Interview with Sibel Surrey: Health & Beauty Over 40

Published November 29, 2016 by Maryanne

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Sibel Surrey is a long-time friend of mine. We met in the 1980s when she was just a teenager and I was in my early 20s. We always had so much fun, whether it was dancing in nightclubs, going to the beach, or simply chatting with my grandmother, who adored Sibel!

It was my honor, and pleasure, to catch up with Sibel recently via telephone and chat about our lives. She also agreed to be interviewed for this blog, regarding healthy living and beauty over 40.

The 48-year-old beauty lives on the east coast of Florida. When she’s not working on her home with her longtime partner, she goes to the inlet. One of the beaches Sibel enjoys is Wabasso. “I love nature,” she said.”Basically being outdoors and being around anything that’s considered natural … the sand at my feet, the ocean water touching my toes, that’s so very me.”

After living in California for 22 years and then moving to Florida, where the sun is much stronger, it’s major for Sibel to use sunscreen — in fact, she recommends it for any woman, no matter where they live. “It’s very, very important,” she said.

When it comes to a beauty routine, readers will be surprised at Sibel’s unconventional skin care regimen. “What I use,” she said, and paused before adding, “And I get compliments on my skin all the time …” She giggled and paused again. Then said, “A dermatologist would not recommend this; it works for me … for years … Ivory Soap. I’ve been using it since my teen years.”

Sibel also uses Butcher Boy Coconut Oil. “It’s got no GMOs,” she said. “One hundred percent pure refined coconut oil. I use that as a conditioner for my hair when I want a deep condition. I also use it when I’m coloring or bleaching my hair.”

She continued, “There’s so many uses for coconut oil. I take a spoonful when I have digestive issues. It lubricates your intestinal tract. I learned this when I worked at a chiropractic wellness center.”

Sibel also loves green tea. “It’s a fantastic antioxidant,” she said, adding, “Yogi teas are phenomenal.”

Not big on fast food, Sibel prepares her own food. She said, “As you get older, your system doesn’t tolerate it [fast food]. I don’t like anything with preservatives.”

She favors a Portuguese soup made of chicken, kale, and potatoes. “You can use any kind of sausage. You can exchange chicken for vegetable broth if you’re a vegan,” she said. “It’s fantastic.”

Roused by Fred Astaire’s dance moves, Sibel prefers dancing to going to the gym. “I have never gone to the gym and I don’t intend to,” she said, adding, “I say that with respect for people who do. Dancing gives you the freedom and the option to do what you want without restrictions. Fred Astaire drew freely from tap and jazz.”

Sibel also loves bike riding. She said, “You’re able to be free and outdoors. The confined places don’t work for me. I’m a very ‘outdoor’ person.”

In the world of beauty, it’s Marilyn Monroe, first, who inspires Sibel. “I love Marilyn Monroe,” she  said. “She is an iconic figure. She’s sort of like the sexy girl next door. She had a very natural way about her. It might have been her persona, but her persona was authentic.”

And second is Raquel Welch. “She’s seventy-six years old and unbelievably gorgeous,” Sibel said. “She’s physically fit; she’s very classy.”

sibel-2Sibel and pet, Dingo

When Sibel first moved to Florida, from California, she volunteered for the Humane Society, though not directly involved with the animals. It was there she found Dingo, an Australian Sheep Dog. “He’s overweight and older. It was hard to adopt him, so I took him,” she said. “All animals are highly intelligent, especially dogs and cats. Your domesticated ones, without a doubt, are like having children.”

When it comes to loving animals, Sibel absolutely sees the beauty connection. “I think because they make you happy and you love them,” she said. “I think when you’re happy inside, your beauty shows on the exterior.”

With four dogs in her life, Sibel’s future plans include buying more land where she could have even more animals. She said, “I can adopt more animals that are homeless.”

For more about Sibel, follow her Twitter page at: https://twitter.com/Sibellasurrey

Supermarket Bullying Should Be Treated as a Crime!

Published November 21, 2016 by Maryanne

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Yesterday should have been a nice day. In the afternoon I went to a Buddhist meditation, and at night my husband was taking me out to dinner. In-between I had to pick up a few items at Trader Joe’s. My husband forewarned me, “This is Thanksgiving week and it’s going to be mobbed.”

Crowds never bothered me. I’ve been going to concerts since I was a teenager. As a young punk rocker, I got banged, pushed against the stage, and ended up with battle scars. It was all part of the fun.

But shopping in a grocery store, as a middle-aged woman, should not be punk rock. It should be a pleasant experience. From my 30s onward, I had so many fights with inconsiderate, ignorant people who push their cart into you, without saying, “Excuse me” or even a mere “I’m sorry.”

Listen bitches — for once and for all,  I have every right to shop in a supermarket — even a crowded one. You are no better than me, or anyone else. Just because I’m a nice, smiling person (some say “too nice”) it shouldn’t mean that I am a target for assholes. Put on your big girl pants and learn to have manners — and patience! Wait your fucking turn. Am I too slow for you? I’m sorry, but I READ labels. I want to know my produce is local and/or organic. It’s imperative that I know how much sugar and carbs are in my frozen meals. Diabetes runs in my family and I have to be careful. If that’s not enough to give you an ounce of compassion, you’re a real loser!

I’ve boycotted places like Whole Foods, and now Trader Joe’s, for not having proper security in their stores. And I will continue to do so until I feel SAFE shopping in these places again.

Yesterday I was pushed TWICE at the Trader Joe’s in Millburn, New Jersey. Once by a woman much younger; and once by a woman much older.

Let me ask you, ladies (make that “ladies?” with a question mark because being so damn rude doesn’t give you the title of “lady” — you’re more like a beast! In fact, the Pit bulls next store at the Pet Smart were way better behaved than both of you!) … what makes you so much better than me that gives you the “right” to push me out of your way? HUH?

I’d love an answer, but I’m sure most of the people reading this are polite people because assholes never seek things to read that would make them a better person. Because if they did, the world would be a better place to live in. And it’s not.

Bullying over food? Imagine that.

You’re shopping in a middle to way-upper class area. There is enough food for everyone. Oh, I forget, you’re busy. Let me school you on something, bitch, EVERYONE is busy! That’s the kind of world we live in. A busy, busy, busy world.

So, to the very next person who pushes me in a supermarket, I’m going to call the management — or better yet, the cops — and have your sorry ass escorted out of the store. Putting your hand on another person to move her out of YOUR way is a violation! And I will not try to correct you anymore. Whoever raised you raised a nasty, selfish, ignorant person — and you WILL be stopped. Instead of taking your crap, I’m going as high as I can go, to get this selfish behavior stopped.

Is this what we are teaching our children? That it’s okay to put your hands on people, to push people, and to psychologically upset other people, just so YOU can be first in this unpolite me-me-me world?

Sorry, not on my time. Nasty bitches, beware, you are so over!

Please sign petition to Corey Booker! Women should feel safe shopping for groceries! https://www.change.org/p/corey-booker-supermarket-bullying-should-be-treated-as-a-crime

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta is an author and public speaker. Her first book is “On the Guest List: Adventures of a Music Journalist” and deals with anti-bullying. Available on Amazon, in paperback only: https://www.amazon.com/Guest-List-Adventures-Music-Journalist/dp/162903908X

Friends

Published November 20, 2016 by Maryanne

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With my friend Joan (left). 

“The greatest gift in life is friendship, and I have received it.” — Hubert H. Humphrey 

In New Jersey, when the weather is getting colder and the days shorter, there’s nothing like having a night out with great friends and our hubbies to warm the spirit.

It’s always nice to see our friends Joan and Peter, have a bite, some drinks, laughs and great conversation.

Make a play date with a friend today!

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From left, Peter & Joan, Me & Dennis <3 

The Gypsy Smiled Chapter 6

Published November 13, 2016 by Maryanne

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I’m incredibly psyched that my story “The Gypsy Smiled” — inspired by the music of Lou Christie — won a spot on Noise Medium!

This music fiction story was featured, every Sunday, over the last six weeks. It’s the story of a young girl trying to make it in the music business in the early 1990s.

Hope you enjoy the very last chapter — Chapter 6 “Christmas in New York”: https://noisemedium.com/2016/11/gypsy-smiled-christmas-new-york-6/

My Vote Was Not Wasted!

Published November 12, 2016 by Maryanne

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I’m very proud to say I got through this election without losing any friends from either party. Why? Because I listened to opinions that differed from mine; respected what others had to say; didn’t name call; and stuck to my guns regardless.

Being honest and sharing publicly that you voted for a third party is not easy. I had to listen to friends say my vote was a throwaway vote; that this election was not the time to be a dreamer; and worse of all, dead silence on the other end of the phone.

But I applaud all my friends for having their strong opinions and being equally honest with me; otherwise it would not be a true friendship.

However I did the research … and went with Gloria La Riva (http://www.glorialariva4president.com/)

I knew Gloria La Riva stood a cold chance in hell to win, but nevertheless, when I put my finger to the ballot on Tuesday, November 8, 2016, I knew I was doing the right thing.

My vote was investigated and sincere. I voted for the “peace” and “freedom” candidate.

Placing the dreamer’s vote, I made my voice heard that I’d love to get all our troops back home; that everyone who has a job works and works hard deserves the minimum wage to be raised; that I support LGBT rights; and am against racial and sexual discrimination.

But also, how many knew that Gloria La Riva’s running mate, Dennis Banks (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dennis_Banks), a Native American who co-founded the American-Indian movement in 1968? If anyone’s lives should matter. This land is your land, this land is our land, but this land was their land — FIRST!

For this very reason I am extremely proud to have voted for Gloria La Riva for president and Dennis Banks for vice president. And in four years, if they run again, I will do the same.

A quiet vote in the right direction says much more than anger and rioting ever will. Is anyone with me to keep this momentum going?

My vote was not wasted. 

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And in the meantime, let’s get together and work with what we have …

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Simple Mills, My Favorite Healthy Cracker

Published November 7, 2016 by Maryanne

sam_1576Simple Mills Crackers go great with salsa! 

Since I discovered Simple Mills crackers a short time ago, I can’t stop raving about them. They are all natural, no GMOS, paleo-inspired — and delicious!

As a health nut, crackers were the last thing I’d eat. For a long time during my paleo inspired lifestyle I’d throw it to the wind on Sundays when I’d go for Mexican with my husband. But when I’m more paleo than not, I honestly feel better. So now, I can’t have Mexican food unless I have my Simple Mills crackers.

When I dip Simple Mills crackers into my salsa, I don’t feel so bloated.

I also use them to dip into guacamole or put them in organic chicken broth.

They come in different flavors but the sundried tomato and basil is my favorite.

For more information on Simple Mills, visit: http://www.simplemills.com/

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta is a public speaker, very much into health. She currently writes for Vitamin Retailer Magazine. To contact Maryanne for lectures, email: maryannechristiano@gmail.com