“The Lost Weekend” May Pang Movie at Grammy Museum in Newark, NJ

Published November 19, 2022 by Maryanne
Dennis Mistretta, May Pang, Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta

Last night my husband and I saw May Pang’s incredible movie, “The Lost Weekend” at the Grammy Museum, Newark, NJ.

People weren’t allowed to take pictures or record, so I’m not sure if I should review the movie. Instead, I’ll share a little story…

I met May Pang a few times over the years; she’s a real sweetheart (and John Lennon’s true love!) The first time I met her, she helped me clean wine off my dress at a party in NYC. Then she took a bunch of us to another party in her SUV.

Next time I met her, she was selling her hot sauce brand at the Chiller convention. I’m so glad to finally have gotten a photo with her and Dennis. We adore her! ❤❤❤ Look how happy we are!!

And if you have a chance to see the movie, GO! (And read her book, “Loving John” if you can find a copy. I have the original).

If you liked this blog, feel free to buy me a kombucha: https://ko-fi.com/maryannechristianomistretta

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/

Maryanne is also available for book editing and coaching. Rates are competitive.

And for positive messages, visit Be YOUnique, the Anti-Bullying You Tube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLq6J9MSvcjd-haQ30ycLWA/videos

Visit my business page, Pear Tree Enterprises, at: https://peartreeenterprises.wordpress.com/

Eat Well for The Holidays, At Kinnelon Library, NJ

Published November 17, 2022 by Maryanne

Last night, November 16, I presented my talk, “Eat Well for the Holidays at Kinnelon Public Library, Kinnelon, New Jersey.

The audience was awesome — all healthy eaters seeking inspiration. I served a homemade autumn vegetable coleslaw and everyone cleaned their plates!

I always give away a grocery bag full of healthy snacks too. The winner, Yanna, was from the Ukraine and said she was surprised how much cake and pizza American kids eat. As a non-mom, it was an eye opener to hear. I always learn something from my audiences.

Thanks to Kim Christian, librarian, for hosting this educational — and fun — program!

If you liked this blog, feel free to buy me a kombucha: https://ko-fi.com/maryannechristianomistretta

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/

Maryanne is also available for book editing and coaching. Rates are competitive.

And for positive messages, visit Be YOUnique, the Anti-Bullying You Tube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLq6J9MSvcjd-haQ30ycLWA/videos

Visit my business page, Pear Tree Enterprises, at: https://peartreeenterprises.wordpress.com/

Happy Halloween!

Published October 31, 2022 by Maryanne
Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta

Wishing all of my fellow bloggers, and readers, a very Happy Halloween!

If you liked this blog, feel free to buy me a kombucha: https://ko-fi.com/maryannechristianomistretta

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/

Maryanne is also available for book editing and coaching. Rates are competitive.

And for positive messages, visit Be YOUnique, the Anti-Bullying You Tube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLq6J9MSvcjd-haQ30ycLWA/videos

Visit my business page, Pear Tree Enterprises, at: https://peartreeenterprises.wordpress.com/

Todd Rundgren And Other Rockers Celebrate Bowie at Union County Performing Arts Center

Published October 28, 2022 by Maryanne

Todd Rundgren (photo by Dennis Mistretta)

It was a rock-star studded magical night!

My husband and I had 4th row, Todd Rundgren “Celebrating Bowie” Tour at the Union County Performing Arts Center, Rahway, New Jersey. (This beautiful old theatre is where they filmed portions of “School of Rock” and I’m always happy to be there!)

In addition to Todd Rundgren, other musical great included: Adrian Belew (Bowie, NIN, King Crimson, Frank Zappa, Talking Heads), and CdB creator, producer, and featured artist Scrote bring Spacehog’s Royston Langdon, Fishbone’s Angelo Moore, and solo artist Jeffrey Gaines with saxophone great Ron Dziubla (Jon Batiste, Joe Bonamassa), Narada Michael Walden bassist Angeline Saris, and drummer Travis McNabb (Sugarland, Better Than Ezra).

With a cast of such great talent, so many Bowie songs were done to perfection. I loved the way the show flowed from one song into another without any talking, until near the end when the band was introduced. Throughout the show, some songs got me choked up, like Sound & Vision, Starman, and All the Young Dudes; others made me dance in my seat, like DJ, Boys Keep Swinging, and Blue Jean.

But the real magic happened when Let’s Dance got half the audience up from their seats. This was my opportunity to go to the front of the stage, where I remained until the end of the show. The last song before the encore was All the Young Dudes. I turned around to see my husband smiling and waving to me. I motioned him to come to the stage with me. Arm in arm, we experienced the magic. It was a heartfelt moment, that song is the truest Bowie classic.

As an encore, the audience went wild to Suffragette City and Heroes.

Here is the set list and more photos!

Todd Rundgren, and Angeline Saris on bass (Photo by Dennis Mistretta)
Adrian Belew (Photo by Dennis Mistretta)
Jeffrey Gaines (Photo by Dennis Mistretta)

If you liked this blog, feel free to buy me a kombucha: https://ko-fi.com/maryannechristianomistretta

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/

Maryanne is also available for book editing and coaching. Rates are competitive.

And for positive messages, visit Be YOUnique, the Anti-Bullying You Tube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLq6J9MSvcjd-haQ30ycLWA/videos

Visit my business page, Pear Tree Enterprises, at: https://peartreeenterprises.wordpress.com/

Shame on Stitch Fix and Other Clothing Subscription Boxes — A Great Big SCAM!

Published October 28, 2022 by Maryanne

Photo by Andrej Lisakov

Having a personal stylist may seem like a dream come true. It’s not.

I’ve discovered subscription boxes during the pandemic, when people weren’t going out as much as they used to. I was always one to pick up a cute dress or jeans, here and there, at small dress shops, aka boutiques. Maybe around Christmas time I’d shop in a mall. I never shopped online before. A subscription box was a dream come true. Or so I thought.

I’ve tried several of them and they were all fails. Early on I was ripped off $55 from Nordstrom Trunk. They said I kept an item that I sent back. Daily Look had equally horrible service. For awhile I enjoyed Wantables until their “stylists” got sloppy with me and sent me crap that was similar to Stitch Fix — ugly, matronly clothing that was “bottom of the barrel.”

While I received a ton of horrible clothing from Stitch Fix that I always sent back, I stuck with them because I’d get a gem here and there. However, my last exchange with them was less than desirable.

Stitch Fix charges $20 to have one of their “stylists” choose outfits for you, which gets credited towards your “Fix.”

I’ve been onboard with them for about two years and by now they should know what my style is. The last “Fix” was awful. Nothing fit properly and I hated everything. However they refused to give me a refund of $20, not even to use to shop in their online store. Instead, they deactivated my account. Moving forward, I will let everyone know they are crooks! You don’t take money from people for NOTHING. This is a clothing service, not a charity or non-profit! Shame on you Stitch Fix!!

Do not trust Stitch Fix, or any of the following: Wantables, Daily Look, Nordstrom Trunk.

Now that the pandemic is over, you can once again support your local boutiques, or small businesses that have shops on Amazon instead of these horrible subscription places that don’t really care about their customers.

If you liked this blog, feel free to buy me a kombucha: https://ko-fi.com/maryannechristianomistretta

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/

Maryanne is also available for book editing and coaching. Rates are competitive.

And for positive messages, visit Be YOUnique, the Anti-Bullying You Tube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLq6J9MSvcjd-haQ30ycLWA/videos

Visit my business page, Pear Tree Enterprises, at: https://peartreeenterprises.wordpress.com/

Hoboken Harvest Festival

Published October 24, 2022 by Maryanne
The backdrop of Manhattan was my “office” this weekend

TAP into Hoboken is one of the many publications I write for as a journalist. Saturday, it was awesome spending the day in Hoboken, New Jersey, reporting on The Harvest Festival, which was back after a two-year hiatus, due to the pandemic. You can read my article here, and see many awesome photos I took of families, children, artists, and more: https://www.tapinto.net/towns/hoboken/sections/arts-and-entertainment/articles/16-photos-that-will-make-you-wish-you-didn-t-miss-the-hoboken-harvest-festival

If you liked this blog, feel free to buy me a kombucha: https://ko-fi.com/maryannechristianomistretta

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/

Maryanne is also available for book editing and coaching. Rates are competitive.

And for positive messages, visit Be YOUnique, the Anti-Bullying You Tube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLq6J9MSvcjd-haQ30ycLWA/videos

Visit my business page, Pear Tree Enterprises, at: https://peartreeenterprises.wordpress.com/

Creator of The Addams Family was From NJ

Published October 20, 2022 by Maryanne
The bust of Charles Addams

Charles Addams, creator of The Addams Family, was from Westfield, New Jersey. The American cartoonist also drew for The New Yorker and his work appeared on many covers.

Each year the town of Westfield, New Jersey, celebrates Charles Addams during the Halloween season. Small businesses paint their store fronts with characters from The Addams Family.

The Rialto movie theatre is currently having a Charles Addams showing. You can see plenty of Addams’ work temporarily housed inside the theater. Learn more here: https://www.centerforcreativity.art/addams-foundation

Me, in front of Charles Addams’ desk!

It was thrilling touching the desk that Charles Addams worked at!

My husband, Dennis, in front of one of Charles Addams’ pieces

If you liked this blog, feel free to buy me a kombucha: https://ko-fi.com/maryannechristianomistretta

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/

Maryanne is also available for book editing and coaching. Rates are competitive.

And for positive messages, visit Be YOUnique, the Anti-Bullying You Tube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLq6J9MSvcjd-haQ30ycLWA/videos

Visit my business page, Pear Tree Enterprises, at: https://peartreeenterprises.wordpress.com/

I Live 8 Minutes Away From The Watcher House

Published October 20, 2022 by Maryanne
657 Boulevard, Westfield NJ, October 2022

The Watcher House series is currently a big deal on Netflix.

But those who live in the area were well-aware of these happenings way back in 2014 when it first hit the news — a family was being stalked by mysterious letters.

When my husband and I were first aware of the house, we visited. No one lived there at the time. He was brave and went right up to the porch. I was terrified, so I stayed near the lawn. Who is this “Watcher”? Was he a real person or a psychic phenomena?

Over the weekend, in Halloween mode, we visited The Watcher House again — 657 Boulevard, Westfield, NJ. Because of the Netflix series, there was a line of cars all the way down the street. The home is now occupied and had some Halloween decorations. It was a gorgeous day and quite a few people from other towns were taking photos of the house. We all began having conversations with each other. My husband and I didn’t watch the series and others were telling us how good it was.

Suddenly a car drove by and a woman screamed out the window, “IT’S ALL FAKE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”

We all laughed and agreed, “Who cares if it’s fake? We are having FUN!”

My husband and I in front of the Watcher House, October 2022

If you liked this blog, feel free to buy me a kombucha: https://ko-fi.com/maryannechristianomistretta

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/

Maryanne is also available for book editing and coaching. Rates are competitive.

And for positive messages, visit Be YOUnique, the Anti-Bullying You Tube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLq6J9MSvcjd-haQ30ycLWA/videos

Visit my business page, Pear Tree Enterprises, at: https://peartreeenterprises.wordpress.com/

The Angry Librarian Trope

Published October 19, 2022 by Maryanne

I became a public speaker by chance in 2013. As a self-employed person, one of the things I was doing was promoting senior entertainers in libraries and assisted living facilities. When an activities director wanted a health speaker instead of an entertainer, I said, “I can do that!” As someone with a great passion for health, I had enough knowledge to give a great speech and make some money! I did a wonderful job and have been speaking in libraries and assisted living facilities ever since.

Over the years, I’ve figured out that with all the speeches I gave, there were four that were most popular: “Healthy Pasta Alternatives,” “Eat Well for the Holidays,” “History of the Newspaper Industry” and “Going Going Gone: What the Next Generation Won’t Remember.”

It’s been a decade now that I’ve been working semi-steady giving these presentations in person (with the exception of the pandemic, where I worked over ZOOM).

Giving the lectures is the fun part. I meet so many great people and it’s super fun. I don’t have a fear of speaking in front of people. In fact, having an audience excites me!

But then the “work” part comes in–getting the bookings. I put in the time to make my own calls and put the bookings on my calendar. Some librarians are awesome and have invited me to their libraries more than once, presenting many of my lectures. We have awesome working relationships.

Others don’t get it, which is natural in any career. In fact, I always say if too many people “like” you, you’re not pushing yourself hard enough.

But while a simple “not at this time” is sufficient, some librarians go out of their way to be snippy and condescending. I feel sad for them. It seems they believe that being a gate keeper or a puppeteer puts them in a high position. However, by saying “no” in a not so nice way gives them a false sense of control. Performers and presenters see right through that bad attitude. It’s apparent these librarians are not living their dreams like we are. It’s Psychology 101, people are always mean to those they want to be like.

I’ve discussed this with other presenters and performers. We had a good laugh about it. One of my favorite comments came from someone who said, “It’s no problem. I won’t miss a meal by not performing at that venue.”

It’s true. We’re doing this for a living and it’s no skin off our asses if a librarian says, “NO!” But why do they have to be SO ANGRY ABOUT IT?!?! LADY, WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM?!!

One time I was trying to book a musician into a library and the librarian said, “I don’t like him.”

I said, “But the patrons did! Last time he performed here, he got a standing ovation.”

She repeated, “But I don’t like him.”

It’s not about you, dear librarian, it’s about the patron. If you don’t have your patrons best interest at heart, you shouldn’t be working as a librarian.

According to demographics, most librarians are over 40 which could explain their bad attitudes. They may be going through menopause or having romance problems, or having problems with their kids. Being a librarian isn’t a typical 9 to 5 job. They put in long hours and most of the time when I give an evening presentation, the librarians are in a hurry to rush out the door, so I can’t stay and chat with patrons who came to see me speak. Can we say “Party Poopers”?

Careers should be fun, and about lifting each other up. The gatekeeper mentality shows a librarian’s true colors, and puts her in the cliche of “angry librarian.” Does she really want to be known as such?

All that said, I’ve had some amazing experiences with many librarians over the years. Some I really look up to for their wisdom and awesome personalities. And some I can honestly call friends. Throughout my career I’ve had great times chatting with librarians about cats, music, and food. These librarians certainly don’t have the librarian stereotype. These librarians love their job and see the performers and presenters as equals — not a threat. And that’s how it should be. We are all professionals, so let’s behave like professionals.

If you liked this blog, feel free to buy me a kombucha: https://ko-fi.com/maryannechristianomistretta

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/

Maryanne is also available for book editing and coaching. Rates are competitive.

And for positive messages, visit Be YOUnique, the Anti-Bullying You Tube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLq6J9MSvcjd-haQ30ycLWA/videos

Visit my business page, Pear Tree Enterprises, at: https://peartreeenterprises.wordpress.com/

What Makes Middle-Aged Women Seem Older?

Published October 15, 2022 by Maryanne
Maryanne, Summer 2022

First, let me say I am 59 and proud of my age. I am not anti-aging, I am PRO-aging! But when I say “pro-aging” I mean all the positives that come with age — peace, wisdom, faith, calmness, trust, and true happiness. It’s a fact that we will all grow older, so why not embrace it?

Some of us choose to look — and feel — better with healthy eating, exercise, and meditation (me), while others might go the Botox route (not me, but that’s fine if you’re into it). Some of us like to be silly and act immature (me), while others appear younger by keeping up with the latest styles. And nothing is wrong with any of that as long as you are happy with where you are at in life and not chasing after your past like Gloria Swanson in “Sunset Boulevard”.

However, there are three things that I strongly feel make a middle-aged woman seem much older — and stuffier!

  1. Assuming Young People Don’t Know What Vinyl Is. FACT: Rising stars are putting out vinyl left and right. And their young followers are purchasing it. But this isn’t something new. I’ve been buying vinyl ever since I’ve had an allowance and never stopped. And as I got older, I continued to see younger people in record stores buying vinyl. Music will never die, and listening on vinyl is a great thing. That’s something universal that both younger and older generations can relate to. If you don’t want to appear stodgy, don’t make declarations like, “I bet she doesn’t know what a record player is.”
  2. Being Obsessed with Weight. Weight watching is so ’60s, so ’70s, so ’80s, and so ’90s. Since the ’00s, we’ve begun to see more and more BBW (Big Beautiful Women). And it started with a younger generation of women, knowing they look good just as they are. While obesity creates health problems, being curvy doesn’t. We’re seeing curvier models, curvier actresses, and curvier women in the streets. But many women in my age group and older have missed that memo. Some still over obsess about their own bodies — and the bodies of other women. And I’m not just talking about being a gym rat or a yoga person, I’m talking about people who fear food and still believe no one is good enough unless they are a size 0. I’ve heard of older women avoiding restaurants in order to stay at their goal weight. That is not healthy. We need to socialize. We need to celebrate. We need to be okay with not always being perfect. Even bodybuilders have their off days and cheat days. If a woman of a certain age is too preoccupied with food and weight, it might be a good idea to consider therapy (and I say this with sincerity). The most liberating thing about being alive in the 21st century is that we’re now a society filled with beautiful people of all weights, shapes, and sizes. Thinness obsession is a dated mindset and it is making you seem old granny-ish.
  3. Putting Down Other Women. Why do older women still do this? It’s an outdated concept that has to go. Young women don’t hurt, they support. I’ll never forget seeing a You Tube video of Billie Eilish and Ariana Grande fawning all over each other. They were both fans of each others music. It was absolutely adorable! We’ve come a long way from the Joan Crawford/Bettie Davis feuds. Or have we? Why can’t older women learn from the younger female generation. Why are older women so hesitant to give each other compliments? Why do older women still feel superior giving digs? In my humble opinion, being nasty ages a person. Do you really want to be known as an old bitch?

If you liked this blog, feel free to buy me a kombucha: https://ko-fi.com/maryannechristianomistretta

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta can be reached at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com.

She is the author of the following books:

“Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback or Kindle version, visit:Be (Extra)Ordinary

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. To get your paperback, Kindle or audio copy, go here: I Don’t Want To Be Like You

Her fiction book “Love Cats” second printing is now available, under the pen name Krystianna Mercury, from Pink Flamingo. You can purchase it here: https://eroticbooknetwork.com/product/love-cats/

Maryanne is also available for book editing and coaching. Rates are competitive.

And for positive messages, visit Be YOUnique, the Anti-Bullying You Tube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLq6J9MSvcjd-haQ30ycLWA/videos

Visit my business page, Pear Tree Enterprises, at: https://peartreeenterprises.wordpress.com/