborn intellectual” which makes a lot more sense than just being stereo-typed as “too sensitive.”

Here are my test results:

When you express hatred, it comes from a place of intellectual frustration and the belief that the world should make sense. There is nothing worse than people and things that waste your time and rational energy.

You are remarkably smart, but more than that, you are adept at analyzing and understanding situations and people. More than anything, you are concerned with understanding the world around you and grasping its ideas and functions. You should continue making thoughtful choices and the world will follow your lead!

It’s true I want the world to make sense more than anything! I don’t like when people waste my time. I want life to run smoothly. Some may ask, “who wouldn’t?” but many people do thrive on drama and disorganization. It’s the American way.

It’s also so true that I am adept at analyzing and understanding situations and people — to a fault almost where it backfires on me. I can see right through people who are jealous and I have a keen sixth sense when someone is not on my team. So that always makes me the person who can say, “I told you so.” But most likely I won’t, because, well, I’m sensitive and don’t want to hurt people’s feelings. Then on the other hand, I hurt more deeply because I always “just know.” It’s a very intense feeling to pick up on people’s vibes like that. Though on the flip side of the coin, I know when I’m loved too.

I don’t like the word “stubborn” as I do feel I’m very flexible. But I guess I admit I’m stubborn about the most important things in life. My standards are very high and I like to be around the same kind of people.

If you’d like to take the test, visit here: http://www.playbuzz.com/sammccarty10/can-we-figure-out-your-personality-based-on-what-you-hate?ff=1

And let me know if you’re a “stubborn intellectual” too!

Happy Read Across America Day!

Published March 2, 2015 by Maryanne

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Happy “Read Across America Day”! Some of you may know I wrote a book called “On the Guest List: Adventures of a Music Journalist.”  It’s a positive book from my teenage years up until my happy marriage. While there are some cool stories about people I met in my career, there’s a lot more about people I met by chance! It’s fun and upbeat.

Below is the back cover with all my celebrity endorsements. The book is available on Amazon or via my publishing company, Next Century: http://www.nextcenturystore.com/on-the-guest-list-adventures-of-a-music-journalist.html

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Aw, National Pig Day Today!

Published March 1, 2015 by Maryanne

pigs(Photo by Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta)

Piggies(Photo by Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta)

Aw, National Pig Day, today! I fell in love with pigs after seeing “Charlotte’s Web” in the movies. I started reading everything I could about pigs.

For pig lovers, I highly recommend “The Good Good Pig” by Sy Montgomery, the true story about a woman who kept a pig for a pet. Sy illustrates how incredibly smart pigs are — equivalent to a 3-year-old toddler! Or check out “The Christmas Pig” by Kinky Friedman, a fictitious tear-jerker about a young boy’s friendship with a barnyard pig.

I took the two above photos at various visits to farms. Aren’t they the cutest things?

March – National Nutrition Month

Published February 27, 2015 by Maryanne

SAM_5885Grassfed beef and avocado from Cave Paleo

March is National Nutrition Month and I’m honored to have had the opportunity to write a short piece for National Day Calendar (which I follow both here on WordPress and on FaceBook).

Here’s the link to my piece, which offers a little history on National Nutrition Month, which started in the 1970s! http://nationaldaycalendar.com/national-nutrition-month-march/

Okay is not “okay.”

Published February 27, 2015 by Maryanne

okayWhen did society stop being cool?

Even in the 1990s we still used peace signs and said things like “jazzed.” Then fast forward to the 21st century and we’re using awkward words like “gelly” for “jealous” and “besties” for “best friend.” All this modern day baby talk makes me cringe. But the most cringe-worthy of all is those ever-so-annoying email responses that simply read “okay.” No “love” no “xxoo” no “gotcha” … just “okay” with an angry period.

Or at least the period seems angry, as a simple “okay.” is so hard to translate via email. You wonder, “Is something wrong?” “Is this person mad?”

If the person sending the email at least took an extra two seconds to add a “cool” next to the “okay” — “okay, cool!” then you see the difference, right?

“Okay” is only cute in the real world, especially when comedian Andy Kaufman used to say, “Okay? OKAY!” It should never, ever, ever be written in an email because the translation is obnoxious and condescending. It’s the equivalent to the passive/aggressive: “yes, dear” or “fine.”

Then to use words said by even more annoying types, no I am not “over-reacting” or “too sensitive” nor do you have to “walk on eggshells” around me.

I’m just an old-fashioned romantic. Someone who prefers people in general to go the extra mile. And I don’t care if you’re only typing with your thumbs. Make the effort to put “love” or “best wishes” or “hugs” or even a smiley face at the end of an email. Show the person you’re writing to that they are worth it and that you like them, so they know you’re not mad. Isn’t it so much better to imagine the person on the receiving end of an email smiling, not worrying about why you wrote back a one-word answer?

So let’s make our lingo hip again, whether it’s spoken in real life or in your email.

Okay? OKAY!

 

 

 

 

Religious or Spiritual? Universal!

Published February 24, 2015 by Maryanne

HelloBuddhaDrawing by Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta, 2005

“Religion” means God-fearing. And in this day and age “spiritual” means people-fearing. People are so afraid others thinking they are Catholic or Christian, they wear the word “spiritual” like a badge of courage.

That upsets me.

Because while, no doubt, it’s not healthy to be God-fearing, dogmatic and/or pious, religion does have a huge place in ethereal growth. Yes, even Christianity.

Hear me out.

In the mid-1980s, I spent almost a year studying several different religions with a spiritual mentor. I was only in my mid-20s and back then it was unheard of for a young girl to want to study with a man old enough to be her father. For almost a year, I spent less time in nightclubs and more time in meditation. It was a wondrous experience I will never forget and have several diaries in case I do.

The conclusion I came to was that everyone is right. In fact, my favorite book that my mentor gave me was called “Everyone is Right” which is available on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Everyone-Comparative-Religion-Relation-Science/dp/0875165656

Even though I came to this conclusion I was still drawn to the Christian church. What can I say, I just love the teachings of Jesus Christ. Mind you, I was never forced to go to church as a child. I came to love Jesus on my own. And a few years ago I found a Christian church I was able to call “home” though I don’t go as often as I probably should.

Some Christians don’t relate to me because I still take from other religions. And on the flip side, many non-Christians turn their noses up on me as well for going to church.

It’s okay though. I feel completely comfortable being around others who are not exactly thinking like me. This is the beauty of putting faith into a ritual (of sorts) and sticking to your guns about it. I feel that in order to grow spiritually, you need to be around others who are different from you. That kind of experience makes you more spiritual. Uh … wait … I can’t use that word, it’s become too hipster (and possibly a code word for non-Christian).

Let’s just say I’m universal! That’s a badge of courage I can live with! :)

It’s My “Author” Birthday!

Published February 10, 2015 by Maryanne

Cover proof 4Photo cover design by Darlene Foster

Original photo of Maryanne taken by Ed O’Brien

Well, Happy Birthday to me as an author! One year ago today, my first book, “On the Guest List: Adventures of a Music Journalist” was published by Next Century.

It was a super fabulous year! I was on many radio shows and did many book signings! My book was endorsed by fabulous people: Frank Secich (who was a guitarist for Stiv Bators, and currently for Dead Beat Poets); Judy McGuire (author who had an exciting column “Date Girl” in the New York Press); Glen Jones (DJ for WMFU); and Stu Deutsch (original Plasmatics drummer). And the foreword was written by John Holmstrom, founder of Punk Magazine.

I feel so blessed that I received so much support and sold so many copies. It was more than a pleasure working with Next Century.

Guest List is available on Amazon (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/162903908X)

Thanks so much to everyone who has supported me this year!

SAM_3971With my friend Ron who inspired me to write “Guest List”

SAM_5217With Keith Roth of WRAT

SAM_4064Signing autographs at Bergenfield Library

SAM_6195Being photographed for local press!

Me with Stu Deutsch, original Plasmatics drummer and promoter, Randy Now