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Older Women Look Younger Nowadays

Published December 2, 2018 by Maryanne

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55 and proud of it! 

As a journalist, a few years I interviewed a grandmother who authored a book. She said she wrote the book because she was tired of grandmothers being portrayed as women with gray hair tied back in a bun. Those days are long gone, she believed. Her picture of a grandmother was modernized to represent her as a grandmother. This grandmother was a lady who was in shape, wore stylish clothes, and had long flowing dark hair.

Modern middle-aged women definitely have it going on. More so than generations before us. I can’t quite pinpoint why, but can only guess. Our stress factors are lower because we know how to take care of ourselves. We work hard, but we know when to take a “time out.” We treat ourselves by going to the spa, by taking time to relax and do creative things, and of course, retail therapy. We do it all, but we don’t forget to make ourselves a number one priority, therefore having the stamina to be able to give more of ourselves to others.

Even though I dye my hair, I can assure you that I have minimal grays. It’s not hereditary. My grandmother was gray young, and so was my mother.

The thing is, there is less tension in my life, as well as the lives of my peers. Because my generation has been independent — making our own money and marrying later in life — we end up with men because we truly love them, not because we need them. I’m proud to be a part of an age group that began the trend of marrying someone you could call your very best friend.

I’d also like to add, that by the time you are in your 40s and 50s, you know what looks good on you. You have the confidence you lacked in your 20s and 30s. You’ve experienced with different looks, changed your closet as your body changed, and now have a killer wardrobe, as well as great shoes. Maybe you now have a gut, but that doesn’t take away from the fact that you still have toned, rockin’ legs.

By doing more of what we want, dressing how we want, wearing our hair how we want,  by being with who we want to be with, and by surrounding ourselves with like-minded women with youthful spirit, the result is — YES, WE DO LOOK MUCH YOUNGER THAN WE ARE! And there should be nothing wrong with that.

However, lately I’ve been coming across some negative comments on articles about older women. Women of a certain age do not like that the models used in the articles are so “young looking.” They don’t feel these women represent their age bracket. But they DO!

Those who look their age or older are definitely in the minority. They can easily look younger with a good make-over, a little less stress in their lives, and giving themselves a little tender loving care.

If I’m making it sound “easy” well it’s not. I grew up during the 1980s and that meant that 25 was old. From that point, I took care of myself with the little info I had back then. I was into yoga from a young age. I stopped eating conventional meats. I avoided preservatives and additives 80 percent of the time (and still do, with cheats). And I realized from the time I started working that I’d always support myself and only marry if I was truly in love. But the biggest thing that makes me look younger, I think, is I do not smoke. Others are also giving up this stinky habit. And I’m a happy, non-gossipy person. Now people are finally realizing how ugly and stressful bad-mouthing can be. Smart women don’t do that; it’s actually frowned upon. It’s great because when we get together, we talk more about ideas and fun stuff in life. We aren’t bitter because we’re honestly in a happy place.

I’m sure other foxes over 40 and 50 will agree with most of what I am saying. Long gone are the Edith Bunker hairstyles for women our age. Long gone are the days of sneaking cigarettes when our husbands aren’t around because we don’t lie to our spouses, they accept us as we are. Long gone are the days of busting our asses cleaning the house. We either hire cleaning help or don’t mind a little mess. And long gone are the days of talking trash about other women — we are here to support each other!

So, next time you are reading an article about older women, and you think the model doesn’t look her age, think again. Most of us don’t! After all, pretty is as pretty does, and most of us are pretty darn awesome!

Maryanne Christiano Mistretta has authored four books and is working on her fifth. If you enjoyed this blog, you may love her fiction book “Love Cats” about love in the 1980s. It’s available on Amazon in Kindle and paperback: https://www.amazon.com/Love-Cats-Maryanne-Christiano-Mistretta-ebook/dp/B00YBGVJQS

She’s also a motivational speaker available for talks at schools, JCC’s, women’s clubs, rotary clubs, and corporations. Email her for pricing and availability at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com 

Rest in Paradise Shakti Gawain

Published November 13, 2018 by Maryanne

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I was devastated to find out that spiritual guru Shakti Gawain died two days ago. The date was November 11, 2018 –11/11/11 (2+0+1+8=11).  Eleven is the most intuitive of all numbers, a master number associated with faith and psychics. 

I first read her book “Creative Visualization” a few years after it was published. I was only 24 and on the beginning of my spiritual journey, with my mentor, Bayani Mendoza de Leon.

Back then, books like this were considered “esoteric.” I had to put a brown paper cover over them so people wouldn’t think I was “weird.”

Fast forward to today. Everyone is into yoga, meditation, spirituality (or so they say) and it’s all out in the open. That said, I’m not ashamed to say I cried my eyes out learning of her death. You see, when I first read “Creative Visualization” I had an “aha” moment before that was a term.  “So THAT is what it’s called!” I was familiar with being a visual creator since I was about 12. I continued using it as a tool my entire life, and it was later known as “Law of Attraction.”

I passed on the “Creative Visualization” books to friends over the years. And a copy always found its way back into my hands. I’ve kept Shakti’s books by my bedside to read during bouts with insomnia. Each time I read her words I felt a new awakening in my soul. I never met the woman, but I feel like I lost a friend. There is a hole in my heart in learning of her death. As I’m so sure many feel the same. My wish is that someday I’ll see her on the other side of my spiritual journey. Until then, I will continue to visually create, here on Earth.

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta is the author of “I Don’t Want to Be Like You” traditionally by Higher Ground and available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Want-Be-Like-You/dp/1726273261

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta is available for speaking engagements throughout the USA and overseas. Email for pricing and dates: maryannechristiano@gmail.com

Debut of Be YOUnique, The Anti-Bullying Channel

Published October 28, 2018 by Maryanne

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Left, Gina Bellando of Frames & Framers; right, Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta

With a little help from my friends, Be YOUnique, The Anti-Bullying Channel on YouTube recently made it’s debut.

I was fortunate to have friends Gina Bellando of Frames & Framers, Glen Jones of WFMU’s “Glen Jones Radio Show featuring X-Ray Burns,” and Joan Bunda of R.O.A.R. (Respect Our Animals’ Rights) all speak out AGAINST bullying! YAY!

Please tune in to my station, subscribe, and “like” the videos to get the message out, that Bullying is NOT COOL!

I’ll have updated videos once or twice a week with many special guests.

Here’s the link: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLq6J9MSvcjd-haQ30ycLWA?view_as=subscriber 

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta is the author of “I Don’t Want to Be Like You” traditionally by Higher Ground and available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Want-Be-Like-You/dp/1726273261

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta is available for speaking engagements throughout the USA and overseas. Email for pricing and dates: maryannechristiano@gmail.com

Rooting for a 5th Grader Who is Being Bullied!

Published October 20, 2018 by Maryanne

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Signing a copy of my latest book “I Don’t Want to Be Like You” for a 5th grader who is being bullied in school. It’s tragic what many children go through. No child should have to deal with it. Bullying is not cool and at times barbaric. “I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is available on Amazon. I share my experiences with being bullied in grade and high schools; and how I became empowered because of it and lived my happier ever after. I say to children being bullied, “Do not give up hope on yourselves. It DOES get better. And YOU can make a difference by continuing to be yourself!”

“I Don’t Want to Be Like You” is published traditionally by Higher Ground and available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Want-Be-Like-You/dp/1726273261

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta is available for speaking engagements throughout the USA and overseas. Email for pricing and dates: maryannechristiano@gmail.com

“Summit of Greatness 2018”

Published October 8, 2018 by Maryanne

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Summit of Greatness, Columbus Ohio, 2018

I was beyond ecstatic to attend the Lewis Howes’ Summit of Greatness in Columbus, Ohio. It truly was a life changing experience. (Next year’s is in September and I highly recommend going!) It was two days filled with motivational speakers, inspirational stories, and entertainment. But it was more than that. It’s one of those things that you truly had to be there. I slept so minimal because of all the excitement and the realization of life’s potential. (www.summitofgreatness.com) ‘

Here are some of the quotes that truly resonated with me over the course of the event.

“Self doubt is the killer of dreams.” — Lewis Howes

“You can’t be everything you want but you can be everything you are.” — Jay Shetty

“You’re not good enough yet. Failures do not define you.” — Lindsey Stirling

“These mountains you are carrying, you were only supposed to climb.” — Najwa Zebian

Shaun T. on what fear is: False Evidence Appearing Real

“When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you’ll be successful.” — Eric Thomas, the Hip Hop Preacher.

But  the story that truly stole my heart was that of Amy Purdy (http://amypurdy.com/). A woman who lost her legs at the age of 19 because of a form of bacterial meningitis. However, she went on to be a great success — a true Cinderella story!

I was also ecstatic to meet Mark Hymen, author of “Food: What the Heck Should I Eat?” I’m a health advocate myself, and his book inspired me to really get back on the right track. A year ago after getting a physical and blood work, finding out I was in great health at 55, I started slacking off and eating grains and sugary items again. My goal is to get back to paleo — or as Hymen says, “pagen” which is paleo and vegan because you should be eating a lot of vegetables!

In addition to the event, I was happy to explore the town of Columbus, Ohio. There was plenty to experience, like the Franklin Park Conservatory and Botanical Gardens. There were many great restaurants, but I have to give a big shout out to The Angry Baker which was vegetarian and played 1980s favorites like The Cocteau Twins and New Order.  I had these super carrot pancakes with cashew drizzle. They also had kombucha, which I can’t live without!

There’s a possibility I may return to the Summit of Greatness in 2019. Or then again, by then I may become so great I’ll be too busy to make it! You never know what life may bring. When I checked my emails this magical Monday morning, I was bombarded with good news. My favorite was from a publishing company asking me to write another book! Coincidental or greatness manifesting?

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta is an international author. Her latest book, “I Don’t Want to Be Like You” (about anti-bullying and empowerment) is available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Want-Be-Like-You/dp/1726273261

Maryanne is also available for motivational speaking events. For pricing and availability, contact her at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com 

 

‘I Don’t Want to Be Like You’ Published

Published October 2, 2018 by Maryanne

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I’m ecstatic to say my fourth book has been traditionally published by Higher Ground and is available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Want-Be-Like-You/dp/1726273261

It’s my true story growing up in the 1970s and having to deal with bullying–both physical and verbal–on a regular basis. This book is bold and honest. It’s also positive, written with no resentment and only growth.

Thanks to this book, I am now available for speaking engagements on anti-bullying in schools, conferences, libraries, or any groups. I will travel!

Contact me for pricing and availability at: maryannechristiano@gmail.com

Are You Making a Difference Today?

Published September 14, 2018 by Maryanne

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For the few who know how to read …
Is everyone following their dreams today? I am.
Is everyone working towards making the world a better place?
I am.
The biggest dream I have for 2019 is to get into the schools and speak on anti-bullying. I don’t say this verbally because you mention “bully” and people like to bring up how our president is the biggest bully. While I agree, I must also add that I feel neither party is 100 percent correct. Being an extremist and not finding flaw with your own party, going by a protocol is wrong.
You have to take your own steps to make the world a better place even if it means getting angry because that’s when you make a difference. Even if people laugh at you, STILL have your say! Laugh back at them because your views are just as important as everyone else. Especially if you are a woman, it’s your right.
Sharing hateful posts on Facebook that YOU DIDN’T WRITE isn’t going to do anything to change our country. Being right isn’t going to do anything to change our country. Calling someone a bully isn’t going to do anything to change our country. If you strongly believe in something, take a giant step towards doing it. You WILL be heard.
My two biggest inspirations are Rosa Parks and Victoria Woodhull. One changed the world, the other sure did try!
If you don’t know who they are, educate yourself about them. Be inspired and do your part. Especially if you are a woman! Being silent is not a good thing. If you’re shy and quiet, work towards having a bigger mouth, you CAN make a difference.

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta is the author of the memoir “I Don’t Want to Be Like You” which is about her experiences growing up being bullied. She now is putting adult bullies in their places! Links to the book are here: 

HGBM Store:  https://highergroundbooksandmedia.com/product/i-dont-want-to-be-like-you

Amazon:  https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Want-Be-Like-You/dp/1726273261/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1536446696&sr=8-2&keywords=maryanne+christiano+mistretta

Kindle:  https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07H6H4CY1/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1536446756&sr=8-1&keywords=maryanne+christiano+mistretta+kindle