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Interview with Sibel Surrey: Health & Beauty Over 40

Published November 29, 2016 by Maryanne

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Sibel Surrey is a long-time friend of mine. We met in the 1980s when she was just a teenager and I was in my early 20s. We always had so much fun, whether it was dancing in nightclubs, going to the beach, or simply chatting with my grandmother, who adored Sibel!

It was my honor, and pleasure, to catch up with Sibel recently via telephone and chat about our lives. She also agreed to be interviewed for this blog, regarding healthy living and beauty over 40.

The 48-year-old beauty lives on the east coast of Florida. When she’s not working on her home with her longtime partner, she goes to the inlet. One of the beaches Sibel enjoys is Wabasso. “I love nature,” she said.”Basically being outdoors and being around anything that’s considered natural … the sand at my feet, the ocean water touching my toes, that’s so very me.”

After living in California for 22 years and then moving to Florida, where the sun is much stronger, it’s major for Sibel to use sunscreen — in fact, she recommends it for any woman, no matter where they live. “It’s very, very important,” she said.

When it comes to a beauty routine, readers will be surprised at Sibel’s unconventional skin care regimen. “What I use,” she said, and paused before adding, “And I get compliments on my skin all the time …” She giggled and paused again. Then said, “A dermatologist would not recommend this; it works for me … for years … Ivory Soap. I’ve been using it since my teen years.”

Sibel also uses Butcher Boy Coconut Oil. “It’s got no GMOs,” she said. “One hundred percent pure refined coconut oil. I use that as a conditioner for my hair when I want a deep condition. I also use it when I’m coloring or bleaching my hair.”

She continued, “There’s so many uses for coconut oil. I take a spoonful when I have digestive issues. It lubricates your intestinal tract. I learned this when I worked at a chiropractic wellness center.”

Sibel also loves green tea. “It’s a fantastic antioxidant,” she said, adding, “Yogi teas are phenomenal.”

Not big on fast food, Sibel prepares her own food. She said, “As you get older, your system doesn’t tolerate it [fast food]. I don’t like anything with preservatives.”

She favors a Portuguese soup made of chicken, kale, and potatoes. “You can use any kind of sausage. You can exchange chicken for vegetable broth if you’re a vegan,” she said. “It’s fantastic.”

Roused by Fred Astaire’s dance moves, Sibel prefers dancing to going to the gym. “I have never gone to the gym and I don’t intend to,” she said, adding, “I say that with respect for people who do. Dancing gives you the freedom and the option to do what you want without restrictions. Fred Astaire drew freely from tap and jazz.”

Sibel also loves bike riding. She said, “You’re able to be free and outdoors. The confined places don’t work for me. I’m a very ‘outdoor’ person.”

In the world of beauty, it’s Marilyn Monroe, first, who inspires Sibel. “I love Marilyn Monroe,” she  said. “She is an iconic figure. She’s sort of like the sexy girl next door. She had a very natural way about her. It might have been her persona, but her persona was authentic.”

And second is Raquel Welch. “She’s seventy-six years old and unbelievably gorgeous,” Sibel said. “She’s physically fit; she’s very classy.”

sibel-2Sibel and pet, Dingo

When Sibel first moved to Florida, from California, she volunteered for the Humane Society, though not directly involved with the animals. It was there she found Dingo, an Australian Sheep Dog. “He’s overweight and older. It was hard to adopt him, so I took him,” she said. “All animals are highly intelligent, especially dogs and cats. Your domesticated ones, without a doubt, are like having children.”

When it comes to loving animals, Sibel absolutely sees the beauty connection. “I think because they make you happy and you love them,” she said. “I think when you’re happy inside, your beauty shows on the exterior.”

With four dogs in her life, Sibel’s future plans include buying more land where she could have even more animals. She said, “I can adopt more animals that are homeless.”

For more about Sibel, follow her Twitter page at: https://twitter.com/Sibellasurrey

Supermarket Bullying Should Be Treated as a Crime!

Published November 21, 2016 by Maryanne

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Yesterday should have been a nice day. In the afternoon I went to a Buddhist meditation, and at night my husband was taking me out to dinner. In-between I had to pick up a few items at Trader Joe’s. My husband forewarned me, “This is Thanksgiving week and it’s going to be mobbed.”

Crowds never bothered me. I’ve been going to concerts since I was a teenager. As a young punk rocker, I got banged, pushed against the stage, and ended up with battle scars. It was all part of the fun.

But shopping in a grocery store, as a middle-aged woman, should not be punk rock. It should be a pleasant experience. From my 30s onward, I had so many fights with inconsiderate, ignorant people who push their cart into you, without saying, “Excuse me” or even a mere “I’m sorry.”

Listen bitches — for once and for all,  I have every right to shop in a supermarket — even a crowded one. You are no better than me, or anyone else. Just because I’m a nice, smiling person (some say “too nice”) it shouldn’t mean that I am a target for assholes. Put on your big girl pants and learn to have manners — and patience! Wait your fucking turn. Am I too slow for you? I’m sorry, but I READ labels. I want to know my produce is local and/or organic. It’s imperative that I know how much sugar and carbs are in my frozen meals. Diabetes runs in my family and I have to be careful. If that’s not enough to give you an ounce of compassion, you’re a real loser!

I’ve boycotted places like Whole Foods, and now Trader Joe’s, for not having proper security in their stores. And I will continue to do so until I feel SAFE shopping in these places again.

Yesterday I was pushed TWICE at the Trader Joe’s in Millburn, New Jersey. Once by a woman much younger; and once by a woman much older.

Let me ask you, ladies (make that “ladies?” with a question mark because being so damn rude doesn’t give you the title of “lady” — you’re more like a beast! In fact, the Pit bulls next store at the Pet Smart were way better behaved than both of you!) … what makes you so much better than me that gives you the “right” to push me out of your way? HUH?

I’d love an answer, but I’m sure most of the people reading this are polite people because assholes never seek things to read that would make them a better person. Because if they did, the world would be a better place to live in. And it’s not.

Bullying over food? Imagine that.

You’re shopping in a middle to way-upper class area. There is enough food for everyone. Oh, I forget, you’re busy. Let me school you on something, bitch, EVERYONE is busy! That’s the kind of world we live in. A busy, busy, busy world.

So, to the very next person who pushes me in a supermarket, I’m going to call the management — or better yet, the cops — and have your sorry ass escorted out of the store. Putting your hand on another person to move her out of YOUR way is a violation! And I will not try to correct you anymore. Whoever raised you raised a nasty, selfish, ignorant person — and you WILL be stopped. Instead of taking your crap, I’m going as high as I can go, to get this selfish behavior stopped.

Is this what we are teaching our children? That it’s okay to put your hands on people, to push people, and to psychologically upset other people, just so YOU can be first in this unpolite me-me-me world?

Sorry, not on my time. Nasty bitches, beware, you are so over!

Please sign petition to Corey Booker! Women should feel safe shopping for groceries! https://www.change.org/p/corey-booker-supermarket-bullying-should-be-treated-as-a-crime

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta is an author and public speaker. Her first book is “On the Guest List: Adventures of a Music Journalist” and deals with anti-bullying. Available on Amazon, in paperback only: https://www.amazon.com/Guest-List-Adventures-Music-Journalist/dp/162903908X

Friends

Published November 20, 2016 by Maryanne

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With my friend Joan (left). 

“The greatest gift in life is friendship, and I have received it.” — Hubert H. Humphrey 

In New Jersey, when the weather is getting colder and the days shorter, there’s nothing like having a night out with great friends and our hubbies to warm the spirit.

It’s always nice to see our friends Joan and Peter, have a bite, some drinks, laughs and great conversation.

Make a play date with a friend today!

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From left, Peter & Joan, Me & Dennis ❤ 

The Gypsy Smiled Chapter 6

Published November 13, 2016 by Maryanne

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I’m incredibly psyched that my story “The Gypsy Smiled” — inspired by the music of Lou Christie — won a spot on Noise Medium!

This music fiction story was featured, every Sunday, over the last six weeks. It’s the story of a young girl trying to make it in the music business in the early 1990s.

Hope you enjoy the very last chapter — Chapter 6 “Christmas in New York”: https://noisemedium.com/2016/11/gypsy-smiled-christmas-new-york-6/

Simple Mills, My Favorite Healthy Cracker

Published November 7, 2016 by Maryanne

sam_1576Simple Mills Crackers go great with salsa! 

Since I discovered Simple Mills crackers a short time ago, I can’t stop raving about them. They are all natural, no GMOS, paleo-inspired — and delicious!

As a health nut, crackers were the last thing I’d eat. For a long time during my paleo inspired lifestyle I’d throw it to the wind on Sundays when I’d go for Mexican with my husband. But when I’m more paleo than not, I honestly feel better. So now, I can’t have Mexican food unless I have my Simple Mills crackers.

When I dip Simple Mills crackers into my salsa, I don’t feel so bloated.

I also use them to dip into guacamole or put them in organic chicken broth.

They come in different flavors but the sundried tomato and basil is my favorite.

For more information on Simple Mills, visit: http://www.simplemills.com/

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta is a public speaker, very much into health. She currently writes for Vitamin Retailer Magazine. To contact Maryanne for lectures, email: maryannechristiano@gmail.com 

Not My Little Darlings!!!

Published November 6, 2016 by Maryanne

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UGLY = Delusional Moms and their Unruly Brats

Yesterday was a most gorgeous autumn day in New Jersey. I was so psyched I was going to meet a very good friend for lunch.

I had to make a quick stop in a local store. As I made my way to the cash register, a child, about 9-years-old, old enough to know better, pushed me. I said nothing — until her older sister, about 12 pushed me.

I said, politely, “Girls, you don’t push people, you say, ‘Excuse me.'”

They both gave me ugly dirty looks.

Then, the crazy psycho mother appeared out of nowhere — a 5’11” beast, all red-faced and bulging eyes. She screamed at me, “DO NOT YELL AT MY DAUGHTERS!”

I said, politely, “I did not yell at them. I just said to say, ‘Excuse me’ and not push people.”

Then, again, she screamed, “DO NOT YELL AT MY DAUGHTER!” This time she was pointing her fat finger in my face. At 5’3″ and under 125 pounds, I was terrified this crazy bitch was going to attack me.

She continued, “THEY ARE LITTLE GIRLS!!!!!” (Uh, no, they are not “little girls” — little girls mean 2, 3, 4, 5 — not 8, 9, 10, 11, 12! They were prancing around the store with pony tails and ombre-colored hair — that is well beyond the “little girl” stage, me-thinks! They were just spoiled silly and didn’t want anyone to get in their way — they wanted what they wanted NOW. So typical of how many children today are raised. Ew, just EW!)

But you can’t argue with bat shit crazy. I simply said, “That’s it, I’m calling the cops.”

I left my purchase at the register, left that store, walked into another store and said to the cashier, “Get the cops on the phone.”

A cop soon came, and a male customer came out of the first store to defend me — he saw all that went down. He told the cop that the lunatic over-reacted — and that she was a lot bigger than I was.

Of course the cop couldn’t do anything because the woman didn’t attack me — thank God, thank Buddha, thank the universe. Though somewhere along the line, there needs to be a law about people pointing their fat fingers in your face; as that definitely says “threat” to me!

When I went back to the store to pay for my purchase, the cashier was saying how crazy that woman was. I said, “Yes, it’s not like her children were babies, they should have known better.”

I am not a mother but I am no stranger to well-behaved children. I used to babysit a little girl named Claire, when she was 8, until she was 9. I’ve been to many stores with her, and she never pushed adults. Not once did I have to discipline that child in public. And on the rare occasions I did have to be an adult and tell her what to do — she listened! And her parents were always respectful of my judgement. NEVER, EVER a problem!

So shame on that parent — or any parent — with that sort of attitude that their little darlings can do no wrong. It is never right to have your kids running through a store like it’s a playground– and pushing people like they are a piece of garbage.

So, while I was checking out, a woman standing next to me totally got it. She said, “I told my 23-year-old son, ‘Don’t let me be a disciplinary grandmother when you have kids. Bring your children up with respect — don’t let me do it for you!'”

Right on!

Parents definitely need to take responsibility for the wrong-doings of their little brats. Just suck it up — your child is not perfect! Be a parent to your kids and do the right thing. And if that is your energy on a beautiful Saturday afternoon, I feel very sorry for you — and the future of your children.

Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta is the author of “On the Guest List: Adventures of a Music Journalist” available on Amazon in paperback version only: https://www.amazon.com/Guest-List-Adventures-Music-Journalist/dp/162903908X